aliwoo
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welcome to the forum! nice to see someone from my neck of the woods...sort of lol!
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I just tried to book my tickets to go and see this film, but they're not showing it at every cinema, only a few dotted across the country. Which, for the type of film it is and the subject it focusses on, I think is pretty poor. I'm very dissapointed that I might not get to see it.
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yes i tried to get tickets to see it tomorrow night with my OH (he wants to see it too btw lol). we are both very angry that the closest cinema showing it is a 2-3 hour drive away!!
oh well...going to watch Moon instead
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aspie score or 139/200 and ADD score of 35/78
says i am very likely an aspie and may have ADD lol which isn't news to me really as i do have alot of difficulties and traits
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Hi i was told by my paediatrician that when i was filling out my forms to fill it out as the worst case, which i did we get middle rate care and no mobility. it took me a while to get my head round getting money for looking after my own child! but it really helps! and cam benefits from it ie supplements etc that we might otherwise struggle to pay for and the q bot at leggoland as cam just wouldnt be able to wait in the q it does make a difference. best of lucksonj
took me a while to get used to the idea of the extra money too...especially when you can get carer's allowance and tax credit bonusus too...it's alot of money really. but i have to say it has helped and we no loonger struggle with elctric bills and water bills (endless washing) and the cost of replaceing things or simply just having days out to get kyle to burn some energy. fuel for the car (we actually got the car with the backpayment lol...needed one)...even silly little things like shoes and clothes. we are able to afford a decent pair of fitted shoes now...whereas he used to have to make do with a pair of shoes from the supermarket for £5 before lol.
i'd advise people to NOT feel bad about applying for this benefit (and linked benefits) it is there to make your life easier, and it does
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sounds alot like my little boy, i applied before we got his diagnosis and we now get middle rate DLA and lower rate mobility. the thing about applying for DLA is that you really do have to write everything negative....write the bad points and dont mention the good (they are not interested in the good). so basically imagine the worst day ever in that given scenerio...and put those things down. he may be able to walk nicely but on a bad day as you say he will run off and hide or run into the road. i was also told not to use words like occassionally....as it gives the impression that it doesn't happen enough to warrant help. it is quite soul destroying filling a DLA form out, what with only focusing on the negatives....i think the reason it takes so long to fill is cos you just cant bring yourself to fill more than a page a day lol. but it is so worth it if it gets accepted...and if yours doesn't, appeal
as i say my little boys did/does the same as yours when i applied (he was 5.5 back then too) and i get it.another tip is to photocopy your completed form! so you know what you have written when it comes to renewing the claim in a couple of years time
CAB will actually help you fill the form if needed. also some good websites with tips and pointers too (they are on my OH's computer somewhere lol..but we found them by googling). one we found goes through the whole form and tells you what kinda thing they want to know in layman terms (which was something we needed)
goodluck...DEFINATELY apply
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i really should stop reading the comments on daily mail articles about autism
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Oh yes yes yes!!!!! Don't get me started on that one! I have a reputation, it is terrible and nobody speaks to me anymore as I growl past them....
I just can't do lovely anymore and I say it as it is because a lot of parents let their children get away with whatever... I have sorted my fair share of bullies in the past few years including the lot who wrote rude words on my car with a felttip pen(these were boys who are in the same class as my son) which really made me see red, children who threw stones at my house knowing very well we are in, people who swear at my son through the fence and cause a meltdown... I have got zero tolerance for this sort of behaviour and I have no hesitation anymore to go and approach parents and I have had very firm conversations. Sometimes I wish my husband put his foot down too but I think he is embarassed Afterwards I feel relieved and then crosser and crosser...I must say that I dream of living in a desert island, just for peace and quiet from all those nasty bullies. I think on the whole the parents are a lot worse than the children and they always side with the kids who therefore never ever learn from what happened.You have my total sympathy!
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?you sound just like my OH lol! i wish i had the balls to be like that but i dont sadly. mind you i haven't been round up enough yet i dont think.
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thinking about it i never went to many parties when i was younger
and the few parties i had were low on numbers (who were not family) 
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my son has been invited to 2 partys since he started school. he also had a party that year and 10 kids came along to it...but most of the parents buggered off lol. he was fine at these parties..bit excitable but not badly behaved. i have seen other kids get invted to parties and kyle tells me that 'so and so' is having a party and asks if he can go..but has no invite. so i feel your pain.
this year we just took him to a safari park lol. apart from the weather it was very nice and calm too
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my son was diagnosed at age 6, so although not a late diagnosis i do see signs when i look back.
as a baby he never used to be 'clingy' he would just sit and play in the playpen for ages if you let him, his play was very repetitive too or he'd just bash things (still does)
he used to bang his head on the floor when crying or sometimes he'd do it and laugh...seemed to cheer him up in some way
he took toys apart all the time to see how they worked.
line things up..usually in size order
at mum and tots he used to just play on his own and when a kid tried to play with him he'd usually come to me crying (now he loves to play with others but he does it by chasing or getting them to chase him lol)
at nusery he was labeled a 'bad child' due to his behaviour. cos he is my oldest and at the time was my only child we all figured it was due to him not being used to kids his own age....looking back i know different. he used to throw BIG wobblys and throw tables
memorising the way to somewhere and getting upset if we go a different way.
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Don't want to start any riot, but I'm totally of the view a child needs a father and mother. I also want a LOT more males in education and at the carer/support end too. I've had fair expeieince of being ignored because I am a man, while at school and other meetings, there does seem a feminisation of the support and care industry, that I would prefer had more balance in it. Three schools my son attended hadn't a male in it. the SS had none either. There did seem some prevailing view only women can raise children, and know what children need, I think that is rubbish frankly, I've proven my point, why did I have to ?Statistics in schools seem to show, that lack of a male role model has resulted in the many issues we face in schools today. I know some males do not care, I would object to be labelled the same way. I went for a vasectomy, and being deaf asked for some communicatioon help to follow, they had no males to assist, and I couldn't insist on one, so my privacy did not count, a lady consulting her medical officers insisted and got a female support. Where was the balance there ?
Men who declare they love their children are deemed 'dodgy', men who don't declare they care are called heartless, some you cannot win. It is automatically assumed a woman is perfect as a parent, and a man as some passing stranger in the night, while their children get multiple choice as to who they want for a dad. I'm old fashioned I know, my school never saw a WOMAN in it. I think in a school a male child will tend to respect a male adult more. I had two good parents and they stayed together, they cared for 7 children, I cared for them until they died, the state refused to offer me any financial support because "Men couldn't be carers" ! so what was I doing for 12 years ? Some of today's parents can't seem to manage one child properly, yet still get priority over a mere male.
It's too easy to not stay the course these days. Doing a Britney (Getting married for 46 hours and then divorcing), seems to be the tone of things, I'm not in favour of any of that, and somewhat concerned on children being faced with a never-ending stream of 'uncles', I just cannot understand it. I'll get it in the neck I expect !
i actually agree with you, although i was a single parent for the first 18months of my eldest son's life...but then his biological dad was an abusive person who i finally mustered the balls to leave when heavily pregnant.
in my relationship with my current partner though i would say he is the 'mother' of our little family, he definately seems more 'motherly' than me! lol! he takes the eldest to school and picks him up, he is usually the one that deals with the school...in fact when school ring they usually ask for him now if i pick up the phone LOL. yet he is the only dad who does this from what we can see? anytime we do see another dad on the way to school or back it's with their missus. and i have to say the attitude my OH has gotton from SOME female parents have been...disgusting! he gets stared at, and one woman called him a paedophile once for daring to stop her 2 year old running across the road
. he'd be great working with kids though but cos he is a bloke and has stubble and a cap people seem to assume he is a danger! saying that though he does get more 'pats on the back' than he does anything else. there is also only two men working in the junior/infant school my son goes to...the caretaker and a guy with special needs who volunteers sometimes....thats it! i know it's a mainly female thing to like kids enough to work with them (it seems lol) but i tihnk alot of men who would love to work with kids (like my OH) are put off by the view of men who like kids? :/ i have an ex who works in a nursery and he has had some stick from some parents when he first started (he has tattoos, is goth and has piercings..which obviously removed), he now pretty much runs the place and loves his job.mind you it can be hard on women too women are expected to love kids and expected to want kids..if you dont you're going to be the lonely old mad cat lady who smells of wee. if your a stay at home mum you're lazy and watch jezza kyle all day eating hula hoops and if you work you're heartless and shouldn't have kids if you dont want to stay home and look after them...so women cant win either
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he rubbed it on his chopper...To stop it sticking in the tree trunk
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my son strangly doesn't swear (at home anyway lol) but he does say alot of rude/nasty hurtful things, though usually not when he firsts wakes up lol, most he'll say then is that we are lazy. today he was pretty hurtful with the things he said but we just have to try and not let it get to us, if i did i'd have a breakdown by now lol. was his birthday yesterday so tonight (after a packed and spoilt weekend) we feel he like he is being ungrateful but ofc we know he isn't. think he was just tired and so grumpy.
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thing's i've had said to me are
he is too loving
he is very social (as he tries to make friends...just hitting them to make them chase him isnt the best way to go lol)
he is very talkative
he is spoilt
he must be a genius
he doesn't look autistic
he has friends (well 1...the others are girls who love to mother him lol)
he is very active (some peeps seem to think that autistic people are slow and lazy)
he will come round in the end
its bad parenting
hmmmmmm all i can think of at the moment LOL
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nice car lol. a friend of mine at college had jeep thing that was a cow print pattern with a pink fluffy interior...i'm not girly at all but i thought it was cool
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my OH usually has to go with kyle on a trip (he is better with children than me LOL, and can drive). if one of us don't go though kyle isn't allowed to either. and as they talk about the trip to the class you HAVE to let him go dont you
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my OH's family are very good, supportive and understanding of kyle....yet they are step grandparents
my family on the other hand are the opposite (although one brother bless him tries so i dont include him in that equation..he babysits if needed, although he still doesn't see why kyle is different..but then he is himself lol)
sadly my OH's family live 100 miles away, but we are looking to move nearer to them soon.
had a major fall out with my dad recently over my son, i printed out a grandparents leaflet for him, but he hasn't read it. so now i dont have anything to do with him
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Ah the dreaded chicken, my son has been talking about "chicken" for 2 years now... in every 3 to 4 word sentence we have the word chicken.. yet produce a picture of a chicken and he hasn't a clue what it is:Dlol! my son doesn't go on about chickens as much now, he used to be obsessed! he wanted to be a chicken farmer, he had loads of cuddly chickens, and easter chicks (he LOVED easter..and not for the chocs lol). he made the noises all the time, mostly when stressed i found. still does that a bit but not nearly as much. now he just likes the words bum, pants, poo,mariooooooo....and saying chickens poop eggs and cows wee milk (he wont be told different lol)
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my son used to be a chicken
also when i was about 9 i used to pretend to be a dog or a dinosaur lol. i once went to bite my cousins clothes but managed to sink my teeth in...deep...into her back. that was 18 years ago and she still has the scar
we recently spoke about it and for all these years she thought i did it on purpose..but i didnt, i was being a guard dog -
i guess 2.15?
do we get a prize?
seriously though i hope it's soon
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have you asked the paedotrician for melatonin? that is what i have been advised to do. a GP cant prescribe it so i have heard, it HAS to be from the paedotrician..and you may have to fight for it.My son does not see a paedotrician. Is this something that CAMHS can pescribe?
My son will not even take a tablet for a headache or anything. If this was to be the answer for us it would mean giving it to him without him knowing and I am not sure I could this.
He has always had problems with his sleep but we have tolerated it and he has always had sleep every night even if it has only been a few hours.
he is even more fussy with food due to being tired and grumpy and probably not feeling up to eating.
I never considered that his lack of sleep would affect his eating so thank you for that.
I think what concerns me is that he has made himself feel really unwell due to lack of sleep and t his has not detered him in anyway. He just seems so determined about this.
I am going to browse the net for 'what happens to our bodies if we continually don't sleep' I need to try and calm myself down as I am getting over anxious about this. I just want him to stop doing this.
does he take liquid medicine? i was told you can get it in liquid form but thats a bit harder to get due to it being more expensive (and them not liking to give it to people lol). i've never had my son try tablets before so i dont know what he will be like, but he has swallowed a few pound coins so i know he is capable
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my son does the same (although not as drastic). but it has affected his behaviour at school and at home, i think he is even more fussy with food due to being tired and grumpy and probably not feeling up to eating. have you asked the paedotrician for melatonin? that is what i have been advised to do. a GP cant prescribe it so i have heard, it HAS to be from the paedotrician..and you may have to fight for it.
ofc it depends if that is what you want to do, some people dont like using it
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little OT
but has anyone got any really good reciepes for wild rabbit? i bought some the other day as my family haven't tried it before (i have..when i was 8 so dont remember it lol)
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awww i hope the meds do work. 17 years is good innings though, my old cat is 17 (he still lives with dad but i got him for me when i was 10 years old lol) and is beginning to look quite frail, but still goes out and is a cheeky chappy. seems he has gone deaf though as he didn;t respond to fireworks this year...normally he is terrified!
i think all animals feel depression etc. i know some of my rats definately feel very low after one of thei cagemates die. often sleeping alot and going off their food..or even get all grumpy and agressive. but then they are very social animals...like us. they did acupuncture and massage courses for animals at my old animal care college(i did diploma in animal care) lol it sounds silly...and gives me the same funny images
but apparently they DO work and is quite common now. even the old kennels i worked in now have a hydrotherapy pool