Guest hallyscomet Report post Posted November 7, 2005 (edited) Hi, I feel we have hit another 'Roundabout' as they say, my son has been trying to get through an I.T. course at college, he didn't turn up to a lot of classes in the first Semester as he said they were so basic it was an insult to his intelligence, now in the Third semester he has had to repeat the Cert. 111 he started out to do as they will not enrol him in the Cert IV until he completes Cert 111. he missed some exams. I just can't get him to go at all he keeps coming up with excuses like my hand is sore, two weeks ago he injured his toe so I took him for xray to prove it isn't broken is should be better. It seems like Groundhog day over and over How the heck is he going to get on in Cert IV he seems to have lost all motivation. I cant get him out of his room. Listen to this - he had a Computer network at the Uni he goes to with a bunch of friends once a month, and they all take their computers and share files and play games etc. He was well enough to carry his computer out to the car and into to Uni and walk 20 metres my partner noticed without any sign of pain, yet at the end of the day when he got home he said he thinks he needed an xray. (he's using any excuse in the book not to go to college and missing so many classes.) I am afraid the College will eventually reject him and give up..... I had to pull him out of school in Year 11 as I said earlier as he had a bad reaction to the Measles Mumps & Rubella, his medication is constantly being monitored, I can't get him to the counsellor as I feel the counsellor has down everything in his power to get him to where he is now. WHAT DO I DO NOW???? I can't see him waste away like this... Is there any programs for teenagers like this, he's totally dependent on me, won't catch a bus, I have to take him everywhere. I know his dx is severe....any thoughts anyone....desperate and exhausted... and burnt out.... Hailey Edited November 8, 2005 by hallyscomet Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Report post Posted November 7, 2005 Hi Halley Sorry but find it difficult to advise you may be you should tell your son that next year you will send him to residential because you think he needs more support and it does not work as things are... just a suggestion . May be he is depress something happen that you don't know, if he is on medication he may need a review, can you try to have an heart to heart discussion wuth him or this is just not possible... What happen when he had the reaction to the MMR? What did the dr said at the time. Have you been through the thread about the cause of autism I put something there about that problem. Hope you will get better advice. Take care <'> <'> Malika. This quote is a double of the one already posted in the thread may be it will help you understand it is a Google translation of a French website not very good .... http://www.autisme.net/alrg-aut-vcin.html Extract of the review "New Medicines" n?96 January 2000 CONSECUTIVE ALLERGIES AND AUTISM In the last bulletin of the "National League for the freedom of vaccinations", two testimonys appear which confirm the toxicity and the side effects of certain vaccines, as opposed to what the authorities and the pharmaceutical laboratories affirm supremely. Here a text which says some longer than a book of medicine. How many similar dramas each year in France? When will the sacrifice of innocent cease ""? If you lived similar situations, or if you know cases around you, make know them with the League. It was a time when the vaccines managed with the children were regarded as a completely beneficial measurement, even a blessing. It is not any more the case today. These vaccines are discussed more and more, because one suspects them of generating a crowd of problems, in particular the autism. It was also mentioned the possibility of a short-term epidemic, because currently one does not work sufficiently on the causes of the autism, nor on any medical treatment. One puts much energy to determine or not a child so yes is a autist, without seeking why it became it so suddenly. The group of researchers thinks that, if the governments do not act soon, of the factors of heredity, of aggressions of the immune system by the vaccines with virus could make so that the cases of autism and invading disorders of the development continue to multiply and take the form of an epidemic. It was discovered that the weakening of the immune system constituted really a syndrome at the people autists. Specialists in allergy, immunology, neurology as in biochemistry note that the autism is increasingly widespread. More than one third of the children reached seems to present a reduced number of lymphocytes T CD4 and T CD8. Their organization can not be able to manufacture the antibodies necessary to fight the viruses injected by the vaccines. One thus has today sufficient evidence to suggest that the autism should be regarded as an neuro-immunological disorder. The researchers are more and more convinced that vaccination could be responsible for the weakening of the immune system and would be the cause of an aberrant immunity which, in its turn, would start allergies. These allergies are not visible (cutaneous eruptions) but appear by food intolerances which can, in their turn, to involve any form of neurosis, of psychosis, behavioral problems or dysfunction of the brain. The signs can be marked (hypotonia, cough, encircles under the chronic eyes, rhinitides and otitises, digestive demonstrations: distensions, constipation, diarrhoea, or neurological: hyperactivity, irritability, insomnia, sleep disorder). If one takes account of the medical antecedents, one finds in many families where there are autists, asthma, hyperactivity, the disease of Crohn, the Gilles syndrome of Tourette, etc. All these diseases have a direct bond with the immune system. The vaccine against the whooping-cough could be a major cause of damage to the brain. Let us stress that this vaccine generates serious allergic effects in the animals of laboratory. The doctors say that it is for that that one vaccinates, because the disease itself causes damage. But vaccination is quite as dangerous, because the bacteria can mislead the mechanisms of the immune system and remain in the organization during years. When it is known that the vaccine against the whooping-cough is already contra-indicated in the event of neurological disorders, one takes place any to think that this vaccine can just as easily create these disorders. The researchers report that the risk to develop a neurological disease in the seven days following vaccination is higher than one suspected it at the beginning. And that, the polio put aside, the majority of the diseases against which the children are immunized are relatively benign. The vaccines against the diphteria, the whooping-cough and tetanus can, in several cases, to start complicated epileptic fits, meningitides and to even create subclinic allergic enc�phalites. In their turn, these enc�phalites can induce the autism and others behavioral problem. Several mothers affirm that their child developed autistic symptoms, little time after having received a vaccine. One as discovered as with the vaccine against the diphteria and tetanus is associated a serious known allergic reaction under the name of anaphylaxie. The vaccine against measles, the mumps and rubella would be apparently associated, not only the anaphylaxie, but also the thrombop�nie. This vaccine having already for counter-indications: immunizing deficit and allergies. Various clinical observations could make evoke the participation of proteins of the cow's milk in the etiology of various autoimmune diseases. Intolerance with lactose, with less digestibility of milk, is physiological, but it can be pathological, particularly at the child, secondary with a viral infection (gastro-enteritis), with an allergy to proteins, an intolerance with the gluten of cereals. The inflammatory syndrome which results from it accelerates the renewal of the ent�ro-cytes, leading at the risk of atrophy villositaire and a malabsorption. The mechanism under consideration for such intolerances retains the idea of a less digestibility of proteins and a modification of the permeability of the intestinal mucous membrane. It would constitute genuine h�t�ro-antigens, at the origin of immunizing disordered states, with production of autoantibody and lymphocytes T car-reagents. These allergies and intolerances would be the consequence of a faulty operation of the immune system. The medical director of the Immuno-laboratories treated significant role of the allergic reactions with regard to the autism. The food allergies are often the cause of otitises, migraines, gastro-enteritises and of eczema and, consequently, any person who presents chronic neurological disorders of unknown origin should undergo test aiming at determining an intolerance with the gluten or lactose or both. Research carried out shows that, among autists, the rates of gluten and casein are higher than the normal and that, consequently, they present an intolerance at these proteins. One also discovered anomalies in the urine of the people autists (very high peptide rate). This study shows a deficiency in enzyme "DPPIV" what proves a weakness of the immune system. In experimental gastro-enterology, the study shows the persistent presence of the virus of measles in the intestine of the people autists. It thus seems increasingly obvious that it is necessary to associate the regressive autism the vaccine against measles, rubella, and mumps (ROR). The coeliaque disease is an auto-immune disease, characterized by an allergy to the gluten. This disease causes the formation of an antibody, the antione, which irritates and destroys the wall of the small intestine, thus causing a malabsorption of the vitamins and minerals... in a word of all that is essential with the life. Some children, with the autism at late beginning, have the coeliaque disease, but the majority suffers from the intestinal permeability. However, the gluten and casein are not intolerable substances, but their degradation releases from peptides which have an activity biological of opio�de. If the weakening of the immune system created an intestinal permeability, these peptides of opio�de pass in blood circulation causing a dependence (like drugs), affecting the transmission neurological and being able to then induce behavioral difficulties and regression of language as one sees it in the autism. The people suffering from such food allergies known as cerebral, often have a taste pronounced for the food which they do not tolerate. This because a first mouthful gives the impression to them to improve a depressive state or even a feeling of euphoria and wellbeing. Unfortunately, these feelings do not last. One or two hours later, they is followed of depression, D ' anxiety and of abatement, which push them to again consume the food on which they become completely dependent. The process becomes, thereafter, more poison that allergic. The results are related with poisoning rather than with an extreme sensitivity, but at the base, there are a completely defective immunity and an intestinal disease. The relevance of research is nevertheless of great importance, particularly in the light of the results of a possible association between vaccination, weakening of the immune system, affection of the higher respiratory tracts, allergies, disorders gastro-intestinal and autism. Lastly, always from the point of view of general intolerance to the cow's milk and for food safety, it is advisable to evoke the presence of possible contaminants: hormones, antibiotics, pesticides, dioxane. Medical controls should make it possible to remove such contaminations which can only attack the biological functions and to the health of the consumer. The recent revelations on the presence of dioxane atrates higher than those allowed in the cow's milks in the north of France start again the polemic on the consequences of industrialization and the agro-alimentary hyperproduction. In the same way the possibility of a transmission of the disease of Creutzfeldt-Jakob by the cow's milk reached of ESB remains an acute problem; contamination of the man by food resulting from sick animals being now allowed. To know some more: League national vaccinations 4, street Saulnier 75009 Paris L.N.P.L.V LP N?190 75 422 Paris Cedex 09 Internet : http://www.ctanet.fr/vaccination-information/ E-mail : Aide � l'Enfance Autiste Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
alibaly Report post Posted November 7, 2005 He sounds as if he is not liking colelge and could be depressed, I think his actions are speaking loud and clear. Maybe he needs to be following a different path. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zemanski Report post Posted November 7, 2005 This sounds like pure AS stress and anxiety reaction to me, you said you had to pull him out in Y11, his main GCSE year for similar reasons. This is exactly what happened to Com last year in school (although he doesn't appear to be bothered by exams etc) and it actually resulted in a drop in cognition great enough to affect his functioning across the board - Com has lost academic ground, self-help skills, his ability to recognise his own emotions, etc, all due to stress and he had exactly the same pattern of behaviour; refusals, illnesses ..... my advice would be 1. start recording all this so you can see the patterns - is there a link with particular areas of the course (is it certain days, or general)? I keep mine in outlook calendar which can be printed out as evidence 2. go to his tutor and explain what is happening and ask for specific support or is it possible to get him a year out to get him settled again or reduce the course demands so he can do it in smaller bites (this would take longer but might be more manageable) 3. go to the GP hope that helps good luck Zemanski Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phasmid Report post Posted November 7, 2005 See if the college councellor (I assume this is where the councellor you mention is from) will come and see him if he won't go and see them. Connexions service might also be of some help. The important thing has to be to open dialouge with them as soon as possible in an effort to head off problems. HTH Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
call me jaded Report post Posted November 7, 2005 This sounds like stress. You need to work out where the stress originates, which is not going to be easy, and Zemanski's suggestion of a diary is excellent. I'm also with Malika in that our children's bodies are already under enormous stress and that we need to deal with that too. My own son's perception of pain was unusual: if you touched him lightly he would jump as if in pain, yet he could drop a jar of jam on his toe and hardly notice it. This is one of the many things that were resolved by changing his diet. So could I suggest you keep a food diary too? What about distance learning? That would allow him more flexibility and to work at his own pace. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Canopus Report post Posted November 7, 2005 Appears to be stress and depression. It has extraordinary powers to demotivate. I went through a phase of this at university when I would rarely turn up to lectures and would do the lab sessions accompanied only by the lab technician. If your son isn't enjoying the course at college then allow him to drop out and take something he is more interested in. It could be a different course at college or it could be done via distance learning. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zemanski Report post Posted November 7, 2005 Canopus, what's the thread you did on alternatives to school and college? - the link might be useful here Zemanski Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Canopus Report post Posted November 7, 2005 Right here http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=4168 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest hallyscomet Report post Posted November 7, 2005 (edited) Hi Canopus, Thank you for that. May I ask how you have been doing after this. Did you find it hard to get employment. What type of area were your looking. This is something that confuses me, is there a particular field that AS people do better at. I don't know what they are. - - - - - - - The situation at the moment, is that I know my son has improved since the Regression with the MMR. I speak with the Head Teacher of IT when my son becomes what she calls a squeaky wheel. She is very patient, and always offering alternatives so he isn't stressed. When I ask my son are the teachers rude to him or any of the students bullying him, he says no, they are really nice. I just can't understand it, I drive him there and pick him up and its like this anxiety overcomes him and he often says I just don't feel well. Don't stress me out Mum you don't understand, I just can't go today. This is becoming a pattern week after week. He is obsessed with downloading stuff on to disks and programs to learn and learn all he can about programming so he has the passion yet to go to school it is a real grind. I am the most patient person in the world, and if I feel he is having a setback I take the time to talk with him, we constantly monitor his meds, talk to the teachers on his behalf, yet I and they are all so patient, yet he is stressed. WHAT I have trouble with is Open Learning or Distance Education. My partner says if I go down that path with my son - he just doesn't have the discipline to do it. Then where does that leave him... Another thing is talk about Gluten & Casein free diets, is his food causing him stress. Yes we have stress in the family - my partners daughter has a terminal brain tumour but she doesn't live with us she is only 26 I do my best not to let him see me worried - we used the counsellor here. He was able to communicate with the counsellor about his feelings and the counsellor put all his problems down to anxiety. He has been taking medication for anxiety for 2 1/2 years now. ---- I am just thinking out loud at the moment. I am thinking of asking my son to come on and tell us - whats happening to him, how he feels, as I think we all as parents would benefit, and maybe some of you with AS might like to come forward to share your views - to help us be better listeners... Just going to talk with my son he is 18. I look forward to any comments Hailey +++++++++ Hi All, Back with my son. He would like to share with us whats happening for him... --- Hi Everyone I suffer from as & a.d.d. I have had trouble making a commitment to my studies, whenever I try to do so I just seem to turn myself off, and for some reason I have an illness or injury... something always goes wrong and I have trouble controlling it... I don't know whether stress causes this but it really brings me down... anyway, I manage to get out with friends every now and then, but I just have a habit of keeping myself in my room as I guess... its one place I can feel totally relaxed and keep in contact with everyone on the outside... I am obsessed with downloading little applications from sourceforge.net and linux distributions, I have trouble communicating with people about my problems because sometimes... I am down and don't know why... I don't know whether this is some kind of condition... I've been taking Luvox for my anxiety, and it does help a fair bit, as I was real bad a few years ago... almost missed 3 quarters of school... actually I probably did miss 3 quarters off school... around the time I was injected with measles and mumps rebella vacinnee... I first experienced anxiety at work experience, I had irritable bladder and bowel syndrome... that made it real tough for me, as I was basically going to the thunderbox every 5 minutes or so... Anyway, I am trying to get myself back on track, but I feel like I need a bit of space since I have a lot of things on my mind which I have to work out... I have seemed to injured my foot recently, I'm sure some people may believe I am faking, however I am not... I was walking like a moron as usual and kicked my foot real hard on a plank of wood under my bed... may have been running... however, my memory really does suck as I can't remember sh*t these days... I have the memory span of a gold-fish... no thats only a joke, not that bad. Anyway, I have had trouble walking and as my mothers partner said, it looked like I was fine when I was carrying my computer... well it is quite heavy and I have to put on some strain on my foot to carry it as it is rather... big. Regarding to college... when I get to tafe, everything is fine for a bit, but then... when it becomes boring, I get turned off and I am definately not motivated... its like... I somehow feel insulted that I have to sit through a class which I could do with my eyes closed... its basically just something I need to work on I guess? patience? anyhow... I have had problems making a commitment because for some reason at the last minute, I always get nervous when there is nothing to be nervous about... its like... natural for me now... since it happens so much... I don't know whether I'm deprived from learning or whether I am just lazy... in a way I do feel lazy at times, but for some reason when I try... something always comes over me and just makes it 10 times harder than it already is... I guess I'm not really good at facing challenges since I give up easily... especially if its something I don't want to do in the first place... anyway, I guess I got something to work on in the future... patience, not back out so easily and just stick in there because once its over... its over, and that will be a big step for me. Anyway, thats my say... I hope this has helped you understand some how... what I am going through... All The Best Billy Edited November 7, 2005 by hallyscomet Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted November 8, 2005 Hi Hailey (and Billy - nice to hear from you, welcome!) My daughter had similar problems with motivation when she was at school. She became turned off certain subjects she couldn't see the point of and just stopped doing the work. Her school did not offer her the subjects she really wanted to do. Like your son, she found some of the work so basic she couldn't be bothered, whilst the rest was too much effort. After breakdown, depression and a year out of education she is now really enthused to learn again - but on her terms. As I have posted she is back at college but steering clear of academic subjects for a while. She will, I hope get some of the enjoyment back into learning as she does things which are meaningful to her. Perhaps your son needs to take a break from college, radical suggestion, but if he has a period of time with the pressure completely off and doing something he enjoys but with no pressure to achieve, he may be able to relax enough to think clearly about what he really wants to do - it obvoiusly isn't the course he is currently doing, he porobably needs something much more stimulating. K Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest hallyscomet Report post Posted November 8, 2005 Hi All, thank you for your replies, I am taking it all in. Its a hard one. Hi Kathryn, Thank you for your reply. It makes a lot of sense. Did anyone help your daughter with these decisions like a Careers counsellor, how did she get to that point. I thought my son had got there, as he almost lost 3 years of education from Years 9 to 11 because of the side effects of that blasted MMR injection. I blame that you know... I don't know if that is a huge cause here... Hailey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest hallyscomet Report post Posted November 8, 2005 Well guys, I finally put some of your advice into action. The disability support section at the college that I had contacted at least 3 - 4 times with no reply, finally got my message this time. I got someone else involved and copied in a few VIP's and guess what, I received a call within 2 hours I think I am finally going to get some real support for my son after all, they are going to arrange a meeting. Said they were shocked that no one had assisted my son all this time. as I said to her, I dont know where this will lead all I want is to know that my son is happy and he is doing something he feels he can handle. As you read my son came on earlier - I gave her a copy of that also, so she can see his side of things... Will keep you posted Hailey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted November 8, 2005 Hi Hailey - sorry not to have been around to reply to your post earlier. It's been a long slow process for my daughter. She has been seeing a careers advisor (connexions worker as we call them here: they deal with young people aged 14 - 19). She found my daughter hard going as she was unable to answer hypothetical questions such as "what do you see yourself doing in the future?" . Freedom of choice doesn't work too well for her either as too many options throw her into turmoil. I think she has just got to the stage where she is so bored at home and she is desperate to get out and do something. Now that the depression has lifted and the memory of the difficult time she had at school has receded somewhat, she is ready to start again in a supportive environment. I'm glad you got a positive and swift response today and I hope things can move forward for your son now. He stated his feelings very clearly and it's good that you were able to show them what he said. Let us know what happens, K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest hallyscomet Report post Posted November 9, 2005 Hi Kathryn I think the time zones put us behind at the moment it is 10.36 pm here on Wednesday evening. Your time would be 11.36am Thursday. It was good I email the post thread she has set up an appointment with my son and I as well as a counsellor, on the 18th November. I really ratted on the other lady, in Disability though, because I rang her at least 3 or 4 times throughout the year and she never replied to my calls so I just took it upon myself to talk to his teachers. The thing is when he was enrolled I had this meeting with the Disability support people, her name was Anne she asked my to bring in all my sons medical reports, however, when she put his applications together - I asked her why aren't you including his medical reports as you requested, and she said straight out, "Well, you want him to get into the course don't you" - when I got home I was furious and phoned the Learning Difficulties Coalition and relayed this to the lady their, she said this sounds like discrimination, and gave me a number to call if my son was rejected. Crazy thing is Anne said her role was to be the one that communicated with his teachers and us if my son started to have any problems. Well, again as I said when I phoned her she never returned my calls. As I said I rang a few VIP's and had a call from Deborah - Anne's assistant. Deborah is going out of her way to help us, she also assured me she knows what we are going through as she was an AS child, that is a relief. But get this - I also received a phone call from Anne (advising me I must have phoned the wrong phone number) who is she trying to kid. Alarm bells went off for me as only a week ago, the Head of IT advised me that a student who was a Quadriplegic had passed away. Thats why I was angry, I started to wonder if this persons plea's for help were being ignored like my sons. So I am going to make it known the brush off I received. Sorry for going on an on, I have to remain positive now, like a few of the others suggested - I need to step back and let my son find what it is that will make him happy. Just like your daughter is doing. Hows the weather over there in the U.K. We are heading into summer and today was awfully hot at least 30degrees celsius and humid. Have a great day, I am off to sleep its almost 11pm Regards Hailey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted November 9, 2005 Hi Hailey, I think you are ahead of us actually - still Wednesday evening here! I sometimes get up in the wee small hours to watch the Australian Open tennis on TV in January. I'll be crossing fingers for you on the 18th. The disability support worker's comment is unbelievable. She sounds like a complete waste of space. I'm not surprised you are angry: she has completely failed to do her job. At least you now seem to have someone who is on your side, lets hope she can influence things. OOh I envy you your weather, having grown up in the Southern hemisphere. I still miss those blazing hot Christmases... I hope you have a pool somewhere to cool down in! We haven't had too bad a day: it was quite mild with bright sunshine. Take care and best wishes to Billy - perhaps he'd like to join the forum too? K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Canopus Report post Posted November 9, 2005 Thank you for that. May I ask how you have been doing after this. Did you find it hard to get employment. What type of area were your looking. Finding employment is not my best skill and it is more a result of not knowing many people who work in my field than being bad at dealing with people. The old saying of "it's not what you know but who you know" really is true. The problem I have is that I don't come from an electronics or computer background and have never had an ounce of support in these areas or even known anyone who works in the industry before I was 18. After I graduated I worked as a computer programmer, but then went back into university research in electronics. It was probably a mistake doing so because it made me lose contact with the commercial world and I have ended up finding there are very few careers in my specialist area of expertise. Nowhere seems to be recruiting at the moment and my lack of insider contacts means I am on my own and effectively cut off from anyone from the electronics and computer community apart from a few enthusiasts that work in other types of businesses. It looks like I have two choices: emigration or a career change. There appears to be better career prospects in my area in America, but I don't know what the work culture is over there. Is it much different to that in Britain? Do American firms really grind you down and stress you beyond the limit? Changing career is quite difficult even for someone under 30. Most job vacancies want several years experience or expert knowledge in a specific area. If you don't have this experience then you will get rejected. In other words a career change often means having to compete for the same positions as those intended for a 21 year old straight out of uni. This is something that confuses me, is there a particular field that AS people do better at. I don't know what they are. Stereotypically they are good at maths, science, and computers so work in these fields as engineers, university academics, computer programmers, and scientific researchers. In practice this probably isn't true. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest hallyscomet Report post Posted November 10, 2005 (edited) Canopus, I worked in that industry for a few years myself in Australia. A lot of people go to Employment agencies. They build a profile for you, and sell you to the employer. Quite frankly I wouldn't have applied for many of the jobs they sent me out to for interviews. But they may be able to help you, give you some advise. The thing is once you get your foot in the door, the company will take you under their wing, and usually they train you up with whatever they have going. I worked for Unisys and IBM apparently Cisco is a really good company to work for. My brother in law is a bit of a genius in I.T. he recommended my son approach them for work experience, he understands my sons AS. Sorry I tend to go on a bit. But I am all for Agencies that specialise in Accounting or I.T. If you find the right one, surely they will build your profile and help you look outside the square. You sound like a lovely person, like the old saying goes "Keeping turning over those stones, you never know when you will find your gold." It will happen. In fact I found this forum in the US its called the Total Success Forum. They help people get motivated. Maybe they might enlighten you. They make me laugh... One day I was searching in frustration for some answers and insight, here I'll copy there website for you, who knows they may even find you a job. Here tis.. http://totallifesuccess.com/forum/index.php? good luck, you need to sign up its free, before you can post messages. We need to lighten up... I often get ground down and think gosh, and say to myself "Enjoy the Journey" that is life a journey. One on my mentors once said, imagine your life as a Kaleidescope, make yours as colourful as you can, "your life". Colour your life like a Kaleidescope. Enough said,.. What you are looking for is just around the corner. Don't you forget it. Thanks for your posts, I really appreciate it. Would love to hear how things go for you. Regards Hailey Edited November 10, 2005 by hallyscomet Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest hallyscomet Report post Posted November 10, 2005 (edited) Hi Kathryn, Thanks for your reply. I think you and your daughter set a benchmark for me, I guess I realised that my son could be getting the same sort of assistance, so it gave me the motivation to put my foot down. I am pleased I did. Today was another hot one about 32 degrees I am 2 mins drive from the coast so its a bit cooler, I feel really sorry for those out west as they would be really feeling it, at least 37 out west. Sometimes it gets too hot, when it gets to 40 they have to let the children stay home, or they suffer heat stroke. I love the cooler weather Autumn & Spring between 18 - 23 crazy thing is we could get a cold snap tomorrow and it could be 15 degrees, silly Aussie weather. Getting back to my son, you should see his face, he is sooooo relieved to know he is getting some reallllllll support. god love 'em. Hows your daugher going... Speak with you soon, thanks again Kathryn Regards Hailey <'> Edited November 10, 2005 by hallyscomet Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted November 10, 2005 Hi Hailey, I'm glad our experiences were able to help you with your son. I'm sure now that everyone is on the case, positive things will start to happen for him. Great to hear he's already feeling happier. You're doing great. L had another good day today, apart from our problems getting started in the morning, as I've posted on another thread! She had a day out at the agricultural section of the college and got to hold and weigh a calf. There were cats too, so she was in her element. She is absolutely worn out with all the exercise and has decided to have a break tomorrow. When she told me she'd decided this, my immediate thought was "yippee!". I think I need a rest too! take care, K Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest hallyscomet Report post Posted November 10, 2005 Hi Kathryn, You must be really happy, to see her getting out and having these experiences. You are doing a great job too.. I read this post. I like the bit about wearing the walkman... We could set up a post for survival tips for mum We certainly need them, I bet their would be some funny responses. Have a great day. Also I was right after 37degrees yesterday, I am wearing a jumper today its cold and windy 17 degrees this morning. Bring it on... love the cool. Will let you know how the meeting goes. Have a great weekend. Hailey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest hallyscomet Report post Posted November 10, 2005 Hi Kathryn, You must be really happy, to see her getting out and having these experiences. You are doing a great job too.. I read this post. I like the bit about wearing the walkman... We could set up a post for survival tips for mum We certainly need them, I bet their would be some funny responses. Have a great day. Also I was right after 37degrees yesterday, I am wearing a jumper today its cold and windy 17 degrees this morning. Bring it on... love the cool. Will let you know how the meeting goes. Have a great weekend. Hailey Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
