Catbells

mmmm. not sure that i agree with you there. ppl stay in marriages for all sorts of reasons. doesnt make the relationship wonderful. x

there are just so many pointers. the more i think on it. the more things come to mind. and sometimes i find it so hard to be patient. his echolalia gets to me every time. something so small and yet it irritates the life out of me. I work as a Teaching Assistant in a primary school and am really patient with the children i support there. i come home and that all goes out of the window. When we go for walks together or with the dog i can never keep up with him. he's 6 ft 3 - long legs! and his stride is probably twice mine. He cant understand that he needs to walk slower. so many times when we try and have a conversation about 'us' - he'll turn round and say 'what do you want me to say?' like he has absolutely no idea what i'm talking about and how he feels. i dont want him to say what i want him to say...i want him to express himself and he obviously cant go there can he? do you think these come across as indicators? and yet he's just re built the bathroom taking it down to the lath and plaster and he's made a super job of it. i get and feel so frustrated. reading this article a couple of weeks ago it felt like someone had given me the key. now - i just wonder what to do with it all. feel even more isolated than i did b4. x

...which might help me if i were to commit them to 'paper'. Read this article about AS and it hit home that it could have been written about my husband. Have known him for 22 years. and over that time he has found it nigh on impossible to express his thoughts and feelings about anything. Always comes back to him saying 'i don't know'. these seem to be the 3 little words in our marriage. and whcih down the years has left me feeling isolated, abandoned, frustrated, lonely to name but a few. He cant do small talk, or meet ppl in big groups. even family get togethers where he knows ppl he finds really difficult. these days he puts his foot down and opts out. finds it impossible to do the weekly shop on his own,. just says that there are plenty of things i cant do. writes in caps. always found that strange. met me via a dating agency. works in computers. they dont tend to talk back! cant take the initiative - certainly at home. ever...apart from IT decisions leaves the rest to me. we never reminsice about things. he never 'visits's situations again. done and dusted the first time. is unable to empathise, sees things in black and white. and so it goes on. i've no idea whether he has AS. not sure of anything anymore. i thought the article i read offered explanations. it made sense. like the penny dropping. but i dont know where to go from here. contqacted the NAS and they're going to send some info re broaching the whole subject with him just if i ever decide to go down that route. i feel overwhelmed. either close to tears or numb. thanks for taking the time to read this. x

Hello! i'm not sure whether i really belong here or not... I read a couple of articles iabout AS in various newspapers over the past week. And they could have been written about my husband. Explains alot. but in explaining also raises more questions... so i've come here in an attempt to find out more. Catbells x