My son, age 35 has had trouble all his life dealing with social interaction, jobs and people in general. In the last few days learning the term "Aspergers" on a Law and Order TV show prompted me to research more about Aspergers The behavoir described definitely fits my son.
To a casual acquaintence, no one would think he has a problem. He is able to communicate reasonably. It is only when someone gets to know him or spend time near him that they notice that something may not be right. He holds a job, is married, and has a son. There is a impending divorce that is not related to his mental health, but probably a contributing factor. His wife has mental issues all her own, namely OCD hoarding and Munchusens. (Yeah, it was a match made in heaven), but enough about that.
After many years of empty nest, my son is now living with us until his situation improves. Back come all the memories of his inability to "be aware" of others, including his mother and I and himself. He has no conscious awareness that his words, actions or manerisms are annoying. He get's extremely defensive if i try to suggest he focus on something, make a plan or commit to something other than his obsessive computer fixation. If given the choice between cleaning up his car, cleaning the area where his computer is or cleaning up his room, he will play with the cat and have no understanding as to why his mother or I are upset.
Ok, enough with the negatives. On the other hand, he is extremely bright, well read and articulate. He does understand the mental issues that affect his wife and has done a fair amount of research on his own.
My question: How do I bring the subject of Aspergers up? How do I suggest that it might aflict him? (even mildly?) Are there people out there that recognize thier own symptoms and seek help? I'd love to hear from anyone. Please feel free to email me also.
