My husband has been diagnosed with aspergers relatively recently. He has difficulty with his children as when they won't do what they are told in certain situations he gets very angry and occasionally aggresive.
For example yesterday he was in a difficult social situation all day so he was stressed when my 13 year old step daughter started playing up. He got extremely angry with her, far more than was needed, she was being very argumentative but I think his reaction was over the top.
This has happened with his 10 year old son to the point that he didn't see him for a while, and he has lost his temper with our 2 and 3 year old sons too.
I have been told by the person that did my husbands pre assessment and my health visitor that our 3 year old already shows signs of aspergers; the other children have a few of the traits too such as sensitivity to touch, dylexia and getting very involved so you can't get their attention, which makes things even more difficult.
I have quite a short fuse too but I can easily snap out of it to deal with another child, and if I do go over the top in my eyes I will immediately apologise and hug the child and explain why. However, because he finds physical contact with his children difficult (but not with me), and he can't just move on from things as quickly it means that they can feel scared of him, and are not always reassured that he still loves them after an incident occurs.
I am looking for some advice on how to help with his. He has done some couselling which has helped a lot, but I'm worried about how he will deal with the younger boys as they grow up, especially if they have traits too and so are unlikely to easily back down, or want to do what they are told in all situations.
Thanks
