LittleRae Report post Posted November 5, 2007 Hi, hoping someone can help me here. DS, 12, will have a Sex Ed lesson next week - yes, I know we're way behind here (Ireland)! He has never wanted to know any details apart from when his little sis was born - he was 6 and luckily I'd had a Caesarian! In anticipation of the lesson, we thought we'd speak to him beforehand, but he doesn't want to know and is getting quite upset. He hasn't slept since it was mentioned and is asking not to go to school next week. Does anyone have any ideas? He's very bright but won't look at any books we have and won't let us talk to him. Is there a book geared towards kids with AS? Thanks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Lya of the Nox Report post Posted November 6, 2007 well dd missed the lessons, and that was best for her but i found little and often, every week i would say a little, and then the following week it was hard going, but worth it if he does not want to go i am not sure i would push it but i am a softie good luck x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LittleRae Report post Posted November 6, 2007 Thanks for that Lya. I have already told him he needn't go if it upsets him that much. We will see on the day - sometimes he kicks up a fuss about stuff at school but if left alone, will often decide himself to take part. I will leave it up to him. Nevertheless, he still needs to know this stuff, so we will take it slowly. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Corcaigh Report post Posted November 6, 2007 Hi LittleRae, where in Ireland are you? I'm in Cork, and my son is more or less your son's age (he will be 12 next month) and we are going through the same questions ;-) There is a difference though: my son is quite curious and, typical of him he often asks all sort questions in very inappropriate moments. I wonder whether your son is upset about school for other reasons, and is using the sex education class as a way to convey his anxiety. Is he in mainstream? Is his SNA aware of his feelings? Check out what's going on in his class. My son had problems in his old school (now he changed since 2006, thank goodness!). He was much younger there and unfortunately no intervention was being done on him, so some of his "inappropriate" behaviours (that now have totally disappeared since he changed schools) were chastised as "sexual" behaviour. An example: he used to pull his pants down just to attract attention (typical behaviour). Notice that he was 8 then. His resource teacher made a fuss out of this, got "shocked" (I repeat, he was a small 8 yr old boy) and quickly gave a sexual implication to the behaviour. I know you all feel like laughing but I swear it's true. No need to say that the teacher had an issue with sex, not my son. Please, do check what's going on in his class. Since we had such a bad experience with the Irish Primary education System in the past (not now, for the moment he's happy), I am very weary of anything "strange" going on in our children's behaviour. I hope I'm wrong ;-) In the meanwhile, I suggest you a book that my son finds very interesting, it's called "Growing up" from Usborne Facts of Life, i bought it in Eason but I've seen it in Waterstones too. There are a lot of practical aspects of puberty and adolescence and it's written in clear children language. My son finds it interesting also because he wants to look "cool" for girls , and there are a lot of simple trick from how to brush your teeth properly to how to have a proper shower described. Luke Jackson's books about adolescence under an Aspie's perspective are also very good. Good luck, keep in touch Martina Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tilly Report post Posted November 6, 2007 well dd missed the lessons, and that was best for her but i found little and often, every week i would say a little, and then the following week it was hard going, but worth it if he does not want to go i am not sure i would push it but i am a softie good luck x My sentiments exactly. I have opted out for the talk for my dd. The girls in Dds SEN school were offered a talk with a specialist nurse but in dd case she has coped very well with the changes and I was worried that a conversation totally geared for the subject would freak her out. Too much information in one go so to speak. Little and often worked well in our house - so far I always made it a positive thing too good luck tilly Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
