amberzak Report post Posted February 27, 2006 My friends birthday was a couple of days ago, and we went to Smith and Westerns for a meal. It was load and horrid. They ahve beels going off for peoples birthdays every 15 minutes it seems. Well then we went to Chicargos - a night club in our area. The music was deafeningly loud, and there were people everywhere. I felt really uncomfortable and I thought my head was going to expload. I couldn't explain to my friends that the music really hurt my ears, nor could I explain that I don't like too many people - I go for the quite, not so busy areas. I also would like to know if people find relationships hard. I had a boyfriend, and though I loved his attention, I got uncomfortable at the physical attention he was giving me. I don't really like too much physical contact with people. Do others find the same? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyFulkirk Report post Posted February 27, 2006 You totally can say that it's too loud - you could say if you didn't want to explain anything else that the flashing lights or loud music gives you a migraine because that is a 'mainstream' thing that your friends will accept. And yes... same with me and relationships. I have had two boyfriends in my life, one I broke up with because he went off to join the army and didn't want to still have a girlfriend, the other one more recently because I started realising that he didn't understand what I wanted or needed in a relationship and wasn't interested in finding out. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
amberzak Report post Posted February 27, 2006 My x was very loving and understanding, but he was too touchy. I wanted to be snuggly and cuddly, but I find touching hard. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bullet Report post Posted February 27, 2006 I can completely relate to this. I am not a great fan of clubs either. There's too much noise coming from all directions, I get disorientated and hate the fact there's so many people there. Regarding relationships I'm very lucky in that I met my DH when I was 18 and have been with him ever since, but had had no relationships beyond one that lasted a couple of months before that. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites