Shelby Lusk Report post Posted December 16, 2011 Hi, I have recently found out that I have asparagus and was looking for advise: I have no friends because they said they were jealous of me and started ignoring me at school, but now i have left school I find it really hard to talk to people at work, and keep conversations going because i think people are judging me negatively. I have a very low self-esteem and would like to make some friends but get anxiety about going out as i am scared of being rejected, I hardly go out if i do its with family, people have told me i am wasting my life because i dont know how to have fun, does anyone know what i can do ???? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Suze Report post Posted December 17, 2011 My son finds he makes alot of his friends through his interests.Which are mountain biking, and tractors.He goes out every weekend with a group on long rides , and now socialises with them aswell.He also goes to agri cultural college and because he is very interested in tractors etc has made lots of friends through this interest also.Do you have any interrests that could help you develop friendships?........... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
butterfly73 Report post Posted December 17, 2011 Hi Shelby, first of all welcome ground rules: Be your own best friend (as in be nice to yourself.. sounds easier than it is, most are nicer to other than to oneself!!) Don't try too hard and always be yourself! There is no use in becoming friends because you pretend to be different.. You want real friends right.. BTW: Did you check wikihow?! Useful tips and topics there: * how to cope having no friends * how to make friends * how to be kind * how to be a good friend * how to become sociable * how to maintain a friendship * how to recognize a true friend etc etc.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tally Report post Posted December 17, 2011 Hi Shelby, and welcome. When you've had bad experiences, it's understandable your self-esteem will suffer. I can understand that because the same thing happened to me. You're not wasting your life, you are doing the best you can. You might find it easier to make friends with people who share similar interests. Work colleagues can be a good place to start because you all have something in common because you work in the same place. But it could also be helpful to join a sports team or some other club associated with one of your interests. You could always bring a relative to help you make conversations and start getting to know people - you might find that after a while you feel more comfortable about going on your own. Another idea can be to see if there is a social club near you for people with Asperger's/autism. You might get to meet people with similar difficulties and share tips. And they should be more understanding and forgiving of any social "mistakes" which might make you feel more comfortable. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
butterfly73 Report post Posted December 17, 2011 Tally has great idea's .. I find that other people with AS are more open.. Eventhough we're all different for the Spectrum is broad, but we all know what it's like not to feel accepted.. That makes the thresh hold a lot lower ;-) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
