Boltsie

Hello again, I have posted before stating that I am unsure if my son has a disorder or not, but today he seems to be particularly bad behaviour wise - he is flipping over the smallest things. Do children with this disorder have good days and bad days? I mentioned before he was a jekyll and hyde, today already and it's only 8.10am he is being a little monster!! How do you deal with asd behaviour? Do you give in to their demands? For example this is what happened this morning.... I made some toast for Dad and DS's little sister who is 2 is in the kitchen with me. I ask her to pass the toast to daddy, she does as she is told, but DS (5 yrs old) gets so upset because he wanted to pass the toast. You could say this is normal child siblingrivalry behaviour, but DS just couldn't let it rest, he was in tears and wouldn't forget it. I therefore went to the kitchen and got a glass of apple juice for him to pass to Dad, he calmed instantly and has been great even since. Do you as a parent just have to accept that they get their way to calm them? This sort of feels wrong to me, but then I have never dealt with a child who potentially has a disorder! Any advice would be so much appreciated. Thanks Boltsie.

Thanks for your responses. It's hard isn't it?! I think I may go and see my GP about him, I just get worried by the responses of some people that I/one is looking for an "excuse" for their childs behaviour. Have any of your heard about a relation to the disorder and the single palmar crease?

Hello, I'm new here and I'm desperately trying to work out if my son actually does have ASD, if I can list some of the behavioural things could someone please give me some clue if I am on the right track that there is a problem or that I have a "normal" 5 year old boy!!! I understand that if my son does have a problem, it is a very mild one. Firstly, when I was pregnant with him, the triple test came back that I had 1 in 5 chance that he had down syndrome, an amnio came back negative. (I have always wondered why the risk factor was so high for me - I was only 27 at the time). Secondly, he has a single palm crease on his right hand. I have read on other sites that this can be a marker for problems. Behaviourly - he never shows any compassion towards anyone or anything. For example, if his sister hurts herself, if I'm unwell, if a toy gets broken, doesn't affect him in the slightest - he really just doesn't care. Saying that he does like cuddles, so isn't totally emotionally "not there". He loves symmetry, and things have to be a done a certain way, and if they aren't he can't handle it. He gets very upset and cross and can't settle until whatever it was is put/done correctly (his way). This doesn't happen all the time, but enough to notice it. Is this a genuine problem, or is this just being a very willful child? He is very hard work to control his behaviour, he is rude and aggressive but sometimes he can be calm and adorable he is a Jekyll and Hyde. He has loads of energy, has to run everywhere, can't and won't walk! At school he is good, works hard, but does write in reverse perfectly a lot, he is very bright and great at maths! Teachers haven't said or picked up on anything yet. Any advice or opinions would be fantastic. Thanks is advance! Boltsie