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    I hope you don't mind but I checked your profile and see you are a little younger than my daughter. One piece of advice I would give you is whatever you choose don't pick something which will inform others immediate why you are wearing it. If you decide to use a lanyard I have found which ever way I put my work id on it invariably turns around to show the back of my id card. As a young person it could put you at risk.

     

    Hi dgeorgea

     

    I don't mind whatsoever, i just don't understand this last paragraph. At work i have two id badge at anyone time.

     

    I also have Learning Disability and Dyspraxia to deal with would i need to get a Medi Alert for them.

     

    I'm justing thinking if the worst came around and i could not verbal my condition i will not be treated with them in mind and having a Medi Alert does the verbal work for you

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    Hi Dgeorgea

     

    Thank You for sharing your daughter story and it but like me, I'm all independent now travelling all over the uk but i'm starting to suffer mild aniexty now due to the fear of unknown. My family worry too while i'm out and have adopted the check in facebook method compared to texts.

     

    One area that i might seem weird in is Piers or surfaces above water as i can't look down to the sea as i think peir is unsafe as i see a screw missing or bit of wood missing.

     

    Never thought about a Bracelet or Neck chain, would lanyard do the job as i can't really wear bracelet with my job plus it might get damaged.

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    Hi all

     

    I'm been considering for a quite while to get some alert cards for me to carry in events where communication can break down or emergency. So i'm looking at starting with Autism Alert Card but not sure where tobuy the best one.I Seen one on Autism Website and looks quite good for £2.50.

     

    Are these quite hand for any kind of situation and was wondering if they a alert card for dyspraxia and learning diffuclts if so should i invest in them too.

     

    My concern is i'm starting to get all over the place but with my health and condition i'm starting to think how i would tell people about my medical conditions and i think the cards are the best

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    I think with my health condition i'm starting to think i'm getting depression.

     

    i have had a rollercoaster of emotions today from feeling low, lashing out and suicidal thoughts. But i found being near bodieds of water a good way of being myself together, otherwise i would done something stupid.

     

    any advice

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    I find all methods of travelling difficult I can drive but currently have not got a car. I would certainly look favourably on such a service but there are a lot of factors I need to consider before I go anywhere.

    I haven't had a holiday in five years I find the whole experience a little to much to deal with but what your proposing does seem something I would consider.

     

    Thank you it early days yet in planning just applied for job in travel agent to get some insider information and it a disabled travel agents.

     

    What factors do you need to consider.

     

    Any questions?

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    I'm a lover christmas and culture, i want to know what and how christmas celebrated around the world.

     

    So i'm looking when i'm 30 travelling the globe and experiencing christmas around the world and hoping to spend it a with family over in the chosen country.

     

    I think by doing this way you experience culture, religion and christmas in one.

     

    It other way i'm seeing what it like for others

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    I don't think I would Mike, as I can organise the types of holiday I like myself. I do miss out on things that I'd like to do when I'm away, as I get rather anxious about them, and I often think of things I could have done when it's too late, but I'm not sure they are things that someone could organise for me. I really commented to make the point about simplicity and avoiding stress. I had thought of being away at the moment, but it seemed too complicated to get organised, so I didn't go, but it was things like getting my van ready, and what to do about a meeting I needed to go to, that no one else could really help with as part of a service. That's stuff about not having people in my life who I'm close too.

    Hello, CT

     

    I clearly understand you found it tough and whole idea of this topic is too see how people travel and who would use this service

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    So simple arrangements, and simple stress free places to go, is what I look for. And being dog friendly, as I won't go alone!

    Confused Traveller

     

    Hello

     

    The whole aim to offer disabled and less able a simple pass to an holiday they are entitled to. It just brillant that you have a motorhome as some people can't drive like me.

     

    I see you like traveling, so would you use my service.

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    Miheala

     

    Can you help to find out how i can still undertake my trying things out as i still want to do this. it my way of preparing for the worst. if anything happened to me i know what it feels like or how hard it is.

     

    I know they might be way but i don't know how to access services if they is any services. I every wondered about contacting like the police to see if they willing to give me experience of being in the cells for 24 hours it must most mad numbing thing going and i can't way people keep visiting them places it like how i want to try the court/ prisoner transport as on a hot day in a 1 x 1 box not fresh air it must uncomfortable plus you hand cuffed too.

     

    There so many types of ladies clothing and i want to experience most of it. like i want see how feels wearing school uniforms with ties and it doesn't seem right girls wearing ties and what the obsession about mini skirts short skirts to school. Plus varying degree of schools isolation and behaviour management.

     

    The RTA thing. i want try that because it happens so fast but takes so long after plus you fasten down for about 2 - 5 hours on hard board and neck in them blocks

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    I think the priority would be to ensure that the holiday was as stress-free as possible. I find every about going on holiday alone very stressful, and have never organised a holiday for myself. I wouldn't be able to cope with the paperwork unless it was very clear and kept simple. The travelling would need to be via the least stressful routes, and the holiday itself would have to be in a quiet rural place with very little traffic and no crowds.

    Hi Mihaela

     

    You have made clear a big issue here and did not they this and i'm grateful you have highlighted your issues. It have given me a better understand. Would you use my service when it starts up. initially it going to be package holidays where you make your way down but we can help with that for you or offer you some support.

     

    I go on my own but with coach holidays but they are getting a bit to much for me and the accommodation is basic to poor. I have tryed D.I.Y option before when i went to penrith but i feel safer and better going with coach holidays a lot cheaper. So this something i'm looking at changing. When the company expends we will be looking at buying a fleet of coaches with less seats spaces for wheelchairs and on board entertainment and the quickest route possable

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    Thanks for your fascinating post, MikeC.

     

    While all the equipment was left in there every time i went use the bathroom usual at breaks and lunch. i would use the equipment to see how it works and feels and never been caught for doing it.

     

    Was it the thought of taking a risk and not getting caught, or was it just something about wanting to feel what it was like to be someone with disabilities who needs to use that equipment?

     

    Then i used to help in the autism base and go in there in the holiday club. i use to like it there being on the same level as everyone else and i even tryed the padded time out room while someone sat outside watching me.

     

    Here again you're wanting to actually experience what others have to experience.

     

    During school i only tryed things when i felt comfortable to do it, like the time in p.e i know there was no girls so i asked if could change in the girl changing room and i did.

     

    I suppose the girls' changing room was no different to that of the boys, so did you do that just to say that you'd used a room normally used only by girls?

     

    Since leaving school i been getting urge to try things and see how it feels for people it getting to point off mad thoughts of ways to do it. and just wishing i could still do it but don't know how now i'm an adult.

     

    What kinds of things? You may be an adult in age, but that doesn't mean you are one emotionally. I know I'm not! :)

     

    I been wanting to try for ages, being in a police transporter, police station. jail. being in rta and in hospital unable to move and living a week being wheelchair bound amongst others.

     

    You seem to have such high empathy that you want to experience the suffering of others for yourself. By the way I have two friends who are wheelchair bound, and I've been in wheelchair race! :)

     

    I also quite like leggings and female clothing i know weird but they have so many choice unlike the men so i want to try them.

     

    I wouldn't call it weird, for it's very common. Often this can mean that you're not happy in the gender you were given at birth. Also the bit about using the girls' changing room could mean this too.

     

    My people watching is same to this where i sit on bus, train whatever and watch what it other doing and if there lost i always offer to help them.

     

    Same here. I just can't help it. I think all of us quietly watch NTs, and it's a good thing, for it can help us learn how their minds work.

     

    Why do you feel you need to snap of this quickly? If it's taking over your life then it sounds like and unusual form of OCD. OCD is always caused by stress and anxiety, so do you have any idea what could be causing it for you? If the cause can be removed then the symptoms will go. But I'd only start worrying about it if it was affecting your life badly or affecting other people. If is isn't then, you just have obsessive compulsive traits rather than a disorder. ( I have many OC traits myself, and lately they've become a disorder again - especially when I'm out. Some days it's far worse than on other days).

     

     

     

    Thanks Miheala

     

    I Was wondering if scared people about the way i see and what to do things .

     

    At school we had girl and boys changing room so i wanted to go in the girls to what it was like. The bathroom was a bit of both get the thrill of not being caught and actually seeing what it feels for people who used these equipment and need the help.

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Since leaving school i been getting urge to try things and see how it feels for people it getting to point off mad thoughts of ways to do it. and just wishing i could still do it but don't know how now i'm an adult.

     

    What kinds of things? You may be an adult in age, but that doesn't mean you are one emotionally. I know I'm not! :)

     

    This quite advanced i wish i hand more confidence in school to ask try things. I wished i tryed the standing frames, on the school minibuses they was guy who had to use travel harness i wanted try that. list go on and on but i don't where i can try these things now what doing my head in as i want to carry on trying things out. including old things like padded cell and torture devices to american restraint chairs.

     

    The female side of things i don't want to be female but highly fascinated about how it feels and females have so much more things to do life than males. i always want try corsets.

     

    How would i get about spending a few days living like a person in wheelchair and being looked after and i want to be one those who can't speak and have sensory issues like can't see. because it scary just being normal but it must more scaring what you can't speak or see.

     

    I need to snap out off because i can't try anything but if loved on my own i would purposely buy thing of the internet to try them. it driving to doing things like looking at photos and sites then driving me wanting to try them more.

     

    Is this something you can help with Miheala

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    I fully agree with you, Livelife. I find that lots of aspies are 'psychologically minded'. We tend to analyse why people behave the way they do, either by watching them, listening or reading. Our logical minds are forever trying to make sense of their often rather chaotic behaviour. We're also good at analysing our own behaviour. Average NT people don't do this. I often extend this analysing to the NT world as a whole.

     

    Tell us more about your people-watching travels, MikeC. :)

     

    Hi Mihaela.

     

    as you requested i will be going deeper into this and please don't be offended by anything i say. as i been meaning to let this of my chest for a while now.

     

    As i already established in the opening post this all sorted around 2007/2008 in year 8, when i started to grow in the school and seeing the different student come and go. Every school year my interest got bigger and bigger where in Year 9 or 10 it got really bad. halfway through year 10 2009 - 2010, i was preparing to move into year 11 and i was going to be moved to the science room as my year base but i triggered that the other year 10 was not moving instead the teachers and student moved up to year 11 and stayed the same. So i thought i know what i will request a class room move in 2009 - 2010 and i got it.

     

    In year 11 this was really bad year for me as i noticed things changing at lot with way i starting to try lot more than i used to do in the early years. Every time i walked past the physio room to design tech. i always used to feel and stand looking at the physio mobility equipment outside the physio room. I was nearly ready to ask the physio if could try it but i never did.

     

    I Think time for some stories don't you, i'm going tell you my funny and slightly naughty ways of doing it but it worked.

     

    In around year 9 and 10 they used to be some disused disabled pa rooms what just general bathrooms now and later behaviour room. While all the equipment was left in there every time i went use the bathroom usual at breaks and lunch. i would use the equipment to see how it works and feels and never been caught for doing it.

     

    Then i used to help in the autism base and go in there in the holiday club. i use to like it there being on the same level as everyone else and i even tryed the padded time out room while someone sat outside watching me.

     

    During school i only tryed things when i felt comfortable to do it, like the time in p.e i know there was no girls so i asked if could change in the girl changing room and i did.

     

    Since leaving school i been getting urge to try things and see how it feels for people it getting to point off mad thoughts of ways to do it. and just wishing i could still do it but don't know how now i'm an adult.

     

    So i watch real life documentaries on everything but that making it worst where i want try it. I watch hospital and life stories on youtube and browse the looking at sites and reading product reviews.

     

    I been wanting to try for ages, being in a police transporter, police station. jail. being in rta and in hospital unable to move and living a week being wheelchair bound amongst others. I also quite like leggings and female clothing i know weird but they have so many choice unlike the men so i want to try them.

     

    My people watching is same to this where i sit on bus, train whatever and watch what it other doing and if there lost i always offer to help them.

     

    I'm open to questions and advice as i need to snap out this so badly

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    I thought this would fit nicely here, as i'm going to share my interest at the moment.

     

    I have huge interest in how other people live and go about there business, how i carry out this interest, is quite interesting itself. Every since around age 8 i started to nice lot of ways people at my school i attend was moved around and looked after at the school. This and interactive subjects in R.E where we tried things on and out. Following years later at year 9 i started notice something that have been triggered from years before and it was my passion and interest in other people life's and wellbeing.

     

    It started where i following trends and how other people behaved in the school and the staff dealt with them, only realised why i was always causing trouble later in the school year around year 14. That it was all in aid me experciaing what the other students went through so i can if they dealt with me same and how it felt for them.

     

    I used to always want to go out like the others, go on residentials but the residentials i really wanted to go to do my interest i never managed to do and i was promised i will go on it.

     

    From year 9 i tryed a lot things out and what i call, see what it like other people shoes. I would ask the teacher if can see what it feels like to be that student or use that item or being in that scenario.

     

    I tryed; Float Boats, Leg Wedge {Egg timer shaped floats}, being supervised in the water like a one to one, in swimming, all sorts of behaviors so i can try the different restraint positions and bahvoir rooms, this has even result me asking in year 13 right near my transition to work placement what was awkward. if i could see what i was like to outside the head years office facing the wall as a fellow student was expercing this alot. Aprons tied behind my back with neck string tied into to it. Being blindfolded during lesso, trying sensory play, one to one support. i even was feeling like asking the school physio as i wanted to try the standing frames and wheelchairs E.T.c. but i never did. I experienced sitting in a hoop and cut out desk with chair in middle and the desk against the wall so i was trapped. Plus many more of them, if want to hear more, let me know

     

    I also like traveling, exploring places names and meanings and general research. my intreset change fast and every month or so i develop a new and lose a old one.

     

    I hope i picked the right category

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    Welcome

     

    I have similar interest in languages, this could be how they are spoken, spelt to places names how they are themed or share name with something and i'm doing a database where i'm trying sort all places into category order to see where they all fit in

     

    I'm huge fan of places Like Beer, Sandwich and Wool and along that line of things

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    im also trying to set up a business or a charity i havent decided yet, feel free to add me as a friend and we can swap ideas. :-)

    Hi trekster Ally

     

    i have sent u a message last night with my business idea.

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    Have you got a mentor at work and any adaptions all ready in place to help you cope .

    No i got no to liase with at work and it the NHS after all.

     

    I'm doing a stupid mistake by keeping on the temporary contract but it only until i get my English and Math done in November through the hospital and then while i'm setting up my business i'm hoping to have a permanent post until leave to pursue my career in my business.

     

     

    I agree. It sounds like symptoms of stress and anxiety. Tourettes requires tics to be persistent and long-lasting - a year or more, and a childhood onset. It's an inherited neurological condition. I suspect that both Autism and Tourette's are responses to sensory processing sensitivities - and I don't just mean the physical senses.

     

    I think i have got anxiety of mild kind, as i always hold back from doing something for while and go blank not response to anyone questions or demands. This is because i not got self belief of going alone if you know what i mean.

     

    For example.

     

    You told me to get a pack paper from top floor office room 5 and go via Room 20 on 1st floor. with vague details. i will go yes then hide away and not ask anyone questions but if i go and do the job, my body start jumping and jerking like mad and picking up like no one business.

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