I am the Father of the young man mentioned above, I have not been ignoring this thread but waiting and reading. He and I have been through many highs and lows, unfortunately, at the moment more lows than highs - the situation is improving though.
You name it I have about tried it all carrot, stick, cajoling, encouraging, pleading. I have even had counselling sessions with a renowned Aspergers specalist which left him angry and me feeling like a rotton parent!
His major issue appears to be lack of abstract thought - I once asked him to consider what would happen if I was knocked down by a bus! The answer was that it was highly unlikely as I very rarely travelled by bus and the stats of people being killed by busses was very low! His attitude is "I will meet that problem when it happens".
As far as motivation goes I have trouble deciding what is can't and what is won't.
I will continue at a later date.
