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    I have heard that there is a national study going on(my wife saw on BBC) into Aspergers in adults.I have visted many 'psychologists' etc & have confirmed I have 'traits' of Aspergers.My question is-is this a diagnosis?,as they are reluctant to say it & they dont know if a label will help.

    Is anyone else having/or had these experiences & what did you do?

    Also does anyone know how to get involved in this national study?

     

    Regards

     

    Dave

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    Ive posted about a month ago what im goin through but would like to speak to people direct who i could connect with & meet...how do u do this on here-I need people to discuss things every minute every day u know..especially when at lost in my own world at work...pls help

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    Temple Grandin, mentions this very same thing in the short film A is for Autism in which she say?s ?I would say to mother that the street lights were coming on, mother would reply yes they are, then it would be repeated over and over again because it was pleasurable to hear the answer, then other occasions if a subject was of interest it would be talked into the ground?.

    I can relate to a lot of what Temple Grandin says because for most of the time I do not always find a common starting point for conversation, I often find it difficult to keep a conversation going. The repetitiveness could be actually calming for your children, on the other hand my son Taylor does this and when I ask him why he does it he says it?s because he needs to hear the answer.

    Steve..

     

     

    Yep..Samuel our only boy does this until we are stark raving bonkers-inwardly we scream!...Hes 4 & 1/2,but my wife refuses to think that he has traits as I have-As my post the other day Im at the stage where i feel i need to sort my own identity out-Again my wife doesnt see the point as I ve got this far & whats it going to achieve.Also u cannot leave the room without knowing exactly where u are going in the house or what we are doing in that room-He screams & wailes if we walk down the stairs without him or in the wrong order to what he wanted.Is this just signs of a spoilt only child-i think not as its so intense it really hurts him inside obviously.Apparently I would act the same when i was a child my mum says if she walked ahead any distance & she still has to listen intently to every word i say & I need her to answer so I know shes listening comletely to me & I know Im communcating properly-Otherwise I get very angry & people say 'Theres no need to talk like that',but I cant help it.

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    Think you've done amazingly well to be holding down a job and have a wife and child. Doctors are called GPs for a reason ? they are GENERAL Practitioners. A lot of people, including myself in the past, put a lot of faith in them. However, they don't always get it right and they aren't experts. Your GP is totally unprofessional to be so dismissive. You've came to the right place to get answers! I'm no expert, but there are a couple of routes you could go down. Firstly, you could make contact with NAS (www.nas.org.uk) and/or secondly, you could seek help privately. Best of luck. Might feel like you're going one step forward and two back, but be strong and you'll get there.

     

    Best wishes.

     

    Caroline.

     

    Hi there..thanks for getting in touch...how are u now??..would like to keep in touch?-I need a lot of support right now & feel very very alone at the point of walking out on everything & everyone..u know??

    Pls keep talking to me

     

    Thanks

     

    David

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    Firstly youre not a failure.Youve got a wife,son and a job.More than most people ever have.

    I realy dont know how you go about getting diagnosed when youre older.Im sure someone on here will know though.

     

    Perhaps you could contact the National Autistic society and explaine things to them.They might be able to point you in the right direction and stuff.

     

    Youre Gp probably hasnt a clue about diagnosisng Aspergers in someone older.Im assumeing theyd need to refere you to someone that can do this.You need to push and insist on this.

     

    No wonder youre fed up stuck on anti depresents for 7 years.Ive been on anti depressants and they numb all emotions even the good ones.

     

    Ill keep bumbping this topic up to the top so it doesnt get forgotten.Someone will be able to help im sure.

     

    Ive spent most of my life fealing i dont fit in,haveing people say im odd and funny.I never know why.I was diagnosed with bi polar at 30 and it all fell into place for me then.It will for you.

     

    Hi there..im off work today so called sickness bug!..I ve always questioned everthing it drives my family mad,along with other habits!...How can i be happy again,i dont know whats real or not-life doesnt seem normal for me anymore & i cant sit in front of people & talk or small talk-i virtually ask a question then walk off-younger people in the office think im strange i know-do u find it easier to talk on here?..I thought life would get easier but its get harder at work & i get more bored & frustrated with people & want to shout at them-i want to help people not be a surveyor just earning money,but i have a family to think of & my family say i should just get on with it like my father did.

     

     

    Thanks for your time-hope to keep in touch-keep the advice coming!!

     

    David

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    Please can people take the time to help me,as know one will believe in what im suffering,im 35 year old married man with little boy & dont know how to handle life anymore.I believe i have aspergers & have always fought it to be successful & to fit in with others-i count everthing,take ages over anything at work & cant move on-if distracted need to check 5 times to see if im right as i need to get it perfect-Cant let people make mistakes in their sentences & correct them whoever they are-It could be the queen i still couldnt keep my mouth shut-I must finish things or get so angry that I shout & bawl at my wife..I could go on for ever-My friends put up with my drinking & getting into fights & trying to put the slightest injustice in the world to rights-but most drift away as Im too deep for them & end up talking about me-People take the p!ss out of my now nervous twitch with my neck & at work how I talk & walk & generally say,Oh Dave your so funny-but why? they wont explain-If someone calls me a name like a queer or weirdoas a joke or something then ill take it literally & get embarrased & have panic attacks instead of sticking up for myself-Im just different.I love art & sports,but must take them all v.seriously & get 100% right otherwise cant accept anything less from me or others which they cant understand.I cant do small talk & feel left out of worklife-I try so hard to join in but its so tiring so when i get home the slightest thing sends me loopy & i want to run & hide.

     

    Please help as my wife cant understand this-Is it too late to be diagnosed as I filled a questionnaire in but my doctor just says thats how it is & get on with it-hence ive been on anti depressants for 7 years-I dont know whats right or wrong anymore & I cant mix with her 'normal' friends.i find the most silly things hilariously funny but otherwise am just deadpan whatever people tell me,but ive learnt to pretend im intrerested & move my face to what i think is 'normal'.

     

    Im boring u now i can tell-which is my catchphrase...

     

     

    David

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