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    Hi,

     

    My son is 14 and has Aspergers. He is in a mainstream school, and academically he does well. However, he has been bullied on and off for the last 3 years. It is mostly verbal stuff, but the kids concerned are in most of his classes, so he has them all day.

     

    I have been into school, and they have dealt with specific incidents straight away, but as far as my son is concerned, this only makes things worse, as the kids know that he has told on them. At the moment, he will not let me go into school, and insists that he wants to deal with it (using violent methods, which I am trying to dissuade him from) but I do not know what to do for the best.

     

    Does anyone have any advice????

     

    Purpleangel xx

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    Masking the frustration at school and letting it out at home is, as others have said, a classic presentation. Com was like this until we explained to him that if things were upsetting him at school, then he needed to show it at school or they wouldn't be able to help him. within a few weeks he had turned around completely and was much better at home, while school began to desparately look for help. :thumbs:

    If I'm reading this correctly and the psych wants to 'undiagnose' your son because your son doesn't like his diagnosis, this is not only incredibly unprofessional, but please could I have the name and address of the psych? I'd like to have a diagnosis of bird flu, then i'd be more famous than any Big Brother contstant or footballer! :devil:

     

    Good idea - I might pinch it and use the money to pay for Chris to go to a great private school that I have found. However at ?40,000 a year, it is a long way out of my reach... well, i can dream....

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    Hi PurpleAngel. You can't change who he is by undiagnosing him. Martin's paedetrician wrote in his DLA application statement.

     

    "Martin has Asperger Syndrome, he will not grow out of it and will always need more care and attention than a normal child of his age. He will always have Asperger Syndrome."

     

    Martin has learned to accept the way he is following a long period of chats with a clinical psychologist (which he still attends). Would this approach be more useful to your son than an "undiagnosis"?

     

    Thanks for that - it is good to know that I am not going mad. I thought that he was totally wrong, but you know what it is like.... these professionals hold so much power over our kids, and sometimes I feel as if i am banging my head against a brick wall just trying to get someone to take me seriously. I really wish that Chris would 'lose it' at school, so they can see what he can be like......

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    Hi, my son is 11 in set and we suspect ? aspergers/ asd traits- he seems to "stand out " more and more as getting older, prefers to play with youngerkids, wants to dominate games, and cos the childrena re younger it just seems like it makes him look odder

    Thing is, the comments and funny things they do at 7/ 8 are no longer as cute when almost 11- but he doesnt seem to help him self- and how awful am I , part of me wants to say just act "like anyoone else"

    Thats cruel isnt it- think just ona downer at mo- we have very few friends and its so intense, just us and our son- he exhausts us

    24/ 7 questions, obsessing over one thing, do any of your chil;dren fail to understand that you dont know what other people are about do do or are thinking?? Is this all kids or just our "special" kids?

    Feeling bit lost- its late- he s still awake- sterssing over school tomorrow, his tantrums seem to be getting worse (he threatened tobeat me up) and I cant see light at end of tunnel

    Waiting to see clinical pysch- Im considering phoning and saying I feel he may hurt himself or someone else- but scared things may escalate- ie social services

    we re not bad parents- just bl y struggling on

    Sorry for rant

    Lisa

    Hi,

     

    My son is 12 and I think that he is becoming more 'autistic'. He has a dx of AS, which he will not accept. Recently he has started to seperate all of the food on his plate into totally seperate piles, he has decided that he cant use our towels because they irritate his skin (although they have been fine for a long time) and is becoming tactile defensive again. He gets upset when younger kids wont play with him, and he takes thing s really personally (if he understands them at all). I have been told that puberty makes a huge difference for our kids, so for now, just hang in there and take it a day at a time xxx

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    This is a weird one, never heard of it personally but talk about confussing. First he has AS then you move and he does not???? The only thing that has changed is the new phsyc's opinion. Alot of the parents of this forum have said that there children dont "present" at school, there was a thread passive at school/meltdowns at home its very interesting if you do a search you could find out more about the subject.

     

    I have the same problem with my son who is 12, school say that he never displays any AS traits but if they look closer they would see them. He does however "pretend to be normal" (without offending anyone)and then like a coiled spring release all his pent up frustration at home. Nobody has really seen Keegan blow and they think that i am making it up but it happens...

     

    He doesnt like the fact that he has Aspergers and has never really come to terms with it. Taking away the label wont make it go away. I am at a loss as to how to fight this - any suggestions?

     

    My son does not really understand his dx yet either, i certainly am learning everyday so for the psychratist to say that is not really a reason to un dx him????? Surely there are other factors that contribute to his dx other than him not displaying any AS traits at school what about sensory factors,visual problems, social etc etc.....not just him behaving at school - do these professionals always expect misbehaviour.. :wallbash: sorry i am going off on one....

     

    This is my son aswell - absolutely brill at school and then collapses at home. Some days he is absolutely fine, others he is most definitely ASD. He has taken to seperating all of the food on his plate (nothing can touch), setting up routines for himself, and twirling his hair. We have never had this sort of behaviour before, so to me he is showing more signs of ASD than ever before.

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    similar thing with DD7 and her AD/HD. Her LSA can't see it as she has read a book on it :angry:

    The only thing i can think if is to keep a diary on him and how he is at home. IF he get's undx you may lose the support. Then your son may start to react like he does at home at school. And it may be harder getting the DX back. My views anyway so please everyone don't bite me feeling raw as it is tonight.

    Thanks Col, I will try keeping a diary and see how we go. Hope you are not feeling as raw tomorrow. xx

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    Hi, my son is 12 years old and was diagnosed with Aspergers at age 5 in berkshire. We have a statement giving him 15 hours of support, but since moving to North Yorks, we have hit one brick wall after another. He is really good at school as it is in the rules that he has to behave. When he gets home it is another story!!!! As a result of this though, very few people have really seen him 'lose it'.

     

    Our latest set back is that his new psychiatrist has suggested undiagnosing him because he doesnt like the fact that he has Aspergers and has never really come to terms with it. Taking away the label wont make it go away. I am at a loss as to how to fight this - any suggestions?

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