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    I found myself in a similar situation a few years back. I decided to invite all the 'new friends' and booked a magician who came to the house. The kids arrived, the magician did his show, (birthday boy as star of the show) the magician left, the kids had some food, their parents picked them up and they all went home with a party bag. Nothing could be easier :whistle:

     

    Just a suggestion!

     

    Lauren :D

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    Hi Lizzie, I don't have any answers but do have loads of sympathy and understanding. My AS son is 11 and we really are, with the best will in the world to be otherwise, very much controlled by how he likes things to be. It started with anxiety problems when he was younger, and now he doesn't want to do anything other than sit in front of his computer or play station. I can give you some hope though in that as they get older (and I'm really beginning to see this with my son) you can discuss these things openly with them and they gain insight in to how Aspergers Syndrome has an affect on their attitudes and reactions in comparison to others. He now is willing to accept that he needs fresh air, exercise and a break from technology. He isn't any more adventurous (though I'm praying he will get there eventually) but he is much more cooperative when we want to go some where or do something as a family. It isn't perfect, he still grumbles constantly on these occasions, but when I compare him to what he was like at the age your son is there is a significant improvement. Hope some of this helps in any way.

     

    Lauren

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    Viper, I'm sure you've gone down every avenue but when I was reading your post I was thinking back to my youngest (I only just got him out of nappies in time to start school). One of the reasons why he wouldn't poo on the toilet was that he suffered from constipation which made it very painful for him to poo. He would hang on to it for hours and get increasingly panicky as the time grew for when he couldn't hold off any longer. He would then bury his head in my lap and cry and wail while I rubbed his back while he went. It's just a thought and a sharing of experience, but thought it may possibly be a contributing factor with your litte one.

     

    Lauren

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    Hi forbsay ..... big hug to you.... sometimes it feels like the sky is going to fall down but really you're not alone.... not here anyway.

     

    The lumps behind your daughter's ears will be most certainly related to a cold or something (both my son and daughter have had them... they can take more than a year to go away)... don't worry about that.

     

    Just know that all kids, but especially those with ASD take a while to adapt to school and to learn what behaviour is acceptable (some of them take years!.

     

    Lauren XxX

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    MrsQ the Goblet of Fire is supposed to be released in November. My son told me this though I'm not sure where he heard it!

     

    I think Snape will turn out to be a good egg. I think his promise to Dumbledore that he would protect Harry's life no matter what is the answer to why he killed him. I think he and Dumbledore knew that to protect Harry then there would be major sacrifices. (just my theory). I also think we'll find that Harry and Snape are related, I'm not sure how or why but it wouldn't surprise me.

     

    Can't wait for book 7. No doubt we'll be hanging on for a couple of years at least though.

     

     

    Lauren

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    Motherinneed, I'm not an expert (well not in the true sense of the word) but one of my sons has swollen adenoids which cause him nasal problems like nose bleeds etc. He doesn't have sneezing fits but I do know that it can be a symptom of swollen adenoids. Also the blocked nostril is another sign that the adenoids may be swollen.

     

    Lauren

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    Hi Bid, hope your dad is home soon and like everyone else I do hope he gets the help, support and understanding he needs and deserves.

     

    I am a qualified nurse (have been full time mum for 12 years though!) and it annoys me when I come accross health professionals who are so pushed for time (or dare I say at times 'stagnant') that they can't or won't make the effort to keep up to date. The sad thing is that most nurses who work in surgical or medical departments have very little or no psychiatric training with the result that when patients with any sort of disability affecting their behaviour need medical or surgical treatment/admission the staff involved do not have the experience or training to understand them.

     

    Best wishes to you and your father and thank you for highlighting this deep routed problem.

     

    Lauren

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    Forbsay I'm just very impressed that you are working. I've tried on a few occasions to go back to work or uni and had to abandon the attempts due to my son who went off the rails each time and I couldn't leave with anyone (even my mum couldn't handle him). He's a bit older now so I may give it another go.

     

    So I don't know what to suggest re after school clubs etc other than to say I admire anyone with children like ours who work. B)

     

    Lauren

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    That was a very intersting article.

     

    My eldest AS child began to behave oddly within weeks of his first MMR jab. We moved to America and were 'forced' to give him the second jab as he wouldn't have been allowed to go to school, his leg swelled up to twice the size of normal and I swear his ASD (at the time undiagnosed) got more pronounced.

     

    My second son had the first jab in the states but by the time we moved back to the UK I was wise to it and he hasn't had the second jab. And despite lots of pressure from certain people he won't be having it. Within weeks of having his first jab (which was when he was 14 months old) he stopped talking and didn't become verbal again until he was 3. He's 8 now and still has problems with language, (pragmatic language delay and autistic tendencies is his dx) I'm just thankful I decided to not let him have the booster!

     

    Lauren

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    Actually it didn't work anyway! Obviously the first time was a 'one off'.. in fact I was punished severely as he didn't actually drop off until near midnight and kept popping downstairs all evening to see what he was missing. :hypno: Won't try that again in a hurry!

     

    Lauren

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    Tracey a few things spring to mind on reading your post.

     

    One is that many kids (ASD or not) do behave well with other people and in other places then 'let rip' once they are in the sanctity of their own home and with people who they trust. Another thing is that when ASDers are working hard to behave 'normally' they do literally store it all up for us parents to deal with (how lovely of them!!); this could be why your daughter has her melt downs with you and is fine elsewhere. Apparently we should be gratefull for this as it shows that they are finding ways of coping with their emotions when it counts! Yeehaaah! :thumbs: Seriously though if they are going to throw a wobbly then best at home than at a friend's house.

     

    Pleasehelp recommending evening primrose for PMS is absolutely right, however some people can't take it. I know this because I'm one of them, evening primrose gives me migraine so if your daughter has ever suffered from recurring headaches (very common in ASD) or migraine it might be a good idea to consult your GP before giving evening primrose.

     

    Another alternative is Omega 3 supplements which have been shown to be hightly beneficial for many ASDers (promoting concentration and calmness etc) and PMS.

     

    Lauren

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    Viper, my youngest son was reacting to aspartame and like you I cut it out of all my kids' diet with great results in both my boys.

     

    My kids love Cranberry juice (the usual make... am I allowed to say which one?) which doesn't have aspartame or 'funny' additives at all. Also cranberry juice has many health benefits as well as being a good source of Vitamin C.

     

    Lauren

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    Fagsandbooze, it's perfectly normal. Suspecting a dx is not the same as actually getting the dx. Even if you know within your heart that your suspicion is spot on.

     

    When my first son got his dx I didn't react very much at all. I felt within myself that I'd accepted his condition and went straight to the GP for a referal to have the diagnosis by and ed psych confirmed by a child psychiatrist.

     

    Even with the dx and subsequent confirmation I still didn't react much. I think for about a year I'd buried my head in the sand, with the deluded belief that I was tackling the dx head on. I did all the usual things, read books on the subject etc. But it wasn't until about a year ago that I finally took the bull by the horns and decided that if my children were going to be helped, that help had to be instigated by me.

     

    Just go with the flow of your feelings and arm yourself with as much knowledge as you can find. You'll find your way and come out of the other side feeling strong and empowered.

     

    Best wishes and a big hug >:D<<'>

     

    Lauren

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    Bit of information for those whose kids are struggling to ride a bike.

     

    I know a fair few people who've had great results after a few sessions of cranial osteopathy. Worth looking in to.

     

    My son had a 14 week course of vision therapy. 4 weeks in to the course he was riding a bike. Prior to this he wasn't even coordinated enough to ride a bike with stabalisers, and nor could he balance on a 2 wheeled scooter.

     

    Thought this might be of interest to some of you.

     

    Lauren

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