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  1. Thanks would not normally want money really only going to try for this month prob just to show her what has been done for her as I said before really down hearting when she meets people n basically tells them her parents dont let her have anything n steal her money. I am starting to feel people staring at me like I am some kind of monster. She is not very good with money also and we were waiting to give her lower amounts of money at a time increasing as she showed improvement but with recent actions it has just came to a take it and cope attitude.
  2. We were happy getting her dla and giving her money as she needed it and buying things for her. She was 1 told dla she could not cope with money herself so I became her appointee. Her friend then decided to tell her she gets all her money. Tried explaining different circumstances but she started social skills group today and first thing out of her mouth was they all get their money. I have no problem giving her her money but just wish people no matter how helpful they are trying to be would realise they are talking to a girl who does not always tell the whole story. She does not get her money in her hand but she is still given it, she just says we steal her money. We finally got fed up and told her when it comes through in 2 weeks we will take some 4 board and she can have rest. We also said she can buy everything she needs herself, more to give her a taste of big bad world. Whatever happened to people saying listen to your parents, life was much easier with that. Anyways just some input on what people would deem fair for a 16 year old to pay for board. She gets middle care and low mobility so about 270/month and has also applied for ema which will be about 120/month.
  3. Thank you for all the advice and I will try and pick up a book or two I think and sit down with her and try and have a casual conversationh with her. I am sure she will be fine and I think she will feel better herself knowing why she feels the way she does
  4. Looking for any advice on how to tell our 15 year old she has asd. Recently diagnosed n told not to tell her but few months down line and no more advice so feel that it would be best if we could at least try and explain to her why she was attending hospital etc and what has been found out. Any one who may have been through something similiar and any advice that can be given will be gratefuly received. Thanks
  5. Good to find this. Katie is nearly 16 newly dx and we are discovering how hard it is. Good news have been awarded dla but any advice on other help that may be available greatly appreciated. TA Annx
  6. Just wondering if there are any groups relating to asd in the gateshead area. Our daughter has recently been diagnosed at age 15 and not getting much help at hospital so think meeting with people who understand what we are going through and can give us some practical advice would be good for everyone. Looking for either something for parents,siblings of teens with asd or even a group for our daughter to attend. Thanks
  7. fed up with people thinking they have some sort of right over my child and can give her the impression we are paranoid parents so now she is obsessed with her human rights and we are just being silly and over reacting to her behaviour. AAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! We want help but not people who know nothing going behind our back and making things ten times worse.
  8. Great thread. Reasonably calm now but know will have to come back soon for a good roar
  9. Thank for the replies and advice. I will take it all on board but am sure will be able to cope bit better once she understands and we get a bit more help and advice. In meantime will continue to read through threads as I am finding these helpful at moment and any other advice in general that anyone wishes to leave will be gratefully accepted. Thanks
  10. Hi new to forum but have similar problems. My daughter was referred to child and family unit where after a time we were informed was likely she has aspergers. Told we should not tell her untill she has dx which comes up in next few weeks but within that time myself and her step dad are in limbo as to how we should cope with her bad behaviour. She comes home over 2 hours late from school and acts as if nothing is wrong, we are both frantic but she just says why do you worry I am not far away. She has a mobile which I set an alarm on for her to be home and rang her. Trouble comes when she meets up with others and is very naive and easily led. Just turn it of or tell them your nearly home or some other obvious lie and she does it. So back to the problem she still has done wrong but I feel if she was not influenced then she would not have to be punished so I feel guilty for punishing her and just dont know what to do. Hope it gets easier once she has dx and things can be explained to her. Sorry for wittering but any help or advice for parents(step parents) of newly diagnosed 15yr old girl would be gratefully appreciated. Thanx Ann
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