phasmid
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I say not ASD related apart from the fact phas jr is not happy when the car goes wrong! I ran out of petrol
(ONCE!!!!) and have NEVER been allowed to regret it - ever!!! 
I have an 1988-1990 Renault Espace. It broke down yesterday and I had the RAC out to it.
Cut a LOOOOOONG story short - we managed to whittle it down to the fuel pump relay. 
The only trouble is we couldn't find it, nor could the RAC technical people. If anyone can help I'd really appreciate it. 
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Thank you Suze, and thanks for looking carerquie.
Still running (hint!)
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Were you sent a copy of the minutes of this meeting? You certainly should have been! If you have them, check them over and see what they say. If you don't I'd be requesting a copy straight away. I'd also ask your barrister to check his/her records and see what version they have. If they have got it wrong, then you need to point this out to them PDQ.
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You just hurt my feelers!
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TRISKAIDEKAPHOBIC's suffering from toooomuchchocolateiac and living in Llanfairwllgwyngyllgogerychwymdrobwlllantysiliogogogoch can only have hippopotomostrosequippedaliophobia if hippopotomostrosequippedaliophobia is the 13 word in a sentence and...oh sh*t!!!
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You're welcome. It is for things like this that these boards are brilliant for, between us we are all a mine of useful info - there is no point keeping things like tis to ourselves if it can help others.
Like I said, hope it can help you.
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Hi Annie, I was reading through the posts following on from mine when I remembered something. Follow this link:
CPS: Protection from Harassment Act
It wil take you to the CPS website and in particular a page refering to the'Protection from Harassment Act 1997. A short while ago I found this whilst looking for something totaly unconnected with this subject (spotted an interesting looking link and just followed it). Anyway, I ran this past the ASB officer and asked why it could not be applied to the youths harrasing us. The (edited) reply was that niether she nor the police were aware of some of the detail this page contained.
Having brought it to their attention I was hopefull it would be useful. Boy, was it! All the yobs concerned were summoned to the police station and confronted. They tried to get the parents to agree to sign ABC (acceptable Behaviour Contracts) for their little angels - they refused. The attitude of the police was 'OK, you don't have to, BUT, as far as we are concerned we have now marked a line in the sand which you DO NOT CROSS. Crossing it will incur an ASBO - this is your final warning.'
Then came the best bit. Following an assault by one of this group on one of my sons (which I reported to the police in person within ten minutes - the PC witnessed the bruising coming up) the others were making threats on his behalf to try and get the threat of charges dropped - NO ###### CHANCE! I'd said as much to the police and ASB officer before the yobs went to the station. So, they applied the details of this law to them. Threatened them with court and prison etc - the works!!! The ring-leader now has a police caution that will follow him for 5 yrs and must be declared. It seems to have done the trick (for now, but have been here before - hence the CCTV). It may be of use to you to have a look at this and pass it on to the local Police for their comments on it regarding your situation.
Hope it helps.
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Hi Rabbit, we haven't 'met' before. This thread popped up at the top this morning and I wondered what on earth could have happened that a thread could be 2 pages long and I hadn't read any of it. Turns out that was because this was all played out long before I arrived here.
What can I say about what you have all been put through? I was gobsmacked, utterly gobsmacked as I read through the thread. How on earth could they have done that to you, how could they? You are one incredible lady, your son is a very lucky young man to have you in his corner. You have been through more than anyone should ever have had to go through in order to get what was theirs by right. I hope you have hung, or will be hanging, the LEA out to dry over this. I'm disgusted with them.
Can I just wish you and your son all the very best for this coming school term. I hope that the school is everything you want for him, and more, you deserve it, he deserves it.
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I have found you the following links vis the NAS, I don't know how useful they are going to be but I'll leave that to you:
http://www.nslij.com/body.cfm?id=2851&oTop...51&PLinkID=2793
http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=104&a=3670 (NAS helpline details - they may be able to give you specific information related to your question directly)
http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=544 (publication list of books aimed at adults with ASD /AS)
I am sure that others will be able to point you in the right direction too. I hope these links are worth looking into in more depth. Hopefully I have helped a bit. Good luck.
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Sorry, I'll try and be a bit more in depth now.
I would suggest trying the following:
Introduce the concept some time in advance, discuss the sort of things that are likely to take place. Allow time for that to sink in.
Introduce the new setting gradually. Use photo's and diagrams - try and get them to build up a mental picture of where they are going.
Photo's of the people they will meet/deal with regularly, and those they will meet/deal with fairly often. Try to get them pictured in situ.
If at all possible arange some visits and allow time for them to have a good look around and ask questions.
Remember to introduce the fact that certain people will no longer be around and that things will be different in the new place.
Just a few ideas, not based on anything concrete to link with your situation exactly but reworked from the sort of things I'd suggest for getting a child used to the idea of changing to a new school. Hope it helps.
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I'd go for the same stratergies used for school transition. Photos of new locations and people, building layout and the like...just tailor it to the situation. Pop over to the education forum and have a look. Sorry to be brief, got to go out.
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I am a SEN TA in a mainstream English Primay. I am also the parent of 2 children with SEN (1 has Aspergers the other has partial hearing loss). I am currently researching my final year dissertation for my BA (hons) with the aim to go on to gain QTS and then work in mainstream SEN. I need your help. I have been running two online questionnaires into SEN provision in English mainstream Primary Schools (Up to end of KS2) for some time (link below). There are two questionnaires, 1 is for parents and carers of children with SEN, the other is for school staff dealing with these children in school.
Plea for input:
I am giving it one last big push for responses this week as I need to begin writing up my findings pretty soon. If you have not filled in the questionnaire (or questionnaires if you fall into both camps, like me) could I ask you to do so? Each will take about 15 - 20 minutes to do at the very most.
A second request:
As you can imagine there are literaly hundreds of teaching / SEN / Parent groups out there on the web, I simply have not been able to 'hit' them all. If you know of a group website where members might be able to help with my research could I please ask if you could pass the details of my website and research on to them (or 'pm' me with the details and I can do it)? These DO NOT need to be related to ASDs, any group concerned with supporting any SEN issue is what I am looking for.
I cannot hope to change the world with my research but the more responses to it that I have/can get, the more weight it will carry. There has been plenty of interest in the findings from various national charities and groups such as Krism into using the findings as many feel that parental views on provision are so often ignored. If I can help to raise awareness of how parents feel about SEN provision I will feel I have done some good.
Thanks
Phasmid.
The link to my home page (and the questionnaires) is:
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Hope that by the time you get around to logging back on things are going OK for you, and your dad. The following from the NAS may not be exactly what you are looking for but it may give those looking after your dad something of an understanding of what's what. Hope it helps.
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Annie, your son and Phas Jr are the same age. Most of what you say has happened to him. The only difference being Phas Jr will not hit back (I wish he would, at 6ft 3 he'd really hurt the little sh*ts!). I phone the police each and every time they goad him or verbally abuse him (DDA means it is as much of an offence as Racial harrasment), and it isn't just him - his brothers get picked on too because of their 'wierd brother'.
I have also, as a result of house being attacked, installed CCTV as well. I will not let them get away with it. I now know most of the local PC's on first name terms and the local councils Anti-social behaviour officer has been a frequent visitor and e-mail contact. Bullying is not 'bullying' after the ###### are over 10, it IS ASSAULT. I make sure the police treat it as such! The message has started to sink in amongst the local yobs and for the most part they leave my kids alone now...but every time they don't they know full well what to expect.
I have had to educate some of the police officers about Aspergers, but at least now they understand it and take it into account. On the point of having at least three families kicked out of their rented accomodation as a result of this. Not nice I know, but my kids didn't ask to be attacked by theirs and they have all had plenty of warnings, first from me, then from me and the police and then the police and the ASB officer, then their landlords got involved. They don't seem to want to listen to the 'be nice approach' so we no longer use it. They only have themselves and their kids too blame. If they don't want to go down that route the answer is simple: LEAVE ME AND MY KIDS AND MY HOUSE ALONE!!!
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I am a SEN TA in a mainstream English Primay. I am also the parent of 2 children with SEN (1 has Aspergers the other has partial hearing loss). I am currently researching my final year dissertation for my BA (hons) with the aim to go on to gain QTS and then work in mainstream SEN. I need your help. I have been running two online questionnaires into SEN provision in English mainstream Primary Schools (Up to end of KS2) for some time (link below). There are two questionnaires, 1 is for parents and carers of children with SEN, the other is for school staff dealing with these children in school.
Plea for input:
I am giving it one last big push for responses this week as I need to begin writing up my findings pretty soon. If you have not filled in the questionnaire (or questionnaires if you fall into both camps, like me) could I ask you to do so? Each will take about 15 - 20 minutes to do at the very most.
A second request:
As you can imagine there are literaly hundreds of teaching / SEN / Parent groups out there on the web, I simply have not been able to 'hit' them all. If you know of a group website where members might be able to help with my research could I please ask if you could pass the details of my website and research on to them (or 'pm' me with the details and I can do it)? These DO NOT need to be related to ASDs, any group concerned with supporting any SEN issue is what I am looking for.
I cannot hope to change the world with my research but the more responses to it that I have/can get, the more weight it will carry. There has been plenty of interest in the findings from various national charities and groups such as Krism into using the findings as many feel that parental views on provision are so often ignored. If I can help to raise awareness of how parents feel about SEN provision I will feel I have done some good.
Thanks
Phasmid.
The link to my home page (and the questionnaires) is:
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I'd be ordering a few copies of: Autistic Spectrum Disorders; Good Practice Guidance from the DfES (you can order them online) and be taking them in for the teachers/SENCo at the start of term! But then I can be a bit of a sh*t-stirrer when I want to be. That said, they NEED telling!!
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You have mail.
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phasmid_uk
@yahoo.co.uk (all one line,no gaps)
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There us still an awfu; lot of ignorance out there! I have no doubt that the girls you mention Julieann were doing their utmost to try and 'fit in' on the day. How much effort did that take on their behalf? More importantly how long would they be able to keep that up - not for long I imagine!
Statements are issued following a long and convultuted process, normally over many months. For the SENCO to just dissmiss it after a few short hours beggars belief. I hope that their parents are aware of this attitude and they are able to take steps to address it. At least they have you on their side.
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A pir spotlight and a cheap cctv camera - link them to your video and at least you won't have to go outside. Cost? About �25 for the camera (Aldi) and a tenner for the light.
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Thanks for the link. That will be vey useful background material for my research paper.
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Like most of us I would imagine you went through the grieving process for the child you would never have post dx. Other family members have to do the same. My sis-in-law did some reading up on Aspergers and was quite shocked, but it helped her to understand the issues and what we have to deal with.
I would imagine you dad is going through the same process in his own way. Try and get some leaflets for him to read...let him get his head round things. When faced with something they do not understand many people react in a bad way. Be patient with him, explain things to him - get those leaflets/information and leave it with him. See what happens.
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Should also say that you should request that any offical looking at your claim has got relevant ASD SPECIFIC training.
I need help: Car problem (not ASD related)
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I wish it did lil_me!
There was me, the RAC bloke AND my mate (trained mechanic) who does all the work on my cars pouring all over the Haynes manual yesterday and the relay isn't even mentioned! 
Note to self - moan due in Haynes direction. 
Anyway, we got it sorted.
The thing had come loose and moved from where the RAC tech blokes said it should have been (which is why we were struggling). He found it late last night. He found it was damp, despite yetserdays heat (!?), so he dried it out and resited it. Fingers crossed it appears problem solved. 