Bit of news about my sister

[fiorelli]

I posted back in February as I was concerned for my sister (N).

 

http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.ph...2&hl=sister

 

I hadn't seen her for a long time, but had heard some things about her from our other sister (L) that made me worried.

 

Well, last month, both of these sisters (I have another elder sister too), came and visited me. L was pretty much her usual self, told me about her new job, how she was saving money to get a deposit for a place of her own etc. N sat through this, watching my baby. She then asked if she could hold D. When she was holding D, she went on to say to me that what she didn't like about Louis was how he was always shouting, and running around.

 

She started crying saying that DLA had stopped her payments, that she didn't know why. We somehow managed to get around to me asking whether she had been to the doctors for help. her words to me were 'I can't, because I find it very difficult to tell them how I feel'. She started saying how she kept burning things, as she couldn't understand the cooking instructions. That mum was moaning at her because of it. We went around in circles about the same things for a few hours.

 

I went to my mum's yesterday to give her her 50th birthday present, and saw my sister there. She looked a little happier, has lost a little weight. I found out from Mum, that mum can't get any help for N. As N is an adult, it is apparently up to her to sort out help. That support for children in he area they live is hard enough to come by, and support for adults is near enough non-existent. Mum also said that N has started to get very verbally aggressive when in a down period, whereas before, she used to lock herself into her bedroom, and watch Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and the other one that came out at the same time (can't remember the name), watch them over and over and over, and memorise each and every word of it.

 

While there, I also found out that N only has a couple of weeks left to appeal the DLA desicion, so I have said I'd help her write a letter, as she said that she couldn't phone them (unable to speak on phone and get her views/opinions across - sounds much like Louis actually!).

 

I also found out that N managed to get herself a form to complete about her difficulties etc which mum's mum-in-law helped her complete. Because of this form, N now has the opportunity to go to the local Mental Health Hospital to attend a group designed for adults the same age as N with the same diffiulties as N, to help them socialise. (N dropped out of school in year 8, has had no qualifications or help, or socialisation with others her age since then - she is 22 now.)

 

So, I do think I was right to be worried back in February. I am still concerned now. But because of my problems with my Mum, I am limited with what I can do to help. But I will keep my ear to the ground and help her where I can, as much as I can. Please keep your fingers crossed for her. She needs all the luck and positive vibes she can get.

 

fiorelli xx

Edited August 10, 2006 by fiorelli

[marshmallow]

<'> and for both of you, I hope your sister gets the help and support she needs.

[Guest hallyscomet]

<'> keeping everything crossed <'>

 

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[keyholekate]

I'm Sending those vibes.

[dooday24]

<'> <'> goodluck hope everything gets sorted <'> <'>