Inherited traits or in my mind?

[NannyPlum85]

Hi all!

 

I'm new to this site and wanted to share my story and gain some advice if possible.

 

Im 27 and last year I met my real father for the first time, it became obvious that he has either aspergers or autism due to many things he said/did, long story and won't bore you with that. My half brother, his son, also has learning difficulties.

 

My 7 year old son has recently been diagnoised with ADHD and as a toddler showed asd traits.

 

I came across the AQ test this evening i got a score of 30, so above average.

 

I researched this further (and found this site) and found a list of common aspergers traits, i read them to my hubby (didnt tell them what it was for) and he said i had all those traits.

 

All my life i have felt "different". I would say my main "trait" would be that I. HAVE. TO. HAVE. A. PLAN. FOR. EVERYTHING! to the extenct that it drives my hubby mad, he doesnt understand that i have to have one, he thinks that i can control it but i really cant. I completly freak out if my plan changes dramictally. I also hate making friends, hate talking to people i don't know or phoning companies etc. I come across as rude but truth is i just hate talking to people

 

Do you think I have inherited "traits" from my father and then passed adhd onto my son?? Am I too old to get a DX? How do I go about getting a DX?

 

Thank you for reading my epic post and look forward to all advice

[Sally44]

Although no-one knows for certain the cause of Aspergers or being on the autistic spectrum, it is generally thought that genetics play a part.

 

It isn't easy getting a diagnosis as an adult, and you need to think about why you want a diagnosis and any implications of getting one.

 

Maybe the first place to get information from would be www.nas.org.uk. They do have helplines and also an email service.

 

But I'm sure the starting point would be your GP and asking him to refer you to a multi disciplinary team that specialises in diagnosing autistic spectrum disorder in adults.

[Shnoing]

To get a Dx, you'll have to have some reports/evidence/whatever regarding your childhood, at least from the age of 3. As autism/Asperger is a developmental disorder, the "onset" has to have been in your childhood.

 

In my case, I started wondering after my son got his Dx, my mother had to be interviewed as well, and the traits in my father, which some people commented on in the past, make sense to me only now (for five years by now, that is). Still, HE doesn't even think about it, and I didn't feel like I could confront him now (what would it change).