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    And that is the problem as one has to declare such things to prospective employers, asperger's one can get away with it through it being known as the geek syndrome, useful in some occupations but say you are autistic as per the current guidelines and all manner of ideas come to mind and the aforementioned public perception of what autistic is.

     

    And let's not forget here jobs are scarce in the UK at the moment and any sympathy that was for people with PDD's is waning fast and my understanding is if one is not obviously autistic one is gong to come in for a very hard time in the future where one will be what I described before, a fake if one is not the public perception.

     

    My situation I have got to get a job simple as that but I want a job because I am fed up with living like this, but the lovely job centre has already told me they can't help me through the belief given age and diagnosi I am pretty much unemployable in this present employment climate, but still I have to go through the motions of finding a job whilst I am under attack from a government that believes me to be a malingerer for not having a job as to remember they are going on the report made by a paid organisation brought in to re assess sickness and disability, not the BMA whose doctors have said people are not fit to work, in effect the government have negated the opinion of the medical profession and chose a computer programme to assess people's ability to work.

     

    But what many of the public do not know is on average 73 people are dying per week as a direct and indirect result of the stress this paid organisation is causing to the sick and disabled and that figure comes from the DWP report into the situation itself, so they know what they are doing but the name of the game is get people of benefits one way or the other.

     

    http://blacktriangle...r-claim-ending/

     

    But I want a job, what I fear is not getting a job due to diagnosi which one is legally obliged to declare and given my past work record pre diagnosis where employers have said to me if they knew I was like I was, they would never have employed me, so I know I have certain disagreeable issues in work of which I can only attribute to Asperger's Syndrome now to be relabelled Autistic.

     

    One is supposed to be positive about the future, but that is wearing very thin in society of today where one is not getting answers to important issues and one is under attack from one's own country daily.

     

    you took the words out my mouth my dear.

     

    Unfortunately I'm in the opposite situation and have been on several occasions. I have been employed, mentioned explicitly that I have Asperger's and then everything seems ok cause I settle in good and something goes bad, they don't know how to handle it and then I walk out my job. Happened twice now, just because on the face of it, they think 'oh he's intelligent' and then bypass everything else... which has resulted in some odd situations...

     

    Recently Through Jobcentre, I got on with Remploy who helped me find this Marks & Spencers job, and luckily with frequent discussions and the like between me and managers, everything is fine and we have had no major problems at all. I would try to get help from remploy if you can.

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    Hey a job is a job, And it's not unusual for temp jobs to transulate into a full time job, as it saves the employer re hiring. espeshilly if you make a good impression. (who are they most likely to take on? someone who's proved themselves? or gamble with a new guy?)

     

    always a fair point but word has it that they took on loads of Permanent staff back in July.... we shall see, but fingers crossed.

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    Been a while since I was on here...

     

    have been struggling with varying degrees of thought patterns over the last 4 or 5 months but I have felt slightly happier as I have got a job with marks and spencers until the 29th december, anything after that is in the hands of the gods as they say.

     

    I started back in october and I am liking it a fair bit, nice people to work with (bar one but I shall explain later), the canteen serves nice hot food and it's near to where I live.

     

    The only real annoying thing about the job is tidying up after the public, it amazes me how something which takes me 20 mins to tidy up and get perfectly neat on display gets ruined within seconds... however that's retail for you. I'm not doing anything special, just tills, tidying up and mes fitting room work, its alright, its quite social but with it being really busy I get tired out very quickly.

     

    the one person I don't get on with/ struggle to tolerate is another lad, he's 7 years older than me yet our personailites and behaviours are so closely related its starting to grate a little. I can work with him as and when I need to but I rather wouldn't and the managers feel the same as well. it doesn't help because if I am near someone loud I talk louder without knowing it and they need me to be quieter, which I have nailed unless I am working with this other guy. the managers know about this and we have made agreements regarding it so everything is running smoothly again :)

     

    Just so worried about not having a job after the 29th though and January is a bad time for jobs :(

     

    perosnal update as well,

     

    those of you regulars who know me, well the problems i had with a previous employer have been left behind... I sought legal advice but didn't go through with it as I wish pretty stressed from a full time call centre job and as a result I had colic spasms and some sickness, so I had to leave it behind me, for which I feel better.

     

    I was also diagnosed with an underactive thyroid problem! so I am now on thyroxine to help me out :)

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    Be nice just to have a job! lol.

     

    Yes, they were aware of the Diagnosis from Day 1

     

    There has been nothing written at all which is very strange. it has all been verbal.

     

    I could not revoke the hours at the agency job which was full time.

     

    the part time job alone doesn't bring in enough money, in mind my wages are now helping support mum and dad, times are tough, things aren't easy but that goes for everyone.

     

    Probably work at another bar, I am after this for the justice.

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    Hi all,

     

    long time no see.

     

    I ended up with a job at an agency recently working for NatWest. I resigned last week from the RBS assignment as it was far too stressful and affecting my health. The agency are keen to help me and we have no problems there.

     

    My bar job was part time and was at a venue in Leicester for the local council and I loved that job ever so much. When I started RBS i notified them of the arrangement and there have been some issues. RBS had me contracted so I could work whatever shift whatever day at a drop of a hat notice. this caused some problems when cancelling shifts at my bar job as apparently the main manager says that I wasn't giving them the statutory 7 days notice. anyways. There was an email exchange between me and said manager, which I still have and I basically said to him that he was being unfair and that his man management skills left something to be desired. he doesn't understand my issues and doesn;t treat everyone fairly.

     

    My parents and I have spoke and the lovely agency lady knows as well now (Had to let them know so they can help find me more work but I am left now with NO income at all) and the manager had a meeting today with me and effectively fired me. needless to say I have had a ******g **** day today and feel as lost as ever. I feel a lot worse now than i did at the beginning of the week. this is not helping my depression. as far as we can tell, it is possible that the manager has broken about 7 laws/clauses in laws, some of those relating to the Disabilities equality act.

     

    I really need some help and legal advice, I am not doing this for money, I am doing this for the Justice of Myself and others like me. the problem is I am trying to get into contact with the Citizens advice Bureau and they are not open today so feel very lost right now. me and mum will go through my contract tonight and see what's there but still I want to know where I stand.

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    Hi all,

     

    Thanks for the replies, it is both reassuring and interesting to read about the experiences.

     

    I also seem to think that another contributing factor could well be the fact that 8 months ago we lost a really close friend, guy was old enough to be like a grand dad to me, great bloke, and i have got over that etc, but it's just over the last year I have known friends who have lost close family etc, yet all mine are still breathing. (Which IS a good thing!!!! lol) and it doesn't help wondering on the fact of when will it happen to the eldest in the family???

     

    Darkshine, I am going for it head on... well I think I am!!!!! but yeah, it's not easy and i hate it. still got the heavy stomach feeling again which is the depression kicking in for the day.. thanks for the words mate :)

     

     

     

    before can i ask did something happen when you were in the shower that seems to trigger of a panic attack. i have a few things cos of my flashbacks trigger me and then i panic wondered if it were the same for u

     

    Not particularly, not that I notice it can happen at whatever point it feels like coming on.

     

    Lancs lad, Yes, I think you could be right. I am 6' 2' tall and often have hypotension issues when standing up after kneeling down etc. with this being a common thing at work perhaps the blood pressure and heat change element could be the trigger. I am tempted to experiment with my routine and see how it goes. it may just work having showers in the morning, but then I have to overcome the feeling i'm going bed dirty!!! LOL so out of one hurdle and head over heels into the next one... lol.

     

    anyways thanks for the replies, means a lot to me :) keep them coming by all means if you have any other ideas/theories.

  20. Posted · Edited by Bluesbreaker · Report reply

    Hi all, (yes I return... but that's another story!)

     

    I know it's late but I need to type this up before I forget.

     

    About two years ago I had the Onset of Mild/severe depression, and at the same time I was having a s*** relationship with this girl. I don't know how it happens or why but I seem to have these weird panic attack type things when I am in the shower, and recently they have resurfaced.

     

    Over the last week I have had three of these episodes and on one occasion woke up the whole house at 1.30am when I had a shower after my bar job.

     

    I don't know how to describe it other than an onset which causes me to shut my eyes cover my ears and start shouting, IDK what I shout, but I know I shout 'No stop it' repeatedly.

     

    I don't get why I shout but I have horrid upsetting feelings when I do, and just before, I know when it happens or when it will strike which is also quite odd. (And I mean I know as in 5 seconds beforehand etc).

     

    I get terrified feelings about getting older, when I close my eyes sometimes i just see numbers scrolling right by. It really upsets me, then I start thinking what will happen when my parents are no longer here and what if I'm still single etc. the episodes can happen for upto 2 mins sometimes and its horrid. I'm teary just typing it up, I had a very big massive 'episode' (the one which woke up mum, dad and probably half a mile radius...) which I am still trying to get over.

     

    I was very upset for hours after the episode and couldn't get to sleep until 3.30am. luckily mum had got up when I left the bathroom and we had a quick chat and a nice hug which helped, but its a horrid feeling and it keeps coming back to attack me but I don't know why it is in just the shower at the moment? I am also terrified that It will happen at other times which could lead to embarrassment in public. ***EDIT*** I was also not keen on eating the morning after either which for me is unusual as I eat like a horse.

     

    Idk if it is a panic attack or what it is, I have depression still, but I can't see it being related to that when I have been on medication on a nice level playing field for 6 months or more.

     

    it's really distressing and I wondered If anyone else has any views on whether they thing this is a panic attack or something of that ilk. either way a trip to the doctors seems necessary ASAP.

     

    thanks for reading it if you do! x

     

    cheers,

    B

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    I'm probably not the best person to get started on transport as i have a general interest in transport planning and especially railways and can talk for hours. As well as nationwide railway and transport strategies I know a bit about the "boring" stuff like the names of every Class 50 in order and all the different diesels and why D6337 was the best class 22!

     

    As well as that ive downloaded and studied documents such as the 1963 "Reshaping British Railways" drawn up by Dr. Beeching....

     

    So yeah i quite enjoy the subject lol!

     

    and without googling I challenge you to number the only class 37 not to make it into the TOPS numbering scheme! ;)

  23. Posted · Edited by Bluesbreaker · Report reply

    sounds like Coach has been employed for a special group and has the one tar brush.

     

    I have had this before as a kid and a teenager, and in my teens I have made a stand and told them right.. but that is beside the point.

     

    I say go to the NAS in your local area who set it up and explain the situation to them, you have spoke to the coach in a nice way and tried being diplomatic and constructive, to no avail, therefore I say go to NAS and see what they say.

     

    In all honesty, I think it is a typical physical activities instructor acting like 'the one and only' in this world. I have had tutors for various sports (cricket, basketball among others) and the majority of the time, specialist group or not, a lot of the tutors, A) do not fully understand the varying degrees of Autistic/Asperger's issues and how they work B ) they are overly big headed and seem to not always place their brain in the right place (I.e. Making suitable work and achievements based on the individual rather than their own goals as a tutor) and C) as you have suggested, they want to make a quick buck.

     

    The issue I see is issue A and B here (C i do and don't but I shall explain) The tutor has basically expressed that they do not fully understand your child's needs and requirements which may also include challenging behavior. Your child has five belts which is a great achievement and even I would be proud of that, and with this in mind the tutor must be doing something right, but perhaps the tutor needs to be instructed by someone on putting measures in place to keep his behavior under control during lessons. the tutor also needs to try and control the overly pain in the rear kid. I would love to congratulate your child for not whacking them one and just keeping the outburst as a vocal thing, which is in many respects, a positive sign.

     

    I say C does not really apply here, when I put my mind to it. I think it is more of 'threat' (but more to scare you???) to try and get you to deal with the problem. I get the feeling that that tutor is trying to make out that since it is your child you must deal with the whole situation and that they are not interested. Not fully making a quick buck, but I think this goes back to A and how the Tutor does not understand your son's needs.

     

    As previously suggested I would take it to the local Autistic society.

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    what you refer to as unconscious.. I always call auto-pilote..

     

    Which is A better term for it :)

     

    I have to often go to sleep too, its like I'm overloaded and I need to recharge - pretty inconvenient sometimes, especially when there's a lot of things need doing.

     

    I don't use any hand-driers :P I have an issue with warm air breeding more germs - I like places with the automatic taps though cuz with old fashioned ones I never see the point in washing my hands at all - cuz I have to touch the tap to turn the water off and the tap is probably pretty dirty - and nobody else seems to consider that!

     

    I like the idea of the antibacterial hand gel - I've been thinking about it for a while (I've seen the pocket sized bottles) but I haven't bought any yet because of an underlying issue with people thinking I might have ocd :rolleyes: even when I probably do in some areas.... I might get some ;)

     

    I never thought about the hot air issue..... good point.

     

    I wouldn't worry about the Gel They have it in doctors surgeries and hospitals and all sorts of places these days so you can use it as you see fit :)

     

    the contactless taps were the best idea since sliced bread in my eyes, I totally agree with you, the only manual taps I like are the ones with the large arms or such, so you can wash your hands and turn the taps off with your elbow (seen this done in hospitals)

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    Even if I an in the 'unconscious' state I wtill get worn out very quickly and very tired. it isn't uncommon for me to go town and come home and go sleep for a while.

     

    You would probably like the hand driers in the Highcross centre, contactless, extremely powerful and you don't need to touch anything to activate it! which is even better!

     

    the other thing i can recommend is the antibacterial hand gel which you can get in a small pocket bottle from superdrug for about a quid. that is also pretty handy!

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