Hi Everyone, I am new here, I am having a hard time this weekend, and I need some people who can relate to me and what I am experiencing...
On Tuesday last week said told me his plans, he does this each week so I know what's happening.
Dad said was going to his partners 's Friday and him and her were coming with her grand children sat afternoon.
X is Dad's Partner, he and Mum divorced in 2001, I live with Dad and have done ever since.
On Wednesday he went to X' house, I said to him that Id like to ask them both when I see them, if they wanted to come over one weekend and stop here, as they
don't come much any more, and he exploded and said " Don't you dare talk to her" and I said but it wont be her alone, you will be there too.
Dad came home from work as he finishes at 12noon Fridays, and he went to X's house, he phoned at 4pm Friday and said X had said why don't we all go to dinner, which I accepted, I understood it being Dad, I and X and the kids.
I confirmed via text that he was coming to get me and then we were going to dinner and then they were going back to hers and then come here sat afternoon as he had told me on Tuesday.
He then replied and said that they were staying tonight, and was that a problem, and that he had made this change of the spur of moment, as he thought I would be glad of the company, well being the told me these plans on Tuesday and we had agreed them, he ought to have known would cause me issue by him changing things and making on the spur changes,
I told him I wouldn't be coming to dinner and that I was going to Mothers and wished him a good evening and asked that he surly remembers agreeing the plans on Tuesday.
While at Mums, he then told me that he was going the caravan, which was another change. At least he told me this. I text him back and said " I wish he would make his mind up, firstly he was coming here Saturday, then he was coming Friday and now he is going the caravan.
There is something not right here. his behaviour is very irrational.
I went to see Mum tonight, and she says its very odd and that ' there isn't something right here'.
Well he is down his caravan now and I am waiting my 'fate' as I am sure to get some kinda of 'telling off' even though its not my fault.
When X wants to do something with her Daughter, or her Daughter wants to spend time with X, Dad then will stay home, because they want time together, and he will sometimes reluctantly will help me do things, or take me to B and Q to get things so I can do things.
I do stand up to him, be he threatened to throw me out the house on Wednesday when I said Id like to talk to both of them together, he said " Don't you dare, you'll be out the house".
I leave things for him to do to see if he will do them, he doesn't, bearing in mind this is my home and not my house, I do more then my fair share of things.
I have written a letter that I was going to give to him, would you have a read, it will give you a better understanding of what I am experiencing.
I am expecting him to explode again and say " Dont tell me what to do with my time!" I dont tell him, what to do with his time, I ask him things.
And he needs to know how I feel, not that it seems to make a difference, as he just goes ahead and makes the changes.
Any help or advice would be very welcome, as I cant be doing with this much more to be honest.
Moog