momofthree

Hi Thank you for your posts. L doesn't get any support in school other than a time out card and he is excused homework. I was told by the SENCO because he is very bright he can't be statemented and will not be entitled to one to one. I have suggested to L that he changes to a school were people have ADD/ASD but he flatly refused. Today he suprised me and managed a full day in school, the first in ages. He didn't come in until 6 because he had been to a friends. L said he had a kind of flashback when he was walking home, to when he was very depressed and walking home from school when a car horn sounded and it made him jump and he wanted to cry. He says he doesn't feel like that now. He says school makes him so tired because there is so much to remember.

Hi, Just joined and looking forward to being able to share thoughts and difficulties with others. My son is 13 and for the past two years we have been trying to get some help support and understanding. He had no developmental problems at all he walked at 12 months and talked soon after (hasn't stopped since LOL). L attended main stream junior school without achieving anything spectacular and achieved average marks all through including his SATS. I used to feel sorry for him as he has a very clever and sporty older brother who seemed to be the best at everything and although L played football he wasn't very good at it. I used to get called into school from time to time when I was picking him up because he was being silly, disrupting the rest of the class, not getting on with his work. One teacher used to keep an egg timer on his desk to keep him on task, and in Year 6 the teacher used to sit at his table to keep him working. I should mention that the school was very small with only 15 in his class. When he came home from school L would be happy to sit and watch TV or play with a friend if he invited one home and wasn't any trouble at all. L started High School and how all our lives changed. It started with him getting detentions all the time (especially in Maths lessons), for being silly and disruptive, he always had a tendency to lose things now it was ten times worse, he also used to say phrases from the Simpsons or other cartoon programmes or song lyrics when he was excited (before Christmas or birthdays) now that was increasing and he said sometimes in lessons he wanted to shout things out or mimic the teacher. I took him to the GP who simply told him off for being silly and I should start punishing him at home by not allowing him to play on the PC. The behaviour in school got no better and he was saying that he had no friends in his new school and he hated it. I took him back to the GP and we were referred to a CAMHS team were the Pediatrician said he had AS but the Consultant Psych said no but he had an ASD. Two years down the line I have a 13 year old son on anti depressants, we have had a second opinion they say he is Aspergery with possible High IQ ADD (no hyperactivity). My son refuses to go to the CAMHS team as they don't make any difference to the way he feels. They refuse to believe that he has ADD and every time I find information about ADD that is so like my son, they pooh pooh it as if I have no idea of what I' m talking about. He now acts in a silly immature way, I'd compare him to Rick Mayall or John Cleese, he chews his clothes, he has difficulty getting to sleep then sleeps like he's dead and is impossible to wake. When he does go into school he says its pointless because he only gets 6 minutes education out of 6.5 hours (only said this after Ed Psych told him how clever he is and an IQ 7 points short of being a genius). Neither him or I could believe it, after all this boy never got a single piece of work on the wall in junior school and nothing in any school reports to suggest that he was this bright. L never reads or writes anything he seems to have a real problem getting his thoughts from his head down onto paper or PC. L loves his PC and playing strategy type reality games, I suppose you could say that was his obsession, although if a friend called to go out, he would be out like a shot, and he doesn't feel the need to talk about the game all the time. I would say we have more of a problem in him not being interested in anything and the feeling he says is tiredness but I think its because he isn't stimulated by anything other than the PC or humour. Sometimes I rack my brains thinking of something to talk about to divert him from acting so silly and it usually works for a few minutes anyway. I am so sorry to go on and on. But I feel helpless, my family think I'M OBSESSED with all this, but what can you do when a 13 year old boy refuses to go to school and offers of home tuition or moving to a new school. He was supposed to start attending 2 half days which he did for a week but that went off the rails as well. Today he has gone into school for half a day, went to pick him up at lunch time and he asked could he stay all day as he hardly gets to see his friends.