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my son has possible aspergers

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my thirteen year old son was diagnosed with adhd a few year ago, and he went to see a counsellor a few months ago with chahms. The counsellor suggested he may be on the autistic spectrum. I suggested it ti his paediatrician who fobbed me off., My son said to me yesterday that he thinks he may have aspergers, I asked why and he said that he keeps saying the wrong things to people and offending them and ends up falling out with them, although he has lots of friends. I said that he should just treat people how he woudl want to eb treated and he said that that is difficult because he doesnt see what he has said as being wrong. Should i press for a diagnosis with paediatrican and also how do i help him with these social skills, its breaking my heart.

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Hello, BW, and welcome to the forum. From what you say about your son not realising what he says is wrong, it suggests that his 'theory of mind' is impaired - which sounds as though he could have Asperger's. Has he (and have you), checked all the traits,for there are many other signs to look for. The fact that he has lots of friends is unusual though, for most of us find it difficult to keep many friends and become stressed in groups of people.

 

I know most children are diagnosed for AS by paediatricians, but really if possible they should all see psychiatrists who specialise in autism - especially older children. Social skills often improve naturally over time, as they did with me, but generally we're never very comfortable over interacting with our neurotypical peers. I don't see this as a great problem though, for we have many special characteristics and talents that make up for it. If he is diagnosed with AS, he should try to find a local support group and would be made very welcome.

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Hello BW and welcome to the forum

 

Can your sons needs be met by saying they are part of his ADHD? Sometimes adaptations for ADHD folk can in turn help with their autism as well.

 

Do you have a NAS parents group in your area? Or some sort of autism resource centre?

 

If you edit your profile to show your location (or PM me off list if you prefer) i can see what i can find in your area.

 

I have found by thinking of myself as a foreigner in my own country helpful in explaining autism to people. What would you teach someone who had never come to the UK before?

 

There are a few books which can help teenagers and beyond in coping with their aspergers/autism

 

"freaks geeks and asperger syndrome" by luke jackson

"aspects of asperger syndrome success in the teens and twenties" by Alex Miller and Maude Brown

"multicoloured mayhem" by Jackqui Jackson (luke jacksons mum) (mentions ADHD and autism)

"what is asperger syndrome and how will it affect me"

"thats the way i think" (mentions ADHD and autism)

 

There are also a variety of autism friendly spaces which you could try with your son. Bearing in mind 'autism friendly' and 'your sons name friendly' can be different things. 1 idea is to attend an autism friendly cinema viewing and see if you bump into anyone else who can help in your area.

 

There is no nationalised diagnostic route in the UK (although there should be).

 

Hope ive helped rather than overloaded you.

 

 

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Hello BW and welcome to the forum

 

Can your sons needs be met by saying they are part of his ADHD? Sometimes adaptations for ADHD folk can in turn help with their autism as well.

 

Do you have a NAS parents group in your area? Or some sort of autism resource centre?

 

If you edit your profile to show your location (or PM me off list if you prefer) i can see what i can find in your area.

 

I have found by thinking of myself as a foreigner in my own country helpful in explaining autism to people. What would you teach someone who had never come to the UK before?

 

There are a few books which can help teenagers and beyond in coping with their aspergers/autism

 

"freaks geeks and asperger syndrome" by luke jackson

"aspects of asperger syndrome success in the teens and twenties" by Alex Miller and Maude Brown

"multicoloured mayhem" by Jackqui Jackson (luke jacksons mum) (mentions ADHD and autism)

"what is asperger syndrome and how will it affect me"

"thats the way i think" (mentions ADHD and autism)

 

There are also a variety of autism friendly spaces which you could try with your son. Bearing in mind 'autism friendly' and 'your sons name friendly' can be different things. 1 idea is to attend an autism friendly cinema viewing and see if you bump into anyone else who can help in your area.

 

There is no nationalised diagnostic route in the UK (although there should be).

 

Hope ive helped rather than overloaded you.

 

 

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