Hi Julie, Deep breaths in and out. You are not alone!! Firstly you should go to your doctor and ask for a referal to the local specialist for your son. It can take a few months to get an appointment but they will assess him and possible diagnose. If you say that you and his school suspect aspergers they should look carefully for that. It's basically, if he ticks enough boxes in the aspergers list he'll be diagnosed. It took only took 2 visits for my son to get diagnosed after i said i wanted him assessed for aspergers, but i had a great specialist.
It may be that your son just isn't ready for full time education (it definately sounds that way to me). but if his school has picked up on his aspergers then theres obviously some good teachers there. Work closely with them to organise a game plan, tell them what you think your son needs to help him and get them to call in an educational pscycologist and go from there. One step at a time.
Once/If he's diagnosed you can access all sorts of support groups in your community and also will be eligable for disability living allowance for your son, which is not means tested.
Good luck!!
Marie
