aawmum
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Hi, I'm very new and have only been on a few times. I post things, then when I read them, they don't look right and seem a bit whingey or opinionated. I want to say things but don't know how sometimes. I don't post too often but I read things and get a lot of help from all of you.
Don't leave. kiss and make up.
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I really feel for you. People just don't know the half of it, do they?
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I think people with autism can certainly manipulate us, I know my son does, and my mother said it's because you don't allow him to ever get hurt or feel pain.
She is right really - we feel all the upset and pain but we panic if they do. You know how their anxiety levels get really bad, well maybe sometimes we have to let them. Ours certainly do!!!
He may get very anxious but he won't die from it.
The reason I am saying this, is because it's always easier to tell someone else and sort out their problems.
I am just the same as you. do we over panic about everything?
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For someone to do that in front of him is disgusting! Can you imagine what they would say about a parent ranting at a child like that - Social Services would be informed!
Whatever is going on - it should not be taken out on the child. She is totally out of order, unprofessional, uncaring and up her own you know what!
A decent person would have thought 'oh what have I done, have I made a mistake?' Normal people beat themselves up about cocking up. The fact that she got on her high horse is not normal.
Good luck with it all - You are definately in the right.
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Our SENCO is doing very well getting that extra bit in the wage packet for knowing nothing at all about SEN. Well done!!
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Best wishes.
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each day im going to write a positive thing whats happened to me,nothing negative allowed
right todays is that i went to the charity shop and bought some lovely pictures and ornaments dirt cheap,they look well nice in my frontroom,silly thing to be pleased about i spose but it took my mind off things for a bit
2nd positive today,everyone,my family,nicks family and you lot have made me realise im not on my own in this,steves school have phoned and been brilliANT.
COME ON THEN LET ME KNOW SOME POSITIVES WHICH HAVE HAPPENED TO YOU TODAY PLEASE
<'> <'>This is not silly at all! You can't beat the rush you get from picking up a bargain!
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Oh I really wish all teachers were like Mumble. One in a million!
It also gets to me how many times parents are told to take the child home or even teach them at home because they disrupt the class. My other son is in a mainstream High school and kids are always disrupting the flippin class, and they are deemed to be normal! WHY CAN'T PEOPLE LIVE WITH AUTISM IN SCHOOL? It's here and it's here to stay.
My son is at a school for children with autism and the parents of certain children are asked to keep them at home because they will be disruptive when the OFSTED inspectors are in!!!!??????
The inspectors need to see it how it is, or things will never change.
I am normally a cheerful girl.......honest.......no more ranting for a while now. Iv'e said enough.
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My son watches it, but it is rather patronising and slow - I feel anyway.
I would rather teach my son emotions by actually feeling them. It is not all it's cracked up to be, just something to glue him to for 15 mins while I get something done.
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It doesn't surprise me at all I'm afraid. The school my son goes to always gets wonderful ofsted reports etc. but the reality is totally different. The Deputy Head is full of herself and can talk her way out of anything. When you have a problem they pretend to listen then do nothing about it really. They say things like 'we are sorry you feel this way' Making you feel that you have a problem and end up in the wrong. They do things that you can't always put your finger on so you can't really complain about.
Dosey TAs like yours are a reality. My friend did some supply teaching there and she said that some of the kids get bullied by her, but she is so clever that you couldn't prove anything.
I am so sorry to be negative but I am fed up with people making themselves heroes for dealing with autistic kids! They often do it for the acclaim
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After reading these I am proud to be socially inept! I think the problem with people who don't like the school gate is that they are just nice people. The school gate lovers are generally gossipy and competative with their children, hoping their child is the top in reading book leagues.
Being a nice, quiet person is a rare and lovely thing.....so there!
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A teacher friend of mine advised me to start off with really positive stuff. Try to think of some positive comments, even if you have to scrape the barrell. It worked for me - and then I started on the negative and they were more inclined to listen and not be defensive. Try to finish off with something good too.
Good luck!
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My hubby came up to me in bed with my son in tow and trying to get hin to give me a card and flowers, but my son just kept saying "No mother day!" I think he prefers to receive more than give.
I feel so appreciated!
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Thanks
Also www.ispeek.co.uk and www.infoispeek.org
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I agree, chatting to them may give them some understanding. I hope you resolve it all soon. good luck.
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Hate the school gate!
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I think young girls have the energy and patience with our kids. At my son's school the teachers all love the attention of " we are the ones who care for your son" but it's really the young classroom assistants who do all the work and you can see they love the kids. They are down to earth and genuine. I would be happy to recruit a young girl.
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Wow! That will be so valuable to raise awareness. Excellent!
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Yes I do. It is just easier because I find I can't cope with the usual bitchy back biting you get at work. Having an autistic son means I don't want to go to work and hear all that rubbish. I now do typing at home and don't really miss other people. I have always had to help myself in the end anyway so they are no use.
People question me about my son and I can tell it's freak curiousity and not kind interest.
My husband is a gem and we have a good life together so that's enough for me.
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I get my books from www.jkp.com and NAS online shop. They have ones from a parents perspective and ones on behaviour which I have found a godsend.
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It keeps me sane knowing that there are far wierder people who are called celebs!!
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reece dosnt/wont dress himself hes 6 but can deffinatly strip loves having no clothes on or very littleWill this be their career move?!
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My son does it maybe to take control of a world that is a big puzzle. I started reducing the rooms where he could do it very gradually. Yes I had tantrums but I gave him a cube of chocolate if he accepted it -chocolate the great tantrum solver. He now only lines things up in his bedroom.
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Hi Mary,many thanks for the reply.
Does any one get funding from their LEA, looking on the PEACH website it mentioned about funding using the Lovaas program, does anyone use that or know more?
Dawn
I definately know someone ho got LEA funding for her daughter to go to the Higashi school in Boston USA.
Would you use a cure for autism?
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This is a good thread.
When my son has positive stuff going on I love how autism is different and fascinating, but when the bad stuff is happening, autism is horrible - so on the whole I think I would want a cure. If I was to really be honest.