Hi Sasspy,
Don't give up. You are dealing with such a lot and it must make you feel like giving up. I hope that you have people who are around you that you are able to have a good off load to. With everything you are going through you need the support of friends and family.
It would seem that the professional support network that you have had is about to be changed, it is my advice that you speak to your TAC (i'm assuming that this is the team around the child?) lead professional and tell them that the support you are getting is not enough and you are concerned for your child’s welfare. Tell them that there are child protection concerns. He is putting himself at risk by going off until the early hours, he is a vulnerable child anyway and health concerns because he is not taking his medication and refusing school. They should on your request take the TAC to the next level and that usually means that the Local Authority has a duty to assess your child's needs. However; it may be that you have a CAMHS social worker but it sounds to me that you are both in need of more support. Has the education coordinator or been in touch with you about his school refusal?
It is a picture I see everyday where services are being cut for children and young people, however it is my experience that there are services out there you just need someone to point you in the right direction. You local Social Services, children with disabilities team may have some information about other services. In some areas of the country the services are still there but have different names and in new departments.
You seem to have a teenager whose hormones are surging and he is testing his ground. This is normal developmental behaviour for a lot of teenagers and you have to keep firm about your boundaries. If he is becoming too violent then please do not hesitate to call your local police as you seem to have a good relationship with them anyway and sometimes they are pretty good at talking teenagers down. Also from what you said you have a 7 year old and you need to keep her and yourself safe.
I hope that you are able to use some of this advice. Just know that people are thinking about you, don’t give up.
