carolinew

I have 2 children who are both special needs,you read their school reports and they sound as though they are both doing really well. The thing is,sophie has aspergers and has huge problems with self esteem and anxiety attacks and liam is dyslexic and dyspeaxic and 3 yars behind in his literacy skills!!! Whats the point of school report if they don't actually refer to the child in question?

UPDATE!!! wENT INTO SCHOOL THIS MORNING AND HAD LONG CHAT TO AENCO AND HEAD OF YEAR. THEY EXPLAINED THAT LOWER GROUP ONLY HAD 14 PUPILS IN IT SO MORE SUPPORT WOULD BE AVAILABLE (MY DAUGHTER IS IN THE PROCESS OF BEING STATEMENTED). I TOLD THEM THAT I WAS APPALLED AT THE WAY IT HAD ALL BEEN HANDLED AND THAT IN FUTURE I WANT A MEETING TO DISCUSS ANY CHANGES BEFORE A DECISION IS MADE. I THINK THEY REALISED THAT I WILL NOT BE PUT ON. I'VE FOUGHT FOR TOO LONG TO GET THIS FAR. NOT SAID ANYTHING TO SOPHIE YET BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO RUIN HER HOLIDAY FROM SHOOL. WILL THINK A WEEK OR 2 TO DECIDE HOW BEST TO DO IT THANKS FOR ALL YOUR ADVICE AND COMMENTS XXX

Hi Kathryn I asked for meeting before they break up from school on wednesday and they said no chance,too busy!!! I agree with you,they seem to have no understanding of the self esteem issue here. The summer holidays are now going to be taken up with trying to reassure sophie that its not because she's a failure,not easy to explain when i don't understand the reasoning behind it myself

My 12 year old daughter is a newly diagnosed asperger. We have been fighting for diagnosis since she was 7. Fought to get her into small secindary school. Went to first parents evening last week,said she was handling things well and keeping up in the middle stream. Came home from work today to find letter in the post informing us that they are moving haer down to the bottom stream from september!!! It has taken alot of hard work to get her to settle into this new school and now feel as though we are back to square one. Sophie feels a total failure and is now going to spend the summer holidays with lots of anxiety worrying about new class. School don't seem to understand the emotional side of things. I just feel totaly bewildered

My young son is the same,he has rrealised he can wind up sophie big time so easily and when he has been at the receiving end of alot of her frusyrations he doesn't hold back!!

We did pick her clothes last night to make it easier. She finds decision making very stressfull and has had panic attacks on occasions. We have an appointment with a autistic outreach person to help us handle her behaviour cos my younger son is getting a bit of a raw deal at the moment. Everything is done to upset sophie as little as possible

My daughter id 12 and we have been trying to get someone to listen to us since she was 5!!! It was all blamed on her being just a quiet child with low self esteem and me being an anxious mum!!!

Yet again it took us nearly all morning for my daughter to get ready to go out. She has real trouble making decisions,doesn't know what to wear,does her ponytail 27 times and its still not right in her eyes,has to sit in certain place in car,park in certain carpark,seem to spend my whole life tip toeing around her to stop her having a temper rage. We had diagnosis confirmed last week. Does it get better or is this how its always going to be? Sorry to moan but just feel so bewildered by it all.

I sympathise soooo much with what you're saying but from a slightly different view point!!!. My daughter had decided that i'm the one who can make everything right and that if i'm around all is right with the world. The trouble starts if I go out and she is at home with her dad and brother. She is verbally and pysically abusive to both of them and says suchhurtful things to her dad it makes me want to cry. Dave,my husband feels very wounded by her words so I then end up having to sort out my daughter and my husband when I come home. I sometimes feel its not worth tyring to go out

Thank you so much for that. I do feel sad but am trying to look at it as a new start. My daughter has spent so much of her short life being anxious and mis understood that its got to get better than this! At least now when people say that i have a naughty child or that i'm just a over anxious mum i will know in my heart that they are wrong Caroline

my 12 year old daughter was yesterday given the diagnosis of aspergers/autism after a 5 year fight to get someone to acknowledge that she had a problem. up til that point it had all been blamed on me being an over anxious mother. i feel releived to finally get the problem recognised but now feel totally overwhelmed as to what to do next!!!