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I am finished with support workers, despite requiring their help!

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Yeah. I have giving up on them due to the treachery with Autism Initiatives. I've just gotten out of jail for a whopping fourth time, too.


The keys on my mother's laptop are very sticky, so apologies if this posting is a bit of a mess.


Anyway, I had to be in court on 15 September, but I never went. It was because I was left feeling depressed after finding out my former key worker left that agency which supported me from 2008 to 2014 after I quit my support. Ultimately, all this anguish I went through was over Sara and Joanna no longer working with me, but it all amounted to zero in the end. Ending my support was a decision I made due to their deceptive actions, and the court forbid me to access my flat at the supported accommodation the company has, and I was eventually coaxed to sign away the tenancy earlier this year. You cannot trust this company. And because the court favored them, it gave them more and more reasons to screw me over.


Apart from that, the police come 5 days before my court date regarding something that occurred in May, and I ran off before they could detain me. That unexpected visit along with my supervisor trying to perhaps land me in hot water with a court report pretty much killed my desire to go. Besides, I was afraid to go for obvious reasons.


As to how I got to be in court recently: I was requiring a medical form from my GP. I have no idea why they don't just keep paying in my money like before, where signing forms was not needed. But anyway, I went there, right? Then I just got shafted. Obviously the fuzz had put the word out. The surgery got the cops to show up after I arrived. There was 4, maybe 5 officers.


The next day in court, I was opposed bail for one incident but granted bail for 2 other charges. I'd also broken my curfew due to the police scaring me off. I am supposed to be indoors after 9 PM, but they would have kept coming back like herpes to arrest me over that older incident, so I went to hang around in a dell past the western area of Edinburgh. Yeah. It was a really annoying situation and it was hard to get any rest. I'd been at my sister's a lot but then I got kind of worried they'd show up.


Just before I was taken to the dock, I was subjected to an assault in one of the holding cells. All I did was let it slip I was previously on protection, then this guy assumed I was a "beast" and kicked me full force in my eye. And I wear glasses. They got bent. I'm luckily able to say I was not blinded in that eye. The police come to deal with the matter and could not really do anything about him even though I think they believe I was attacked. They need evidence. The usual nonsense. The other men in the cell refused to confess he attacked me.


Luckily, I was only remanded in jail for 3 days. It was not a pleasant 3 days, however. They put me (probably on purpose) in a cell with this hyper guy. He kept talking about 'secret coding' and annoyed me all the time. He put this buttery stuff on my glasses, threatened to set me ablaze, kept stabbing me with pens, drew obscenities on me, vandalized my duvet and ate my food. Yeah, he was a proper jerk. He went to court hours before I got bailed last Monday. I'd been worried that I was going to be fully committed again. Usually that is what happens when you are remanded for a week. You go back up in front of a panel and the procurator fiscal has you fully committed, so being bailed between hearings is not possible.


I contacted The Action Group about going to them for support, but they said that since I have not had any type of support in a year, I would probably need to be assessed again. Plus, there was a bank account I used before to pay invoices and that would have to be set up again. To tell you the truth, I am so disheartened by what Autism Initiatives put me through that I'm thinking of trying to get my story published in the media.


The first time I was jailed was in July of last year, for 2 weeks. I was opposed bail following 2 more arrests (for apologizing on Facebook) and was in jail for another 17 days in September of 2014 and I was assaulted in my cell. This year, they fully committed me pending a trial for the same thing (me largely apologizing) and I was stuck in prison for months. They also carted me off to Glasgow and I spent the majority of my time there with a couple of paedophiles, one of whom was this incredibly cheeky younger guy from England. I'd been on my own for weeks until a really lovely older man come in. In a few weeks thereafter, I was bailed on 18 August. But really here - I went through all this pain just because I wanted redemption with my beloved ex support personnel.


When I occasionally call Number 6 in Edinburgh, they all just act stupid and do not care that I was jailed. I advise others not to trust caregivers. They would much quicker sell you down the river than give you the help you need.


Peter.

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All very interesting, Peter. You should write a book. Everyone says I should too.

Isn't our system caring! It goes about things in completely the wrong way. I too am having difficulties with support and I'm beginning to think that we should all be supporting one another in our communities, for the paid lackeys (who don't see the world as we do) are next to useless. We live in a society run by neurotypicals, and we make convenient scapegoats for them and their mistakes.

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Its certainly sounds like you've been through the wars recently with prison and other stuff. I know this probably isn't what you want to hear but you need to take more responsibility for your actions. Stop stalking your support workers, Its unhealthy having obsessive feelings towards them. I know this can stem from being on the ASD spectrum but I think you really need some professional help to channel your obsessions.

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Well, I tried to post a longer reply to you, but when I went to the 'More Reply Options' bit below, it went all messed up and all my text was lost.

 

Anyway, as to what you wrote, I reckon it's half their fault, and half my fault for how I reacted to their lying. The agency never even attempted to handle things right, so it got progressively worse as it was hard to accept they were suddenly in my life then not part of it. Well, they did a lot of other things that were deceitful, like when this Patrick pretended he knew my then girlfriend, Laura. Although I guess if i.e a guy sent me nasty emails pretending he knew my ex, that is not the fault of the agency as a whole, yet they were made aware of it and never intervened when they by law needed to look into what he was accused of doing. But yes, they were never trustworthy people. That is why I am uncertain about going to another company for support.

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I think this is becoming a vicious circle for you because you've been emotionally hurt by your support workers and you've had no closure, I think every attempt that you've had to try and rekindle these relationships have been met with hostility and the police arresting you which becomes a self fulfilled prophecy.

 

I think it puts you in a very vulnerable position that you still have feeling for these support workers because realistically what would you do if you bumped into one of them in the street, start a conversation? You could be arrested and jailed again

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You're right. It is unhealthy. I did have a major crush on these two women, but they overreacted. What if they had just gotten a senior to talk to me? Could that have settled any animosity? The split between us was forced, and therefore not amicable. They were not like all the other nice workers (male and female) that left on good terms with me after their time at the agency had ended.

 

What these seniors did was the polar opposite of what trustworthy caregivers should have did. They even had the nerve to say they were still my workers after they were removed from my team. Of course, I confronted them over my suspicions about firstly Joanna then Sara, and they continued to lie. Some people on the autism website Wrong Planet actually think it was their professional duty to mislead me, for their own safety. But I disagree. Sara was my key worker. Joanna was one of my support workers. While they have no obligation to me as people, they should have understood I was hurting from what Laura did to me and yes, had their bosses pull me aside to explain the rules more clearly and had I scared them again, that would have been grounds for their removal. In other words, they should have giving me a fair chance and just reported me had something similar occurred again. They never did this. Rather, they had their bosses cut the rope right away and I think they had a really hard time telling me the brutal truth. Yet if I messed up in response to their lies, they tried to use my behavior as to why they were not working with me, so I was baited to blow up. That is very cold. It is the same thing as manipulation. That is not counting all the times they got the police, then they would claim they did not know they searched for me or arrested me afterwards.

 

I've got no idea what Robert said to Sara (when he was a grass way back) and sure, maybe he had to speak up as it is his job to inform his colleagues about a breach of the boundaries, but it just made her totally turn against me. Sara was the nicest lady when we first worked together, and this was in 2013. She started working there in 2012 and missed the Laura stuff completely, although she was copied into it later on. As support workers, they should not have acted in this manner. They should receive better training too.

 

I was lonely and unable to get another girlfriend. I could not even get laid. I wasted hundreds of pounds on escorts, and they threatened to throw me out if I confessed any had been in my flat. It never really fulfilled my sexual desires. Laura was also someone I obsessed over for years, after we met in 2005. Then all she did when I found her was use me for my benefits.

 

Just to prove how deceptive they are, they said no pets were allowed at the accommodation, yet two former neighbors of mine who are women, both had cats. So while I was banned from that flat / street, I was told they had decided to allow pets provided you could show you could care for a pet. That was just wonderful news. Why would that apply to me when I was not there any longer? It was like deliberate torture. Plus, I called The TLC Trust (a sexual rights advocacy group) and they changed their tune about me in a heartbeat using escorts. However, I was also not at the flat at the time. Deep down, they just wanted to be control freaks and define my whole life for me. By speaking my mind, I was "disrupting" the flow of things, at least in their view. So anybody like that is a nuisance and they got rid of me swiftly.

 

Also, I was telling the truth about that Patrick guy as well. He really did create a false name and use Gumtree to send me abusive emails over Laura and other subjects, like 80's music. However, no one really cared that he was doing this despite me bringing it up. That guy should never have been allowed to work there. It is highly inappropriate for a caregiver to play games with people like myself, who require support.

 

Charlie, what would you have done if Patrick had did that to you?

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Plus in jail, I said to that guy in my cell I was bi-curious and that I had been with a TS person once. He called me a bum boxer and referred to me as being gay. But yeah, so what? That is basically subjecting me to discrimination.

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I'll be honest with you. I've been in Supported Living close on five years and my observations are that Supported Living placements are all about the money and not very person centred like they want people to believe, basically its a gravy train and they cherry pick the best clients for the easy money, anybody difficult they get rid off. The Support Workers are paid the very basic minimum wage when the Care company gets £16 an hour to support the client. You pay peanuts you get monkeys and their are quite a few monkeys working for this company. Complaints about staff too management aren't dealt with because they can't lose the staff because they have nobody to replace them with so staff get away with all sorts.

 

I think you've been processed and spat out by the establishment and left to rot. What social services team was you under prier to going into that supported living complex? What help did you get from them the very first time you where facing prison time? Have you got any Psychiatric diagnoses, I assume the courts wanted a full Psychiatric report doing when you first/secondly got sentenced? Sorry if its intrusive, it just helps with the bigger picture.

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It was Autism Initiatives who supported me so I jumped at the chance to move in there. And no. Nobody from that company helped me in jail at all and all they did was admit they could have handled things better. Yeah. Muppets.

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