New, Confused, Worried

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Thank you Kathryn, that made my brain go mad for a few hours!

 

Off to bed I suppose, dog is asleep on sofa, seems a shame to move him

but he won't go without me <'>

[New, Confused, Worried]

Hi everyone and ty for the comments, yes my eyes welled up again, I'm sure I am turning in a cloud with all this extra

moisture!

 

One thing that stuck in my mind today was the SENCO telling me it was a same he wasn't diagnosed earlier in his life,

but its like I said to her, we have a funny few years when he was born, spilt from father after abuse at age 2, moved back to mum when her 2nd husband died age 4, then moved to Guildford when he was 7, (so I put a lot of his behaviour down to those events).

due to him being at the same school for longer than 6 months, they saw something in him, and at first classed as

a trouble maker, angry child, and lacked respect to elders. Where as he was finding things hard and not knowing he was ANY different from others, blamed myself for his ways.

 

Now even with his slight *anger probs, self harming, rocking, etc etc, I know its not my fault

because he is a loving child, with great emotions. The only thing I am now doubting is, should I have seen

the signs, and taken him to the doctor.... without really knowing what to say to him, and got him checked out earlier?

 

God I could writes pages, but I best not.

 

Baddad - ty for your reply, one I would like to say is he was in isolation ALL day today, when asking about this

it is within a cubicle, alone and very demanding. He was too scared to ask to go bathroom, which has made him very withdrawn again this evening. (I have read a diary helps, so I will invest in some paperwork tomorrow, to start a file up.

 

JsMum - ty hun, I will look into the things you put there, as for the Tony Attwood book, yes I got that after I got the letter, but really only flicked through.......until last week, and sat up reading nearly all of it in one go, with tears of course. Thank you so much for the link, great reading x

 

and to the other ladies, thank you....... and bless you.

I live in Guildford but for some reason it said something else on my post?? nevermind.

 

 

There I tried not too type too much, and didn't really do that well.

 

Hoping for an early night x x

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Firstly I would like to start by saying Hello to all of you.

 

I have been scanning the forum as a guest for a while and due to events getting me down, joined last night, if just to get things out there and off my mind.

 

I have a darling 11yo son, who was diagnosed in May of this year with ADHD, traits of AS and CDD, this was brought about by some aggressive incidents at school, and a very knowledgable SENCO. After receiving the news/letter from the hospital, I just put it aside, well my son is who he is, and didn't grow an extra head overnight. UNTIL recently!! (Not a head literally).

 

 

He has completed his move to BIG school, and he has become more and more withdrawn/quieter.

For the first 2 weeks he was being bullied, this was due to him moving house last December and going to a school where he knew not one person. He didn't tell me about this until week two when he was called a name even I wouldn't use in life! The first thing I did was ring the school, and spoke to the tutor. She was unaware of this and thankfully they have a good anti-bullying system, and even though he had to get punched in the nose..... before it stopped, it now seems to have settled down.

 

My main reason for wanting to let off steam, was a had a call yesterday from the school, son had throw a wooden block at a schoolmate. The punishment he received for this was isolation! Sounds as rough as it is! I went in today and FINALLY meet with the SENCO and the head of year, (form tutor unavailable).

 

For the 11 years of his life I have managed, done things without thinking, washing him in the bath, doing his hair, cutting up his food. The more I am reading into this, could the consultant have got things wrong with the diagnosis? Could he have more aspergers than adhd? Am I going crazy? Could it be that I am looking into this more than I should?

 

Anyway end part is, the school are now putting him forward to see the APS and the LAS but shouldnt this have been looked at when they received notes or had a meeting with the primary school? I have asked for a statement, and I have been told this may not be available? So today after the meeting I rang Surrey childrens services and spoke to them, and they advised me that when i see the consultant on Wednesday, I should ask for a re-assessment, and if I want to apply for an assessment myself then I should ring them back.

 

I have applied for the school notes to be photocopied and sent to me, thankfully this only takes 24hours, and I will then see what the primary school had on him.

 

 

Apologies if this seems a bit unstructured but even as I sit here, the tears start to flow. I am a happy person always looking at the good in things and people, but lately I'm just so down!

 

If there is anyone who can give me advice or of someone who would know what they are talking about, then please let me know........I know most of the people on here are more knowledgable than the professions.

 

I hope this makes sense, and Hi again to all

 

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