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tdewar

So close!

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tdewar   

Hi, it's Tom.

 

Oh my god, i was so close to passing my driving test today.

It was my first time as well, though i actually did better than i thought (I'll get to that)

I only got ONE serious fault, and that was simply because at a junction i stopped and then changed to second gear instead of first, and i stalled, even though i fixed it, it was definitely a fail because i stuck out in the road. Damn. When i got back i couldn't believe it, just if i changed gear, i would have a driving license by now. So frustrated its untrue. Even though i did better than i performed in my mock exams, only 10 driving faults...ugh, seriously you have no idea how much a pain in the ass this is. I stayed relatively calm, and afterwards my instructor who was there said he thought i did well but this whole event has been bothering me all day. I feel like a failure and generally feel annoyed and fed up with the outcome... I just need to forget about it but it's burned in my mind how close i was, advice anyone?

 

Thanks,

Tom

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gerland   

Sorry to hear that and I know it must be really annoying to know you were so close! However, according to a site I've just seen, only 43% of people pass, and the figure is lower for people who take their test for the first time, so you are in a majority there. There is also an article in the Daily Mail that claims you are actually a safer driver if you pass the second time, so try not to take it too hard. I'm sure you'll pass the next time around :)

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Tally   

Hi Tom,

 

I'm sorry to hear you didn't pass this time.

 

A lot of people fail on their first attempt - I did too.

 

It sounds like you are generally very good and could pass with a little more practice. Even experienced drivers make mistakes like this sometimes. So don't let it get you down. It's frustrating, but it sounds like you will pass eventually.

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Tanya52   

Hi Tom,

 

Believe me or not I envy you! Not because what happened to you but because you are nearly there! In my case it's another mountain to climb. I thought that I shouldn't be driving because of my dyspaxia but lately I found out that some dyspraxics do drive with the right training.

 

I want to give it a go this summer.

 

Is anyone knows where I can try a driving simulator? Please.

:)

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Linnet   

Hi Tom

 

Don't worry about not passing first time - you now have the experience of taking the test and this will help you pass next time.

 

I passed on my third attempt after 2 years of lessons but it then took me another 5 years to gain the confidence to drive on my own.

 

You sound as though you have the confidence to drive - you just need to get over the hurdle of the test.

 

Good luck for next time.

 

L x

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dekra   

Even though you didn't pass you did well Tom, look at it as an improvement on your mocks and a guide to where you need to work on while you wait for your next test. It's frustrating waiting for a re-test but you've come so far you'll get there soon.

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