Happypanda

Last time I was here, I was on the verge of ending my marriage because I couldn't tolerate my husband's behaviour anymore. Since I realised, and he accepted, that he has AS, I decided to give it another go. Not that being AS means a ticket to bad behaviour, it just means we can find a way to manage it.

I do appreciate all that's been said. Perhaps not many spouses of ASD like to talk about this for fear of drawing attention drawn to themselves. Sa may have a point here - by letting him get on in his own way. We are both still working and if the behaviour worsens, I'd hate to think what retirement life would be like. However, life must go on and I will stay positive.

My husband is 62. He's never been formally diagnosed (will not see any medical professional if he can help it), but he displays classic characteristic features of someone with Aspergers. Things like small talks, meeting new people (quite difficult if we say, go on walking holidays) are always difficult. Routines are always strictly adhered to. He gets very annoyed with people if his rules are not being taken seriously. Throughout our marriage, there's very little show of emotion. Even when his dad and sisters died. When our marriage was going through a rough patch, I made him go to Relate with me. Three years later, he told me that the Relate event was the worst thing he ever had to do and hated it. These are just a few things I can think of now. But the severity of these have got worse in the past four years. His emotional incompetence is worse than ever and the lack of empathy is becoming more difficult for me to overlook.

How do I put this? My husband's behaviour is difficult but can it get worse with age? Or is it because I am becoming less tolerant?

Hi Raydon, last time I checked, I am only one person's wife. Snowdon is a bit far.

I am pretty sure my husband has Aspergers. Sso i will be looking out for advice in coping with his condition.