I am a single parent with a two sons 17 and 19. The 19 year old has ADHD and Asperger's. We have had problems through the years but nothing like this. He tried college but didn't cope with it, so he left in January.
He tells me he will do things and agrees to me signing him up just to shut me up and then on the day he refuses to go. He said he would start college again this September but didn't, said he would apply for jobs, he would go to an Austim employment workshop, he would go to an Asperger's social group, he didn't do any of them.
I don't put to much pressure on him now as it just winds him up, but he did agree to do chores so he can get Internet access, but I come home from work at 1pm and he is still in bed and then he does nothing all day. He stays in his room, reading, or playing an off-line game. He refuses to talk to me most of the time, just completely ignores me when I speak to him. He blocks his bedroom door with furniture so I can't get in.
He has no life which makes me sad and I hate the way he is being so rude and disrespectful to me and I don't know what to do about it.