Carolynrg

Hi Everyone, Sorry it's been so long things got really bad for a while.. Harvey is still resisting a bedtime routine and some nights continually screams at the top of his voice and screeches it's awful. Aeryn is still in with us until Harvey is asleep but this is getting difficult as she is rapidly out growing the Travel cot. I have been onto the housing and they have moved us up the list into silver banding but because we have requested to stay in the village because H is settled into Pre School there I think it would be unfair and detrimental to his progress to uproot him to another school, it will take a bit longer than normal but hopefully not too long.

Has bee awful since then so much so that I have squeezed the travel cot into our room so my 18m girly can get some sleep. Since then Harvey has been settling much better on his own still taking a while and many trips up there to put him back to bed this has just confirmed we need another Bedroom so will get onto the HA ASAP

Well it only took 5 minuets last night. The night before that it was nearly 30 but it's the only thing that's working atm so going to see how it goes and have been referred to lots of different things today by SENCO today Early Bird our local oppotunity centre a support group for me (still finding it hard to adjust) and a few others umm Portage was one of them but can't remember the rest

I dont know wether I'm doing the right thing but I have taken to sitting with him on his bed until he asleep sometimes like last night it only took 5 minutes and Iknow If I had just let him try to settle himself he would still have been awake at 10pm. The tv is there for the mornings really and we have started removing it when he goes to bed and putting it back in before we go to bed so it's there for him in the morning. I feel so useless as I cant seem to crack this

Will definately have a look at the portage website and thanks for the advice R.E the DLA forms will have to remember that.

Loved this drama such a shame it's ended hope they can revisit it at some point

Hi Everyone, Sorry been away with the family on a short break had a great time but Harvey was very exhausting!!!! Hmmm thanks for all the suggestions and some of them I will definately take on board and try Some I'm not sure we can do like remove our daughter as there is no-where we can put her our room is too small to take her cotbed and to be honest I don't think Harvey would settle if she wasn't there. I am working on the visual timetables at the moment I know he uses them at school and it works really well. We always give him plenty of warning before things are going to happen and he's fine with that it's just when he gets into bed he wont stay there. I'm sure we will get there in the end. Carolyn

Hi Thomastank, Thanks for the reply we have been on a short break hence my delayed reply was really hard word Harvey was all over the place and we basically had to let him burn out every evening so he would sleep without a fuss was very tiring but we had a lovely time. Yes he goes to Pre School 2 full days and 1 morning and they flagged it to be honest and are really supportive and want to learn with Harvey how to make his Life easier so we dont feel on our own. I have never heard of Portage but I did call for the DLA forms yesterday and one of His teachers gave a number for Direct payments it's all new to me I have no idea what he is entitled to have been reading lots on here about the benefits they are getting. I guess it's all a learning curve

Thanks so much everyone I will definately get onto it and see if we can crack this it really is very trying especially as he used to be such a good settler at bedtime. Will let you know how it goes

Thanks for the advice BD

Hi I'm new to the Forum but could really do with some advice. My Son Harvey who is Three has just been Diagnosed Aspergers MY main concern is Bedtime as I have an 18 month Daughter as well only 2 bedrooms so they have to share and he really is disturbing her sleep. He will constantly get out of bed and into her cot and bvounce all over her I put him back into his bed and tell him he must not get in there but as soon as I leave the room he is back in there!! Other things he does is Plugs is TV in to put Videos on or he will get out of bed to play with his toys I swear we go up about 10-15 times per night. He was always a Great Sleeper and once he is asleep we have no problems most of the time. Can anyone suggest anything I'm at a loss oh he is also confrontational and will really back chat as well and argue with us. Please help

But hey it made me laugh which is what I needed today thanks GemGems

Hello all I am Carolyn 36 Married to Kevin and we have 2 children Aeryn 18 months and Harvey 3 It's Harvey who has just been diagnosed with Aspergers and to be honest I really dont know much about it so I'm trying to soak up as much information as possible so if anyone can point me in the right direction I would be very grateful. Many Thanks