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thanks baddad and call me jaded for the advice and tips. There are some very good points from both of you that I can tap into. It's comforting to know that I can log onto this site and vent my spleen as it were. JSMum, yes he did buy the camera. He is very pleased with it and would like to buy more!!! thanks alot. Jet 28 (aka Joyce)

thanks for the reply Adam. I hadn't thought of that angle I have to say, he may well be more interested from that perspective as he does love engineering and how things are made. Would you have any tips for me on how to keep it in perspective when he gets these thoughts on buying things. many thanks Joyce

As a new member to this forum I thought I would ask if anyone can give me advice on how to reign myself in during moments of frustration with my sons condition. As an Aspergers sufferer he often gets an idea into his head and that is final!!!!!! And that is completely fine I have to say. I however, sometimes battle like crazy with him and really wish I didn't as these situations often occur over very trivial things that don't matter to me but for some reason, It becomes a battle of wills and I get rather upset over them. For example: he set his sights on an old camera that he saw at a car boot sale (which didn't work, and you can't even buy the film anymore!!). This was £10 and he was going to buy it out of his own money. I on the other hand didn't want to see him waste his money on something that didn't work and would rather he spent the money on something functional or something that he could get use out of. I know it shouldn't matter what he spends his money on and as a parent I have always said that he can spend his money on what he likes. However, I still found myself struggling and battling with myself over this and was so frustrated when he bought it. He was unaware of how I felt as I made sure he didn't see me struggle with this. I know this sounds like madness, but does anyone have any tips on how I can overcome my frustrations over situations like this.... Joyce

I'm so pleased that it sounds like you are on the right track now with the professionals. From my own experience, it did seem like a bit of an uphill struggle when my son was going through his diagnosis. (diagnosed at 7yrs, he's now 10) However, the school was supportive and the CAMHS team were excellent. You have to fight for your kids and not give up no matter how desperate it gets. The help is out there, and once you tap into it, its a great feeling of relief. Our determination for our son Max has in some ways I believe, helped the primary school identify traits for others coming into the school. We had sessions with the SALT team, school action plus courses and even managed to get our SEN to go along also. I appreciate that not all schools are as supportive as ours has been, but it is still mainstream and we still keep on their backs when we feel they are slipping a little. Good luck with the diagnosis. Joyce

Hi I am a new member. I don't have AS or any other autistic spectrum condition but my 10yrs old son has Aspergers. He is affected in the following ways but I expect this to change to a degree when he goes through puberty and adolescence. Positivley He is very polite will not break a rule he asborbs information like a sponge and I can't wait to take him to his first pub quiz he is very loving and affectionate very friendly (but this can be a negative when out shopping) doesn't need any help with his homework at all (definately a good thing) negatively he has no volume control on his voice he is very literal gets upset and frustrated very easily very repetative not very tolerant no concept of stranger danger I wouldn't swap him for the world!! <'>