Over the years, I have slowly rectified some of the grosser aspects of my condition. However, the one crucial aspect that severely blights the relationship between my wife and I, is my inhibited range of emotions. Tony Attwood very sensibly described in his book on Aspergers that on a scale of 1 to 10 for someone with Aspergers, there tends to be two settings - the lower end between one and two, and the top between nine and ten, and nothing in the middle. I rather feel that I fall into that category, as I tend to over-react and badly handle anger management because of this within me. Even though I am 70, I would still like to be able to moderate these reactions within me.
I don't know how others experience this, how frequent it occurs, and what have people done about it. I feel that to go to my local GP would be very counter-productive, let alone the fact that neither do I desire to have it publicised, nor can I get it officially diagnosed. I feel that the range of counselling on offer would not have the experience to deal with my needs. Consequently, I would like to know what I can tap into both to help myself and possibly help others.
Of course, the other important emotional aspect that Attwood mentions and Baron-Cohen examines in his Adult Asperger Assessment, is that of "Qualitative impairments in verbalor non-verbal communication". Or in other words, I really, really wish that things would occur to me that should occur to me spontaneously. Once again, I feel the ability to talk about this with someone other than my wife would truly be a great help.
Many thanks for any help
