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Hi, I have a 15 year old who has just been diagnosed, he has not been to school for nearly 3 years although he now goes into school if I am lucky for an hour a day to be tutored. I am at the end of my tether as i try to keep to a routine on a school morning but he is getting worse and every morning has a reason as to why he can't get up, headache, stomache ache, leg ache and back ache, after a couple of hours shouting he finally showers and is pretty much ok for the rest of the day, apart from when I have to fight to get him to school.. He is 16 in May and I am really worried about what is going to happen to him. Before he dropped out of school with anxiety etc he was an A* pupil and I feel he is wasting his talents. I am in tears most days as I am stuck at home with him and my life is passing by, as he wont go on holidays or anything. We are lucky enough to be in the position of having the money to do anything we want to but our son is stopping us. I feel so alone as i don't know of anyone in the same situation.

CaMHS have been very good to us and even when he won't see them they come to the house to speak to me. As you say everything is small steps even though some days it seems as though we are back to square one.

Thank you so much for that, at last someone who understands. My son is also on the gifted and talented register, the school have been very good so far but the few hours that george has spent in school, although he enjoys it, because he has been out for so long he really doesn't know how to behave. I will look into young minds as I have not heard about them My son has also just built a computer as that is a big interest to him. We have a psychologist that comes to the house and depending on what mood George is in he doesn't always speak to him but I find it helpful to talk to him as he puts thing into perspective for me and explains that some things are just normal for him. We live in a very small village and two boys here go to the same school and they still come round for him and sometimes he goes out with them but not usually any further than the next village which is a mile away. Does your son have OCD tendancies when he is stressed? My son spends a lot of time in the bathroom and always bathing or showering. Thank you for your reply

Hi I am new to this site, I have a 14 year old son who has yet to be diagnosed but his psychologist is almost certain he has Aspergers. He has not been to school for over 18 months, we had an LEA tutor for a while but he stopped seeing him and now my 24 year old daughter tutors with the help of his school. In November he started to attend school just for the odd lesson her and there but at least it was a step forward, but his sister had Uni deadlines and the teacher that was helping at school was off sick and so he stopped going. We are now into a new term at school and I can't even get him out of bed in a morning without literally dragging him. I keep him to a school day even though he is at home otherwise he would just stay in bed. I don't know any other parent that is going through this and I am starting to feel that I really can't cope any longer, do I just leave him to get on with it or still keep pushing him even though we are both upset. I would love it if there is someone that could help. The school are very good and going at his pace and CAMHS are also very good. He is taking fluoxetine which has helped with his OCD and mood. Thanks