Im really new on here too, but I found myself nodding in recognition all almost all the way through your post!
S is 10 Aspergers, hypermobility, and dyspraxic too.
He was diagnosed at seven and although we *knew* the moment we were told my DOH and I went into a weird controlled freefall. We landed safely though!
Like I said Im new too but this seems like a safe place full of knowledge, wisdom and wit.
Hang on in there
sun