matzoball
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I'm not a parent, but I am on the spectrum - it might be that he has sensory issues that are leading to the outbursts of aggression. It could be that he's extremely frustrated over something that he can't express verbally so he's turning to aggressive behaviour out of frustration.
It might be worth noting down what happens leading up to him being aggressive. You might find it's the same things and that way you can start trying to avoid them or stop them from happening.
There are a lot of parents on here who probably will have better answers for you!
Welcome to the forum Fleur!
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The way you worded the previous comment could be taken that way - could be taken any manner of ways really, but I can see why she thought that's what you were inferring.
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Hi and welcome to the forum!
Well there certainly are traits common in people with ASD that you've described here. I am on the spectrum myself but wasn't diagnosed until my 30s.
I suggest this for women who suspect they have an ASD - ask your daughter to keep a diary for the week, or you can do it for her - note down how her ASD affects her. This would be things like sensory problems, instances of anxiety or upset and what you think has caused them - anything that is related to her issues.
This helps present things to the GP, or medical professional so she can be referred for diagnosis if that's what you want for her/
It's not essential to have a diagnosis, but it does open a lot of doors for support from your local health authority and also for possible benefits.
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Thanks Willow, really appreciate it!
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Hi Willow - we are in the process of revising the rules, and this is a revision due to spamming and phishing issues.
Although the physical ability exists to have a url in the signature, the new revision asks that forum members(including moderators) don't have links to external sites in their signatures or profiles.
So it would be much appreciated if you could remove yours thanks x
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Didn't get it - I know the HR woman that was dealing with the hiring process and it turned out that they really wanted to take as many of us as possible! They had an approval for 10, but sent back the whole approval document to add more to it - when they got it back they only had approval for 8! So they ended up taking on less than they originally planned - if it had been 9 I would have got it!
But - I have first refusal for the next intake which is next month so now I have been through it I won't be nervous anymore and hopefully get it this time round
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Hi and welcome to the forum!
I think you are putting a heck of a lot of pressure on yourself to get better so quickly.
You've been through quite a lot of difficult things as you have said, and it's only natural to have this amount of fallout. People with ASD tend to not cope as well with crisis situations, and even if they do, it tends to be over a long period as they acclimatise to whats been happening to them. Some can't acclimatise, and need help. This varies from person to person how they handle it and how much.
Your friend are right in that you need to be a bit more pro active and start getting back out there - but, you need to do this in your own time and at your own rate. One good thing about interests are there are an infinite number of them out there, so at one point something will spark your curiousity. That will come in time.
From the sound of it your emotional state is affecting your ability to focus or concentrate on things like you used to. This is something you need to actually discuss with your doctor because as well as CBT, I do think attending a psychologist would do you the world of good too. They are complimentary therapies so it might be worth mentioning to your GP so you can get referred.
As for making friends, you've made a good start by going on forums like this! There are a lot of people on the spectrum, as well as parents of people with ASD here so there is a wealth of knowledge and friendly people
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Smiley you are well enough to recognise you are having problems. So talk to your mum about how you are feeling instead of letting yourself spiral.
You're a capable young woman who can take charge of your life and make it into whatever you want.
So figure out what you want from life, talk to the right people about it(doctors and your parents) and don't let your aunt get you down. You have the power to change your life, don't let this stop you.
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Have you any idea what's triggered it off?
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You need to talk to your parents and your cmt team.
You've been doing really well lately and while its understandable that you have been affected by your aunt - you need to keep positive and focus on the positive things.
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I'm was diagnosed when I turned 31(on the day of my birthday no less!) - while a diagnosis isn't the be all and end all of being on the spectrum, it does mean being taken more seriously by your local health authority for getting access to psychological services for treatments like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, or even just a psychologist to talk to.
You have to ask yourself what you want to get out of an official diagnosis, and what it means to you. If you feel you really want one, then by all means go for it. But it can be a lot more difficult to be taken seriously as women are historically harder to diagnose. One of the best ways to get referred is to write down what your ASD means to you and how it affects you. Write a diary over the course of a week, noting all the issues you have, like sensory problems, instances of being stressed out and what caused it - that kind of thing. There are a lot of women on the spectrum here that you can talk to about it!
I have no problems with body language, and have been told I am quite empathetic to a degree to the point when people meet me they don't think I have Aspergers, but as they get to know me they see all the wee 'quirks' that couldn't be mistaken for anything else. We don't all fit the classical profile of someone with Aspergers - so bear in that in mind
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Then to clarify ;
Ordinary members can no longer post links to external websites without prior messaging a moderator who will then verify the link as to how safe it is and then message the ordinary member to say they can post that link ?
A question based on the above ; where does personal bias fit into this, can it exist that a moderator can decide against an external link because they disagree with the content ?
Do other moderators have access to other moderators private messaging, because the situation exists that if one messages a moderator who is online at the time, that moderator can go offline as suits their lifestyle and might not be on site again for any amount of time there leaving the ordinary member unanswered, of which I can tell you now ordinary members could very well be upset with ?
You see, I have experienced what I suspect was moderator abuse of privilege on this website before, where a moderator sought to silence my questioning and there pursued me via private messaging asking asinine questions not related to the topics in hand of which I found deeply upsetting and indeed threatening and having experienced that I can't quite forget and so I will naturally be suspicious and what occurred today has reignited that suspicion, I am sure you will understand.
Perhaps a compromise can be reached here.
in regards to posts, yes you are right moderators aren't always online. But there are one or two on at least once an hour so we can endeavour to check posts that have links in them with view to stopping the issues we are trying to remedy here. The only way a link would be deleted is if indeed it was an attempt to attack the site.
What I do suggest on your part, and other forum members is that if they feel that there may be a chance for offence, upset or distress that they mention some sort of disclaimer to that effect when they have a link in the post.
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I can promise you that this thread is not in any way retailiatory, nor is it in any way an abuse of privilege.
As I have explained, there are genuine reasons for this thread - none of which are to get at anyone in any way.
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Andy, your first question has been answered.
We are just trying to cut down the opportunities for phishing/spamming that anti virus and anti malware won't protect against. This site doesn't have the in-built capability to detect phishing.
You are turning something quite innocent into another conspiracy, which it isn't. Pardon my bluntness but that's the way it is.
No one has went into your posts and deleted any of your links, as they have been checked out and found to be ok.
But sometimes people do post links to sites that can be dangerous or even a ruse to steal a password or two.
A lot of websites have measures against phishing and spamming, this is no different.
I'm sorry if I'm not giving you the answer you want, but I'm being completely straight with you so I'm giving you the only answer I can.
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What was said was that no links are to be put in profiles or signatures. The links that are in posts need to be checked out - that's all. You've posted a lot of links lately and they are still there aren't they?
The research questionnaires are actually run by the moderating team before they are posted already and have been for a long time - so people can still do research or contribute to it as well.
We're trying to make sure that you and our other forum members don't have their computers, and by extention themselves - exploited. Just trying to do the right thing.
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No, it's due to some spammers messing with the site. So in order to try and stop this from happening the moderating team and admins thought it best to have a blanket policy of no links in profiles or signatures.
It's already in the forum guidelines, but it bears repeating as we don't want anyone to have their computers or devices potentially exposed to attack.
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None of us are medical professionals here, and we're not qualified to give medical advice.
However melatonin isn't really good for children as they already produce it naturally.
Bedtime routines are always a good way to promote sleep. No tv or technology in the bedroom, a bath at a certain time. Lots of activity during the day to wear them out - things like that.
There are a lot of parents on here with similar issues, I'm sure they will have lots of tips and advice to give!
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Well here's an idea - take the rest of the week off for yourself to sleep and eat - then start back on Monday.
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You can't really go to the gym if you haven't eaten. You probably end up in a pretty bad way kiddo. I don't think you should be going to zumba either if you aren't eating and aren't up to your full strength. You know what you should be doing to take care of yourself, so do it. Eat well, eat often and exercise. Other than that, you need to see a doctor if what I say isn't making sense - i'm not a doctor and can't offer you medical advice x
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If you are tired then yes. It will affect the rest of your routine if you don't.
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Perhaps this has just put things into perspective for you. Try and build on that and move on x
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That's brilliant
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Mike - I'm not saying he should stick to IT or anything like that. That's just where I've ended up and there's a lot of us there which is kind of cool
But Mike is right - you need to find something that matches your skills and also something you are actually interested in for a career, and see if you can stand it sensory wise.
You will always be able to ask for reasonable adjustments to help with them, but it's a really good idea to see what you can actually cope with and find ways to cope better with the things you can't. Occupational Therapy is a great way to build those mechanisms up.
On a measure of 0-10 how well do you think you bond with others in a social context?
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Sally - need a cake decorator?