A-S warrior
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@lancslad regarding your sowing seeds analogy, why settle for just one? or the other? why not sow a whole rainforest of lushfruits and flowing water, with all sorts of new and extiting animals and fruits to try?
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this is the one time where i would say, you are not there to make friends, you are there to get your qualification. freinds are just a mere bouns. at the end of the day you have us and a husband to come home to. and thats all that really matters in the grand scheme of things. pepeole that talk about you behind your back are not pepole you want to waste your energy on, save that energy for the pepole that matter in your life, the pepole that dont mind matter, the pepole that mind dont matter its as simple as 2+2! the amount of pepole ive ditched over the years because there two faced and untrustworthy, its really easy for me to delete there number and blank them in the street as soon as they step out of line. im also doing a maths class, im as mad as a box of frogs but because there genuine pepole they love me regardless.
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Peebs I do not blame you for feeling the way you do. I am not proud of what I was like at the time. If I have any defence it is that I was very immature and didn't understand what a relationship was all about at an emotional level, the concept of commitment meant nothing. The problem is however that as a species we develop the ability to mate long before many of us are responsible and mature enough to deploy that ability in a constructive way. In my experience the females I encountered were all very willing, some of them a lot older than me and very predetory to be honest, so would question who the victims are in this respect?
On returning to university and witnessing behaviour from a distance if anything I would say that females are the main players these days, thankfully this sort of behaviour is still in the minority. Just an opinion.
women that are "willing" are usually love starved by there fathers, and seek a replacement to fill that gap (no pun intended) its very rare that you find a primal women that want to sleep around without any kind of emotinal issues. so its up to men to sence this and be a gentleman and not take the oppertunity just because its offered to us on a plate. when those urges come you have to rember no matter what that is somebodys daughter your about to blow your load in. (yes i made it deliberatley disgusting to put the point across and eliminate the romance completley) women, and yourself! deserve respect, and true love is a thing worth being patient for, theres nothing quite like it.
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As warriors, where are you from? I have always wanted to make a documentary and write a book on what it's actually like to live with aspergers. A lot of these books teachers have to read aren't even written by those who live with it.
I think we could write quite well together. With your optimism, and my frustrations, we could get both views across.
im in the worthing area.
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I'm glad you feel so positively about your AS - but whilst it may be a gift for you, it can be very disabling for some people and I'm not sure they would agree with you that it is a gift. Not everyone with AS has supreme intelligence, nor a photographic memory. These are skills that you have, as an individual and it's great for you that you have been able to cultivate your skills but it's important that you appreciate that all people with autism are individuals and as such will feel differently as to how their autism affects them.
Lynne
do a google search of al the celebritys that have aspergers. you,ll see that im not an exeption and that the most famous succesful pepole, albert einstein, michael jackson, patrick moore, bill gates, al gore, robin williams, jim henson, george washington, heather kuzmich, vincent van gough, bob dylan all have aspergers.
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Hmmm a gift? I'm not so sure about that - I struggle to see it that way because I've only been diagnosed a little over a year and didn't have whatever it is about knowing about AS until then (by that I mean there are some areas in my life where knowing about AS has helped me to understand things or its sort of explained certain things) unlike the previous 20 odd years of what felt like torture for no reason whatsoever - if that makes sense?
all in good time my friend, you will see what im talking about one day. ive known about my aspergers for 16 years, so thats 3 quarters of my life! some consider me an expert, ive helped alot of pepole with aspergers over the years. i dont call myself an expert though, i like to remain humble.
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I feel at times like it is a gift. I remind myself that I probably wouldn't be married to my wonderful man, or have such close friends as i have (I am really good friends with my old head teacher from when I was a kid) and I wouldn't be training to be a maths teacher.
But then there are other times, usually when it comes to the social side of things, where I hate my aspergers. I am having one of those days today.
I do hope that your positive outlook does continue and I hope to pick up on it.
your profile picture makes me happy lol, i hope you pick up on it to because breaking down the walls that aspergers can bring is a very liberating feeling and you have the sence that anything is possible.
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me and the love of my life being in a wonderfull 2 year relationship and then being torn apart because shes from india and im a white man (worst pain that god willing you will never feel i wouldnt wish it on my worst enimy)
achieving a good musclular pyhsique and then being called gay for having a good healthy body.
pepole that tell me that beliving in god is stupid.
rasist pepole that cant justify what they say.
pepole that think low fat diets help you lose weight, (when infact its exsessive glycogen levels form carbohydrates that make you fat) (sorry for the bro science)
alchool being the centre of pepoles universes.
good pepole being treated badly.
trolls that have no intelligence.
i,ll shall be back with more..
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hi peeps, seems to be a very sceptical reaction as i expected. the thing is i was diagnosed at a very young age, i was 5 im 21 now, so for 16+ years ive walked in the knowledge knowing i have aspergers so ive had 16 years to find coping stratiges. for the first 14 years it was a huge disability to me and was a burden. now i know for a fact alot of you guys posting on here have only knowingly lived with it for less than 5 years and dont yet realise the true potential it offers. and at the 5 year point for me i was in a terrible state, had little to no friends, picked on and alienated, to make it worse felt like a stranger in my own home. ive journeyed through to the point im at today and no for a fact that the only barriers as an asperger sufferer is the ones we make in our minds. there is nothing you cant do that ordenary pepole cant do. in fact better. it took me nearly 16 years to have this mindset. and my mission is to give you guys a short cut. so you dont have to battle with aspergers like i did. once you get to a level where you feel like its a gift which it is! you then realise the true power aspergers brings us. now yes we all have our downfulls but just because something is hard for us doesnt mean we should be wrapped up in cotton wool, we just have to work much harder than most pepole, witch in the long run is very rewarding, as it makes us better pepole. my goal is to help, i joined this forum to help pepole, negative pepole! which is a side effect of aspergers. aspergers is a disability if you let it become one. i genuinly want to help you guys have the best lives possible, the lives you deserve. if your willing to embrace the idea that aspergers is a gift then your already half way there. its up to you if you want to settle to be that quiet guy that sits in the corner of a room, living a humdrum routine life that makes you feel safe (but unfulfilled) thats up to you. but you know deep down your a hell of alot more than that, A HELL OF ALOT MORE. im just trying to make you realise that. @ lancslad with your artery skills and my ruthless determination i think we would make a formidable team, as they say 2 minds are better than 1 if you wana co pilot this thread with me im all for that.
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this is going to be like an online dairy, because what i want to say isnt going to be i one post im affraid.
ok first of all aspergers syndrome should be renamed as "the gift". it should not be labeled as a disability because regardless of what your doctor says or what any wanabe autistic specialist thinks it is in fact an ability and a huge one at that! i know of no other condition that delivers you, supreme intelligence, photographic memory, the ability to learn and devolop everyday, take your hobbies and turn them into a lifestyle and be more dedicated than anyother person in your chosen feild and to have the methodical brain power to become the best at it, bascicly in short aspergers=genius! the only flaw is our social problems but the thing is if you change your thought pattern and act in caracter temporaraly, there is no reason on this earth why you cant enjoy a big social life too. have 2 pepole the normal you when your at home and with family and then an alter ego (second personality) when your at work, out with friends and so on. its that easy! so with all that said try and tell me that aspergers is a disability now! im 100% confident that i can reply and silence you lol.
in this diary i hope to talk to negative asperger sufferers and convert them into positve, optimistic apprentice A-S warriors!
if your ready for change (yes i know you dont like change but trust me!) then post and follow my mission diary.
i wont stop until every asperger "sufferer" has seen the light and starts using there aspergers as a tool to acheive greatness that only the average person can only dream of!
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Hello - It's nice to see a positive attitude, not that I mind negative attitudes - its just that negativity is common enough so it makes positivity stand out all the more. I'm more of a negative realistic - but I'm on a road of learning so cannot say I am a fixed thing - I do ramble at times though
my mission objective is simple, to shine the light and make pepole see that aspergers is a gift and not something to be labeled as a disability. pepole with aspergers actully have an advantage over the average person. and hopefully soon more pepole see that.
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i,ll start,
constant beeping at supermarkets,
rude pepole bumping into me and not saying sorry.
this new generation of hip hop music thats making kids talk like idiots, bruh!
train being delayed when im already late.
staff at the jobcentre talking to me like a naughty school boy in detention.
lazy pepole.
non autistic pepole that think they understand autisum (you dont and never will)
when somebodys being bullied everybody takes the easy way out and jumps on the band waggon and joins in, instead of having the strengh to stand up to that person. those pepole are weak minded and cant think for themselves. and are worse than the bully.
my dog barking at night when i have to be up early.
pepole that think its mandatory to put the tv on, and then moan when theres nothing on. read a book then! or go for a walk! think about it!
as you can tell my list is looooong, now please post up the things that make you tear your hair out!
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toning the muscle requires heavy resistance work. the muscle needs to be broken down during exersie to come back and be stonger. (im a bodybuilder by the way) dont worry about getting massive arms and breasts like flapjacks because women dont have the same hormones as men to build large amounts of muscle. it requires testosterone and for women to get the levels of testosterone neccersary they have to put it in to there bodys artifically. so dont be affraid to lift some nice heavy weights, just look at some of the women in the olympics this year, they lift very heavy weights and have the bodys women dream of. thats why women say im lossing weight but not toning up. thats because there scared of lifting weights in fear of looking big and muscluar and this shouldnt be the case. so my advice to you, hit the squat rack!
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sure you want to meet women that way? there not very classy, dont care about themselves and certainly wont care about you. women have a funny way of finding you. and it wont always be in the most obvious places. trust me you,ll be 100 times happier waiting for the right one and eliminating women you meet when your out on "the pull" dont be tempted to follow your friends example. at the end of the day sex is overrated usually a huge disapointment and if your the romantic type like me lots of emotion to go with it. real love with someone that is the love of your life is literally awsome, and the best feeling ive ever felt. and that kind of woman you dont meet at a bar trust me! as i said women that give you all that love and care and give you that butterflies feeling in your belly when they smile at you pop up in the strangest places, so have a can of lynx ready because you never know when!
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one thing ive always done is take on different personas, i.e at home im my normal self, at work or collage i go into character. think of yourself as a very calm person and a person that goes with the flow in convosations. yes you are acting, but being yourself as much as possible and eliminating the part of you that makes inappropriate comments. going into character by almost mimicking the average person is a very good tactic that ive utilised many times over the years. observe pepole but dont stair! and take on board there mannerisums and habits when in convosation and try to apply some of those to your communication skills.
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dont be upset when pepole complain, there not angry at you, there angry at the establisment so dont take it personaly. i disagree with the lancslad, a diagnosis would be a huge benifit to you. you can explain to your boss why you behave a certain way in certain situations, and he cant fire you because thats discrimination. to me as an asperger "sufferer" (my topic in the introductions section sums up how i feel about it check it out) as far as i see it you sound classic aspergers. i worked in a night club and had the same problems as you. the problem is we see things as they actully are very black and white, the average joe on the street sees things in a very colourful way. thats why we have such a problem understanding what the hell there on about and vice versa. as far as being the best waitress you can be you have to play a character, lets say if your name is kate, you go to work and become stephanie the waitress the girl that likes to smile and make customers happy. its easier than you might think! good luck :-)
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this sounds like me when i was younger, i was alot younger though 8 thru to 13. although i do have the odd out burst, hurting only myself lol. the key to it all is frustration, he has something on his mind troubling him but he cant explain what it is. i diddnt like the structure of school i couldnt get the most out of my learning and it frustred me. i wasnt coping because the teachers where rubbish, and diddnt know what to do with me. now the violent outbursts you mention are out of his control im affraid, the old saying of "theres no excuse" just isnt applicable here. its the only way he can get his point across. my violent rages stemed from a right sided abnormality in my brain (as well as the aspergers). it at first caused severe panic attacks and epileptic fits. then it caused a short temper, the anger is very much like a seizure. i dont know if any of these aplies to your son but this was my situation. he needs to come home to a stress free environment and be left to his own devises. when he,s ready he should approach you and tell you whats wrong, you have to be his rock, as hard as it is he needs you more than ever and he is crying out for help. im probably not doing this justice so what i,ll do is she if my mum can pass on her wisdom. i dont know what she did but if it wasnt for her i would not be where i am today. i can tell you now for a fact that going into a home is absolutley not the awnser. the last thing he needs is more change, more disturbance, and even more distress. what he needs is solid routine, comfort, praise when he,s done good, and extreme patience when hes doing bad. even take him out for the day or a short break, build up a solid relationship, so he can feel he can talk to you whenever theres a problem. the key word for both you and your son is patience.
sorry if im miles away from the ball park or none of that made sence to you, but i hope i helped in some way.
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I immediately went into panic mode,
you should instead go into survival mode. think calmly and go right this is just another challange to overcome and i will be victorius in this situation. when you think like a primal carnivore running from a sabertooth tiger there is no room for "panic mode" just survival and then slaying the beast and running around with the animals head on a stick. strange i know but the only way to overcome panic is by challanging it head on and not being beaten. fear is a very useful tool that can ascend you to great heights, but it can also be detrimental. its all about how you use it.
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And he knows I have aspergers
and? use your powerful methodical brain to your advantage and destroy this guy. aspergers does not make you vunrable or open to easy attack. thats all you bro, its in your mind. change the way you see things. and aspergers will help you achieve greatness! trust me!
and as for your identiy theft thing, im sorry to be blunt but its only money! you,ll bring this guy to justice and get it all back. no one really gets away with it easy these days. so dont worry too much about it, late on this thread so i hope you got it sorted.
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But what do the Romans do?
eat until they throw up then go back and eat some more. and have beautiful women feeding them grapes.
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hi there, im A-S warrior, why am i called that? because ive beaten the so called "disability" that the doctors made me belive, and now use it as a tool to use to my advantage. i "suffer" from aspergers by the way. im 21 and i was diagnosed in 1995 after me and a group of friends tryed to set fire to a tree at school. i was weeded out as the follower of the group, the one that watched from the sidelines and as a result got tarred with the same brush. since that point the teachers anilysed my behavior until they reached the conclusion that im a classic a-s sufferer. i was given a second, third and forth opinion. life was very hard until my late teens when i had the epiphany, and that was aspergers is not a disability, its an ability. for example, i can rember my first trip to butlins, august the 8th 1993. so the first ability is photographic memory, second is a methodical way of thinking and quickly finding solutions i.e keeping a cool head in a crisis situation. 3rd supreme intelligence (witch is common place for asperger sufferers) as you can see the list goes on and on. the disabiliys? well i dont see any to be quite honest. the only "disabilitys" or limitations as an asperger sufferer are the ones you make yourselves in your own mind. i dont mean to sound arogant or blunt but its true. since entering my 20,s and after being involved in intimate realtionships ive learned empathy, the ability to take on board pepoles problems, the ability to love and care and to show my true emotions. (can you tell im proud of my aspergers? lol) im currently writting a book to help put my outlook across (although the book is gathering dust and ive only written the foreword) anyway thats enough inflating my ego for now, just to say im looking forward to chatting to you guys and hopefully helping pepole out on here.
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your not doomed at all! it just may be harder for you to learn these things but try hard and the rewards will come. anything worth doing is never going to be easy. and theres a reason you havent had a relationship yet and thats because your destiny partner hasnt found you yet, that person will be so special they will understand your needs perfectly. it can just take time for that person to find you. and dont ever sell yourself short by saying your intelligence isnt supreme or at least high. just belive in your self a bit more.