Hi Denny,
I am going through a similar situation. Our youngest son age 7 was diagnosed with ADHD in Nov 08. At this time his dad started to identify with a lot of his traits. Nathan's consultant then advised us that Nathan may also have AS. The assessment for this unfortunately takes 1 year but at least Nathan is now on the waiting list. In the midst of all this though Roy ( Nathan's dad) has had a complete breakdown and is still adjusting to his medication. When I mentioned this, and all Roy's quirky traits, anger bursts etc.. to Nath's consultant he said it was possible Roy may also have AS.
We went to Roy's GP who thankfully agreed to refer him to the Liverpool Asperger's Adult Team. We are v lucky living in this postcode. It is one of the few adult AS units in the uk. They have already been out to do an "intake assessment" for Roy and agreed that he could undergo the full detailed diagnosis criteria. He has already had the appointment through. They are coming to our house on 20th Aug.
If you haven't got any access to this type of adult service then it is v difficult. We spent a lot of time before finding out about Roy potentially having AS "batting our heads against a brick wall" Nobody has shown any understanding of Roy other than the Dr from the adult AS team.
Good luck...and look after yourself xx
