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  1. Posted · Edited by Willow-Tree · Report reply

    The only thing that was taken out was the part where you advertised your chargeable services/business. Your videos are still there so people can see what a great job you did.

     

    You've been a member here for a long time so you know that businesses aren't allowed to advertise on here if they are advertising chargeable services or goods.

    Okay, but the offer to do a presentation at local groups was taken out completely, you could have just taken out the link, not the whole sentence - my offer to do a talk at local groups still stands. It's not like it's a random business anyway, all I'm doing is trying to help, I can't go to the ends of the country out of my own pocket because I just don't have the money to do that, so yes I would need to be paid some expenses. Everything I do is to help, but I can't end up out of pocket by hundreds of pounds.

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    The parents who attended this presentation gave me great feedback and said that it was really useful for them, so if anyone is part of organizing or attends an Aspergers group and you would like me (and Chris) to do a similar thing just shoot me a PM :)

  3. Posted · Edited by matzoball
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    Hello biggrin.png

    I did a presentation at an Aspergers group this weekend. Here is a video of a portion of the presentation, and a bit from the question and answer at the end:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZtoXj7onDo&feature=c4-overview&list=UU2OdMVzzL6SaOKyP0dTcllQ

    The whole talk has been split up into articles which I have added to my site here, if you want to see them:

    http://www.willowhop...d-the-aspergers

    http://www.willowhop...rs-relationship

    http://www.willowhop...pport-in-school

    Thanks :)

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    I'm glad you found out who you sent it to. I am terrified of online banking to be honest - it's all too easy to make a mistake. I've made small errors with my money before and I've felt just awful about it (mostly forgetting that some things renew monthly or yearly, and that I need to cancel them etc). It would make sense for them to have to prove that you were paying them for something, so hopefully the police could sort it if they don't just give it you back straight away.

     

    I hate that in my online banking system, it saves 'contacts' so they're easy to pay next time...too easy!

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    I did have CBT for a while. I had just stopped going to school due to bullying and the aim was to get me back into school. I went from never wanting to return, ever, to being settled again in a new school, happy about it. I really can't say how it worked, but it did. It felt sly...I just talked about things, and we made plans and drew things which helped me describe my feelings - like spider diagram type things and what not, and then all of a sudden I realised I was in school again!

    I would probably be okay to do it again, I felt like it was a relaxed experience. I think I went for around a year. She seemed to be fairly understanding about my Aspergers, though she wasn't a specialist in the area.

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    I have subscribed. I have started watching your 'Introduction to Aspergers' video but already I can tell you are a lovely, understanding person! I will try and make time to watch more of it :D Your children are very lucky to have you :)

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    Hi...my PM has gone? I only just noticed so not sure how long this has been the case. SmileyK, I'm sorry if you've messaged me and I haven't responded. Oh and I hope you liked my book :D You can get in touch with me on my Facebook page - Facebook.com/willowhopepage :D

     

    I hope you are doing okay, I'm sorry I've not spoken in a while, I used to get an email when I had a new PM from you but obviously I don't have the PM capability anymore...

     

    From Willow :D

    Xx

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    Yeah I've been like this for a period of my life. It was when I was about 15 or 16. I spent pretty much all of my time in my room and my Mum would bring food to me to remind me to eat etc. It didn't last a really long time, and I would venture out every once in a while - but I think it was down to depression/a nervous breakdown. I mostly had the opinion that it was easier to be asleep than to be awake. However, I am nearly 21 now and live with my partner and do regular housewife type things etc. I still don't go out into the actual outside world very often except for the gym and to get groceries - and I don't have any real life friends, but I'm happy XD

     

    I got sick of it by myself and decided to force myself into a better life. I think it's just something that has to happen on it's own, along with some gentle reminders from family of course :D

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    At 17 I wasn't able to be taken on by any of the support groups or anything. Apparently it's up until 16 you're a child and then from 18 you're an adult. I had to wait to turn 18 and then I got a bit of support from a local Adult Aspergers Group, who went on to lose funding anyway. I didn't find anything that would take me on at 17 unfortunately :(

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    Phone reminders only work if you react to them and cant tell you when something you're frying is burning.

     

    No I know, but I said to remind you to turn the hobs off. That's something I forget a lot! :D Setting reminders for that can be useful. But in terms of not burning something, if you know you are prone to forgetting about it and ending up burning it, then it's best to stay with it. I have to do that usually; it means a lot of waiting around in the kitchen sometimes, but so long as it doesn't get burnt, I'm okay with it :D

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    Thanks Willow, that's exactly what I have done and slowly it is starting to work.

     

    Also, thank you for posting up your videos on YouTube.

    They have been very, very helpful to me (in explaining to others why I feel/act etc in certain ways etc...).

     

    It was also cool to see that one of your favourite places is Harlech Beach (as I have spent many years going back on forth for courses and work etc... which has alas, just come to an end).

     

    I'm glad you're feeling better :D

     

    Also, I'm pleased my videos have helped. I don't recognise your username, have we spoke before? (Sorry if I actually know you quite well, I get confused with usernames on different sites!)

     

    Harlech Beach is lovely yes, it's close to my partner's Grandma's house, so we go sort of regularly.

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    When I was around 4, I mostly watching the same TV shows over and over, usually Thomas and Friends. I also played with my toys in a non conventional way; I used to empty jigsaw puzzle pieces into a mixing bowl and stir them with a wooden spoon, and also grab a handful of them and let them fall through my fingers. By this age, in terms of education, I was reciting the alphabet and was good with my numbers as well, and I was having full, grown up conversations with my Mum. I didn't play with the other children at my playgroup, and even at 4 remember getting annoyed if I had to work with another child on my project. I would mould my play doh by myself, or paint alone. When we went out onto the field to collect 'nature', everyone was just wandering around in a group shoving whatever they could find into their box, but I wandered slowly and chose peices that I like the look of, and carefully placed them in my box. I was more interested in a conversation with my teacher than I was with the other children. I also had a bad accident when I was 4 or 5, where I broke my arm and damaged my front teeth - but I didn't cry when it happened, even though it hurt, and I didn't communicate my pain to my parents, so I ended up going a day and a half before they took me to hospital.

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    Well, when I'm trying to do something, if music is playing - the music is all I can think of or pay attention to, so maybe because you have so much going on in your head, to try and minimize that you could put some music on, and also sing along as that can help me sometimes, especially if my breathing is a bit erratic due to panic.

     

    Once you've started to 'empty' your mind a bit and have calmed down, maybe you can take a better look at each thing individually? Or, you could write some things down, that helps sometimes.

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    You can get tabletop electric ovens which have grill functionality and a couple of hobs on top. I know it's still dangerous, but not as much as gas I guess. I was thinking of getting one as a temporary measure because I'm short on space, but I guess it's something you could look into?

     

    Like this: http://www.currys.co.uk/gbuk/russell-hobbs-13824-10-electric-mini-cooker-white-01565975-pdt.html

     

    And of course, you can set reminders on your phone to remind you to turn the hobs off etc.

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    In the same way that when children put things in their mouth inappropriately, you can put something on them that tastes nasty (harmless), can you not put something on things so that they smell nasty?

     

    In terms of getting him out of this habit, can you try and find something which is safe to put up his nose (ie, something that won't get stuck up there, although I'm not sure what) and when you catch him with the wrong thing, just take it from him, say no, or whatever you feel is best so he gets the message that it's wrong, but then hand him the thing he can do it with?

     

    Just a thought, sorry that it's not super helpful.

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    Hi Willow - we are in the process of revising the rules, and this is a revision due to spamming and phishing issues.

     

    Although the physical ability exists to have a url in the signature, the new revision asks that forum members(including moderators) don't have links to external sites in their signatures or profiles.

     

    So it would be much appreciated if you could remove yours thanks x

     

    I have removed the links.

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    :( *hugs* You need to try and distance yourself from thinking about your Aunt's problems - you can't solve them and it's not your place to anyway. Spend some time doing things you enjoy - no matter how small, just to try and stop thinking so much about how sad you feel. Grab some ice cream and watch a girly film :P

     

    Have you/are you seeing any professionals at the moment...therapist/psychiatrist etc? Do you still do your mood diary?

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    Hiya :D

     

    Not sure what magazines you have heard of to do with Autism - but I found one a few months back called Autism Spectrum Quarterly. I contacted them initially to ask if they did book reviews, for my poetry book but I ended up being interviewed by Liane Holliday-Willey which I was so ridiculously excited about :D The newest issue is out now and I feature in it, so if anyone is already subscribed - look out for me in there somewhere :D

     

     

    Liane is such a lovely person and I'm pleased to have been able to speak with her through this process. Anyway, this is the link: http://www.asquarterly.com/issues/18/ - there is only a brief description of my interview in the 'contents' section, and no preview on the site - I'm waiting for my copy to come and to hear back from them to see if I can scan it into my computer and put it on my website for everyone to read.

     

    So yeah, I was just really excited to tell you guys, and now it's out I can!

     

    Willow

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