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  1. thought I would share this with you. sorry in advance for spelling mistakes and such, i took it from my MSN conversation, edited it then spell checked it, only problem is my spell checker put some weird stuff in I'm not sure... cut to the chase.... I was seriously ill in hospital. One minute I am sat in an office with a doctor, all I can remember is him saying there is something wrong with my lungs. I mention bronchitis and he says it’s developed on that, he then said you won’t be out of here for a while. I remember the corridor vividly, it was very high ceilinged, quite narrow, about 10 to 12 feet wide, late Victorian building and horrid prefab like doors (like schools have). I remember leaving the office, closing the door, and walking to my right as if I came out the door. Then randomly, out of nowhere, I was in a bed, laid up, propped up, covered in blankets and stuff, naked chest with wires hanging around. I remember feeling like I was stabbed in an arm with something, so I say it was a painkilling injection or something. I then remember fading in and out of consciousness, then I came round. I managed to remember the date and noticed I had a shift, but without my rota sheet (HOW???). So I ran out of the hospital with the wires attached, I felt no weight, I just knew I was running. All of a sudden the scene changes, I’m in hoodie, my white boots, t shirt and jeans, but everything was torn and tatty. I was at work but work looked different. It was older, bigger, and darker, with never ending staircases. I then found the door to the office. I saw my boss, I said I was ill, I shouldn’t be there and he said that fine we will still pay you. Then everyone walks by me like a ghost, like I don’t exist, they were all solemn, all frowning. The corridor was dark and stuff, then as I left down the stairs, I tripped and fell landing into a void and face planted on the floor against a wall. I broke several bones and it was weird, I could FEEL the pain, I couldn't move and I could feel that. Then it just like snapped and I woke up.... Weird or what?
  2. dating sites....

    what a ruddy mess thats about. luckily i read all the terms and conditions so know my rights very well indeed, so no harm to me, but just signed up to plenty more fish... worth a shot.... get your profile sorted all that lark... then to send a message you need to pay for the privilege..... GAHHHHHH! whoever came up with this bull.... capitalism is a real nonce. I was making a sensible move, i don't get much chance to meet people and stuff and all i want to do is go on a few dates... anyway yeah rant over.... so any other alternatives, and don't say wait and you will find someone, cause i'm about ready to fire a missile in the direction of the internet if i hear or read that one more time, lol! it's just such a nightmare.... really is i'm either stupid or forgot my medication today... lol edit: the filter doesn't like my ''offensive'' language, however i used a swear word and it didn't block it...
  3. does anyone believe this 2012 stuff?

    cause I'm seriously bricking it and so far had three panic attacks and other problems thinking about it..... I don't know about some stupid calender or volcano but seriously a war is possible.....
  4. you took the words out my mouth my dear. Unfortunately I'm in the opposite situation and have been on several occasions. I have been employed, mentioned explicitly that I have Asperger's and then everything seems ok cause I settle in good and something goes bad, they don't know how to handle it and then I walk out my job. Happened twice now, just because on the face of it, they think 'oh he's intelligent' and then bypass everything else... which has resulted in some odd situations... Recently Through Jobcentre, I got on with Remploy who helped me find this Marks & Spencers job, and luckily with frequent discussions and the like between me and managers, everything is fine and we have had no major problems at all. I would try to get help from remploy if you can.
  5. does anyone believe this 2012 stuff?

    yeah I suppose.... ah well, only a week to find out, I have a few beers in just in case like! lol nah going to be busy all next week with xmas shopping and work, work at this time of year is enough to wear me out!
  6. What's everyone listening to?

  7. ASD and Obsessions

    Trains and Buses for me, still that way now!
  8. Been a while since I was on here... have been struggling with varying degrees of thought patterns over the last 4 or 5 months but I have felt slightly happier as I have got a job with marks and spencers until the 29th december, anything after that is in the hands of the gods as they say. I started back in october and I am liking it a fair bit, nice people to work with (bar one but I shall explain later), the canteen serves nice hot food and it's near to where I live. The only real annoying thing about the job is tidying up after the public, it amazes me how something which takes me 20 mins to tidy up and get perfectly neat on display gets ruined within seconds... however that's retail for you. I'm not doing anything special, just tills, tidying up and mes fitting room work, its alright, its quite social but with it being really busy I get tired out very quickly. the one person I don't get on with/ struggle to tolerate is another lad, he's 7 years older than me yet our personailites and behaviours are so closely related its starting to grate a little. I can work with him as and when I need to but I rather wouldn't and the managers feel the same as well. it doesn't help because if I am near someone loud I talk louder without knowing it and they need me to be quieter, which I have nailed unless I am working with this other guy. the managers know about this and we have made agreements regarding it so everything is running smoothly again Just so worried about not having a job after the 29th though and January is a bad time for jobs perosnal update as well, those of you regulars who know me, well the problems i had with a previous employer have been left behind... I sought legal advice but didn't go through with it as I wish pretty stressed from a full time call centre job and as a result I had colic spasms and some sickness, so I had to leave it behind me, for which I feel better. I was also diagnosed with an underactive thyroid problem! so I am now on thyroxine to help me out
  9. I got a job.... although it is temp....

    it is slowly helping thanks, the doctor has just upped my dosage so we shall see more improvements over the next month or two
  10. Brainsex Matters- research

    i scored 8 digit 2 on the left hand is longer than digit 4 on the right hand digit 2 is SHORTER than digit 4. Strange!
  11. I got a job.... although it is temp....

    always a fair point but word has it that they took on loads of Permanent staff back in July.... we shall see, but fingers crossed.
  12. in terms of helping kids and people get the right support, its a great idea. in terms of naming and such like, I hate it, I would rather be called Asperger's any day of the week rather than 'Autistic'
  13. Hi all, long time no see. I ended up with a job at an agency recently working for NatWest. I resigned last week from the RBS assignment as it was far too stressful and affecting my health. The agency are keen to help me and we have no problems there. My bar job was part time and was at a venue in Leicester for the local council and I loved that job ever so much. When I started RBS i notified them of the arrangement and there have been some issues. RBS had me contracted so I could work whatever shift whatever day at a drop of a hat notice. this caused some problems when cancelling shifts at my bar job as apparently the main manager says that I wasn't giving them the statutory 7 days notice. anyways. There was an email exchange between me and said manager, which I still have and I basically said to him that he was being unfair and that his man management skills left something to be desired. he doesn't understand my issues and doesn;t treat everyone fairly. My parents and I have spoke and the lovely agency lady knows as well now (Had to let them know so they can help find me more work but I am left now with NO income at all) and the manager had a meeting today with me and effectively fired me. needless to say I have had a ******g **** day today and feel as lost as ever. I feel a lot worse now than i did at the beginning of the week. this is not helping my depression. as far as we can tell, it is possible that the manager has broken about 7 laws/clauses in laws, some of those relating to the Disabilities equality act. I really need some help and legal advice, I am not doing this for money, I am doing this for the Justice of Myself and others like me. the problem is I am trying to get into contact with the Citizens advice Bureau and they are not open today so feel very lost right now. me and mum will go through my contract tonight and see what's there but still I want to know where I stand.
  14. Hi all, Christmas has been and gone now but i have had time to reflect on a few things especially revolving around busy places. Firstly, we know shopping areas are really busy around xmas, and I seem to think I cope really well considering I have AS and go out on my own now (well I am 19!) but sometimes I just feel out of it and feel i need like someone to guide me through sort of thing. when it gets really busy in the Highcross shopping centre (nearest one to me) I am aware whats going on but not aware, like I am subconsciously carrying on. I sometimes on the odd occasion start feeling ill and sick because my mind isn't with me, if that makes sense. I also sometimes feel like sitting down on the floor with my head in my knees trying to get away from it. How i manage to function in those situations is beyond me. I know the obvious thing to do would be avoid that area but thing is A lot of the time I cannot avoid busy places either due to a shop i need to go to or a shortcut to a place i need to go. What do you do? I would like to know. it just seems like i am regressing from progress from when i was 15 instead of progressing.... and it's dragging a bit.... the other thing is buses. I LOVE buses, absolutely LOVE them, everything, the engines, the controls, bodywork you name it I know it. This means I enjoy riding on buses in Principal. I have experienced recently, a few service changes which means the buses are busier due to a drop in frequency of buses and I am starting to struggle a lot with buses. I know it is public transport but when I get on a bus I don't want anyone sitting next to me, I don't know them, what germs do they carry, what if they smell horrid? (and some do ) If I shift over i am stuck next to the window and I feel I can't escape, like I'm trapped.... I sometimes sit on the side facing seats but this now even makes me ill so I have to stop that... Do any of you get a similar thing and how do you cope with it??? And lastly..... Some of you might hate me talking about this due to the germ relation to it (I know many ASD's are ''weird'' on the topic' but how do you cope with public toilets? This is something I struggle with an awful lot. luckily I don't live in the 80's so I already know that I won't get aids from the toilet seat (I was taught this in humanities many moons ago, lol) but When you go somewhere and there is urine over the toilet seat. pubic hairs and skids in the loo, what do you do? (rhyme not intended lol) If you have to do business you have to do it.... its got to the point where I carry antibacterial wipes with me and wipe any toilet seat I come across before using it. I don't know if any of you do the same, but I am starting to think I am a bit of a Germaphobe??? anyways it's late so peace out
  15. require a legal aid solicitor fast.

    Be nice just to have a job! lol. Yes, they were aware of the Diagnosis from Day 1 There has been nothing written at all which is very strange. it has all been verbal. I could not revoke the hours at the agency job which was full time. the part time job alone doesn't bring in enough money, in mind my wages are now helping support mum and dad, times are tough, things aren't easy but that goes for everyone. Probably work at another bar, I am after this for the justice.
  16. I am looking for a card game for autismic children

    Ahh in that case scrap my idea! from what angle are you trying to teach them? it's all interesting I must admit!
  17. Hi all, (yes I return... but that's another story!) I know it's late but I need to type this up before I forget. About two years ago I had the Onset of Mild/severe depression, and at the same time I was having a s*** relationship with this girl. I don't know how it happens or why but I seem to have these weird panic attack type things when I am in the shower, and recently they have resurfaced. Over the last week I have had three of these episodes and on one occasion woke up the whole house at 1.30am when I had a shower after my bar job. I don't know how to describe it other than an onset which causes me to shut my eyes cover my ears and start shouting, IDK what I shout, but I know I shout 'No stop it' repeatedly. I don't get why I shout but I have horrid upsetting feelings when I do, and just before, I know when it happens or when it will strike which is also quite odd. (And I mean I know as in 5 seconds beforehand etc). I get terrified feelings about getting older, when I close my eyes sometimes i just see numbers scrolling right by. It really upsets me, then I start thinking what will happen when my parents are no longer here and what if I'm still single etc. the episodes can happen for upto 2 mins sometimes and its horrid. I'm teary just typing it up, I had a very big massive 'episode' (the one which woke up mum, dad and probably half a mile radius...) which I am still trying to get over. I was very upset for hours after the episode and couldn't get to sleep until 3.30am. luckily mum had got up when I left the bathroom and we had a quick chat and a nice hug which helped, but its a horrid feeling and it keeps coming back to attack me but I don't know why it is in just the shower at the moment? I am also terrified that It will happen at other times which could lead to embarrassment in public. ***EDIT*** I was also not keen on eating the morning after either which for me is unusual as I eat like a horse. Idk if it is a panic attack or what it is, I have depression still, but I can't see it being related to that when I have been on medication on a nice level playing field for 6 months or more. it's really distressing and I wondered If anyone else has any views on whether they thing this is a panic attack or something of that ilk. either way a trip to the doctors seems necessary ASAP. thanks for reading it if you do! x cheers, B
  18. I am looking for a card game for autismic children

    What age Children are we talking about? if they are interested in Amazing facts and stuff and want a simple game Top trumps could be a candidate, it all depends on the kids themselves.
  19. Not sure if I am having Panic attacks or not.

    Aye, Aye, Admiral
  20. Not sure if I am having Panic attacks or not.

    Hi all, Thanks for the replies, it is both reassuring and interesting to read about the experiences. I also seem to think that another contributing factor could well be the fact that 8 months ago we lost a really close friend, guy was old enough to be like a grand dad to me, great bloke, and i have got over that etc, but it's just over the last year I have known friends who have lost close family etc, yet all mine are still breathing. (Which IS a good thing!!!! lol) and it doesn't help wondering on the fact of when will it happen to the eldest in the family??? Darkshine, I am going for it head on... well I think I am!!!!! but yeah, it's not easy and i hate it. still got the heavy stomach feeling again which is the depression kicking in for the day.. thanks for the words mate Not particularly, not that I notice it can happen at whatever point it feels like coming on. Lancs lad, Yes, I think you could be right. I am 6' 2' tall and often have hypotension issues when standing up after kneeling down etc. with this being a common thing at work perhaps the blood pressure and heat change element could be the trigger. I am tempted to experiment with my routine and see how it goes. it may just work having showers in the morning, but then I have to overcome the feeling i'm going bed dirty!!! LOL so out of one hurdle and head over heels into the next one... lol. anyways thanks for the replies, means a lot to me keep them coming by all means if you have any other ideas/theories.
  21. Scram cat!

    get a cushion for the cat or something in the corner of your room, might get the cat to lie on that instead of the bed?
  22. I Don't Think I'm An Aspie After All

    What the heck???
  23. I'm back again!

    been a while since i last logged in. what a weird time I'v had... left college, got too much for me, kids bullying me, then i would go through the correct channels, there would be tellings off and then the same would happen again, and again..... diagnosed with depression in january, can't remember if i told you lot or not, anyway idiot here decides not to take them mid-july, things went completely off the scale and I nearly ended up doing aggressive things I wouldn't normally do!!! needless to say I went back on the tablets!! looking for more work, still have the bar job, I nearly lost it as the boss was aggressive to me on the phone over a shift I hadn't turned up for (which i forgot about!), got verbal warning for 'attendance' and walked away scott free, then transpires that they didn't have a clue what Asperger's was!!!! yet i gave them ample notice and descriptions on the ruddy application form! anyway things are running smoother now, they know how to understand me now, which helps an awful lot. I don't understand myself half the time! LOL! still single, which i find really annoying, I do not know if other aspie's find this a problem like i do? (would be interesting to find out) left my old bands behind and joined a new one, with my former bass player, we have been going on non stop doing two practices a week and we are still hungry for lots more having tremendous fun and loving every minute of it, I have also been made a lead guitarist in the process, I didn't know my playing was that good in all honesty!! and that's me upto speed, thought i would just do it as one big thread thingy so its out the way and done with, lol. hope you lot are well and I hope the regulars are still about
  24. Jobcentres are depressing

    I went in the leicester one after college as I had tons of time on my hands.... I walked out with three jobs, I had found five, two of which i already applied to with no success. I work on a bar at the rugby club, I love doing it, so naturally i would look for bar work, and i found three in that area of work... slightly less casual and a bit more formal offerings, but when i read two of them it said 'this company has claimed an exemption from the Equality act 2010' to me that read they don't want anyone who may be disabled. I'm not sure... but in the last few months, there has been very few things that have mademe feel on a downer.... that was one of them...... (the other being my Ex girlfriend, which im saving for another time...) how does it make others feel? it severely upsets me, rather than annoys me, that I am perfectly capable of doing bar work, and communicating well with people yet i feel in the dark... that people don't care, that businessmen are evil misunderstanding people who are just out there to hurt my feelings as well as others.