Hello everybody, I recently found this site and wondered if you wouldn't all mind giving me some advice please.
My son is nearly 19 years old and was diagnosed with Aspergers about six years ago, it took a while to get the diagnosis but when we did everything fell into place and the last few years havn't been too bad... Fast forward to about six months ago and things seem to be going from bad to worse.
My son is working part-time and has had a girlfriend for about 18 months, he has always suffered from panic/anxiety attacks and they started to get worse. He used to come home with marks on his face and say he couldnt remember how it had happened, he was having a panic attack. I took him to the GP who referred him to the menta l health team who made an assessment and deceided that he needed a course of CBT. This finally came through in about August,one session per week. In September the g/f went on holiday and we went away for a couple of days, everything seemed ok. Things changed when we got back. There seemed to be a distance between him and g/f and he went into, well all I can call it is manic mode. He couldnt settle at all, out all the time at Nightclubs and pubs, drinking on medication (not very much, but enough) not sleeping and scratching at his face. I took him out for the day to the coast, big shopping centre and he was just manic. He wanted to look in the shops but couldnt stay in each one for more than a few seconds.
We went back to the GP who doubled his dose of anti-depressants and referred him again for assessment. They have now decieded he needs to see a Psychiatrist but this appt won't be until 17 Novemeber.
Now if you have read this far I'm really grateful!
Last weekend the real problems started, he had been going out alot and I was collecting him and I really thought things were maybe calming down, until last Friday. He went off out quite happy and I picked him up at 3.15, only he wasn't there with his friend. I waited until 3.45 and drove round the town looking for him, very very worried because of recent troubles, We found him in the police station with his lip busted open and shirt half ripped off down the front. The police had called and ambulance and they took him to hospital, we followed.Hospital checked him out but I thought he may get a bit more help from them as he told them that he had a panic attack, hurt himself and did'nt feel safe, he thought he might really hurt himself or someone else. He had been wondering doen by the River Thames.
On Saturday he slept most of the day and his friend turned up and told be what had happened the night before, he had a p attack in the club, she said that he had been argueing with the g/f and then it had started, she said he passed out, got himself together and run off. She also said he told her at work the other day that he is bi-polar. This has been discussed with the Mental health team and thats why he has to see a psychiatrist, at no time has he been told he has this.
After the friend left he got and said he was going out,I tried to reason with him and explain that clubbing again wasn't a good idea. Well that was when it got very worrying, I have never seen him look as he did, he's eyes were really very strange, he leant over me and just very threatenly said "I'm going out" he also said he was older now and had t sort himself out. He took off and run about 3 miles to his g/f. She texted me and said he was there he had cut himself on the face and arms with glass and was acting very strange, also earlier had sent her very strange text saying goodbye.... So into panic mode I went and the decision was made and an ambulance was called with a police backup. Back to hospital thinking that he really might get some help and he was sent home with 5mg diazepam 3 times a day.
Now I really think I should get to the point, and that is... I know he's suffering but something makes me feel that he knows what he's doing. I know now that he lies to me and tells people that he doesn't really get any support. That is a lie, I gave up work 5 years ago and devote my life to him, I'm a single parent and my mother is a great help. He really does have all the support he possibly could.
He also lies to his g/f, this has all come out this week, he told her a couple of weeks ago he was on the way to hospital, he was at home in bed, no wonder he wanted my mobile she was trying to get hold of me but thought I might be driving to the hospital! I was in bed.
Theres many other things that have happened, too many to mention. I think what I'm asking is.. 1 Can the anxiety get so bad that he would act manic or could that maybe something else? 2 Is it common for people for Aspergers to be controlling and lie.
Really any thoughts would be appriciated as I'm really very worried and frightened. I'm worried he is going to really hurt himself, he is just so unapproachable and he is always right.
