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Ok will look forward to meeting others with the condition in person for the first time

Ok thanks. Is that in a pub? Do they then go in a private room or have discussions in the bar area with other customers? I don't drink! Lol

I was diagnosed last year with Asperger's but the centre said they do not do self help groups or therapy I will have to find them online. I thought there would be some in London but I can't find any. Can anyone suggest any or where to look?

I have similar problem. In my own family we rarely hug each other when we meet. I recall at my twin brother's funeral I broke down and my sister's didn't know how to console me we were not used to bodily contact, or maybe they felt I wasnt? Strange thing my ex girlfriend in my last relationship ten years ago asked me rec bt key in an email, on our first night together, the next day I hardly said a word or touched her. She found that strange and rude and felt like I did really like her. I had no recollection. She also said she found it weird sharing same bed with a man and never getting intimate in over two years.

well if the boss were already 'shoving you in a corner' or assuming you are incompetent and its affecting how you are at work, then its best to tell them. If they think having the condition makes it worse or uses it against you to stick the knife in, they could be wrong. You could be in a job/career suitable for those with aspergers see below. In the studying i was doing for the knowledge of London black taxi, where you are tested in a formal interview. My social interactions kept pulling me back due to hesitancy, lack of eye contact, facial expressions which i was not aware of, etc. Upon diagnosis i found it was actually a job suitable for aspies in the said list. They were understanding after sending them all the paperwork from the consultants who diagnosed me. I also learned they give allowances for people with dyslexia, who sometimes appear scatter minded like they have not been doing any studying when they have. http://www.adultaspergerschat.com/2013/03/50-great-jobs-for-adults-with-aspergers.html 50 Great Jobs for Adults with Asperger’s and High-Functioning Autism “Would there be a list of jobs that might be best suited for adults with Asperger’s?” The short answer is “yes.” Some adults with Asperger’s and High-Functioning Autism may have difficulties with short-term memory, multi-tasking, and social skills. So, here is a list of good jobs (not all-inclusive) for these adults based on their unique challenges: 1. Accounting 2. Animal trainer 3. Automobile mechanic 4. Bank teller (drive-up position only) 5. Building maintenance 6. Building trades 7. Carpenter 8. Ceramics 9. Clerk and filing jobs 10. Commercial art 11. Computer animation 12. Computer programming 13. Computer repair 14. Copy shop jobs 15. Data entry 16. Drafting 17. Engineering 18. Equipment designing 19. Factory maintenance 20. Fast food restaurant jobs (drive-up position only) 21. Freelance work 22. Home-based business 23. Inventory control 24. Janitor jobs 25. Jewelry making 26. Journalist 27. Laboratory technician 28. Landscaping 29. Lawn and garden work 30. Lawnmower repair 31. Library science 32. Mathematician 33. Musical instrument repair 34. Newspaper editor 35. Photography 36. Physicist 37. Piano tuner 38. Recycling plant jobs 39. Small appliance repair 40. Statistician 41. Supermarket worker (e.g., stocking shelves, bagging groceries) 42. Taxi driver 43. Telemarketing (employee works with the public, but not face-to-face) 44. Tree trimmer 45. Veterinary technician 46. Video game designer 47. Warehouse jobs 48. Web page design 49. Welder 50. Wood carving These are just a few of the jobs that adults on the autism spectrum would be good at. There are certainly many more!

I was officially diagnosed with having Asperger's Syndrome three days ago. The consultant psychologist said he will be putting it in writing, so i can notify any interested parties, and advice me on the next step, regarding further counselling/therapy etc. One thing, he did not refer to the condition as 'Asperger's Syndrome' but as me being in the 'Autistic Spectrum'. He said the latter is the way it is described now by those working in the field Well a big weight seems to be off my shoulders.Well it would seem i can now see reasons/explanations to my life and growing up.

Thanks for your kind words. Now does anyone know how they treat a middle aged adult near 50? is it group discussions to become more aware of negative triaits of AS you may have? ie lack of eye contact, apparent rudeness, liack of empathy, facial experessions etc etc or try to get sufferers to learn to live with and and accept? the aim is not to 'cure' but to 'treat' or come to terms with it?

i meet JWs practically every day as a postman and they knock on my door at least once a week or everytwo weeks because i live on a main road. They came from america out of thesame religious movement as there main rivals, the mormons and and seventh day adventists, you could perhaps add the sceintologists to them. I have direct experience with cults as i discussed before on this forum and i know they are one. The simple thing to note about JWs are that they program adults to think and act like children, where their religion is concerned no matter how silly and ridiculous the teachings are. If you ask them questions about what believers can and can not do, they simply say 'we are not allowed to comment on individuals' which is sign of a controlling cult. you are not allowed to go inside another church or listen to anyoneelse preach, even if it is a wedding or funeral of a close relative. They ask you to read their leaflets and come to their church but if you invite them to attend your local church first or read your leaflets they refuse to. I usally have NHS blood donation leaflets to hand to give to them, and point out before they usually walk off that many lives have been saved by blood transfusions and it is still rare for people to die or be harmed from contaminated blood. So those whose lives will be saved will be punished by god? They are not allowed to take part in any form of political activity or public demonstrations, or union activity.I have pointed out to them that what if they worked in unsafe enviroments by profit chasing management looking to cut corners? they are not allowed to campaign against it? If Dr King or Nelson Mandela were JWs and the majority of people living under apartheid or in the segregated south of the US, the said men would not be able to achieve what they did and those oppresive conditions would still be there today. JWs believe not to get involved with anything and wait till god returns. That is a cult So their members just do as they are told and sound like robots when you speak to them at the door. They either walk away or just remain speachless when i point out the above. They dont have answers. But i am sure poeple with low self esteem would join them or even some aspies

I had a visit to my local NHS hospital psychiatric unit in Waltham Forest for Asperger's diagnosis. The psychiatrist I saw said I have the symptoms and he is referring me to Dr Riordan a consultant psychologist who will arrange therapy and runs self help groups. Yes a weight has been lifted from my shoulders

I live in london and was looking for some but not many. Will continue. But a lot of forums online. Isnt it better to meet in person like how Alcholics Anonymous, gamblers annonymous work? Or since having social interaction problems a major issue of aspergers its not suprising most chat online?

Arrived from my local NHS authoritiy Mental Health services. It is rather brief only ten questions. Some i cant really relate to. I dont know what answers they are looking for. Would it be 'cheating' to ask others on here about them? or how they interpret the answers? or what to put? Is it Best to answer honestly as possible and see what they make of it? I often get bored with these general questions asking for scale of whether i agree or disagree. The first question about observing small sounds when others do not. I have no experience of ever doing that and that is an aspergers trait? I also dont read novels or books with different characters, to get to know their intentions. Last time i did that was when doing A levels or maybe at university as part of a course. So would they still see me if i ticked the boxes that would suggest i am not an asperger? Or they would speak regardless? This is my secret fear before filling in the questionnaire

This was a constant problem i have espeically holding on to events from childhood and school which should be distant foggy memories or trivial concerns. In my last relationship my ex kept telling me i sound like a broken record and appear addicted to bad memories, maybe i just like beating myself up reminding myself of my failings?This made me assume i was manic depressive and went for counselling which did not help, i later found i have Aspergers, or the symptons are exactly how i act, since i have not been diagnosed. So is holding on to bad memories typical of asperger sufferes?

Does anyone know if there is a link or feature of aspergers and slow learning? I am not talking learning difficulties, just slow to pick up things and perform certain tasks? Do sufferers have a problem putting things together or using hands, assembling/sorting which is what i have. I am dreadful at assembling flat pack furniture, basic DIY, basic car mechanical work. When I was in army I had problems assembling things and doing basic drill to arrange equipment learning to do knots and lashings. I just kept thinking too much about what may go wrong 'if that happened' or 'it that bit isn't in right' etc when it was simple almost common sense. Some thought I was dim And always needed guidance At my job now in the postal service it involves a lot of careful sorting I am very slow at sorting the mail it can take me up to four hours when most can do it around 30-45 min or less. Also takes me double time to deliver the mail some can do two walks in time it takes me to do one. I am a slow leArner but if I do the same walk and sorting for at least a month after third week I am as fast as everyone else. I am just slow at getting to the required pace as the others. The managers know this and bosses waS there when it happened and congratulated me. But they won't give me my own walk and do a different one each day or same for just a week because they don't like people complaining about late deliveries every day for first few weeks. So its not easy for me at work Point is i worked most of my adult work in an office environment in civil service. I was constantlly behind a keyboard, also writing and studying at the Open University and doing evening classes. I used to do a lot of reports and write ups on message boards, fans lists etc and unpaid journalism work. I used to indulge in poetry. After quitting to go to university to do media and film studies, i have not worked in an office environment post uni days. My writing skills have gone rusty. Was just wondering if i have classic problem of 'nerds' who try their luck at 'practical' work using hands and are not suited to it? Another thing if i am diagnosed, i have not been yet, do i get a letter confirming this? I was wondering if i showed this to my bosses to show i have a condition they may relinquish and let me do the same delivery each day and get better over time

my experiences of relatiionships The father of my very good female freind asked why didn't I marry her. We became like friends good to share info but not suited to relationship a bit like how I got on with another close female freind of mine, whose chidren call me uncle and every father's day send me cards and presents! That is very touching. All that was Asperger's and I didn't realise it. Another thing my two women friend's say is that i dont like making physical contact like hugging, especially when i come back from a trip and they are happy to see me. Another thing in my last relationship i shared the same bed with the woman but never touched her sexually in over two years. She found that weird and said i was only guy who never pestered her for sex. and i kept saying how i preferred women with adifferent shape to hers. That was a bit weird, i thought it was me going through a self destructive reckless phase but could be aspergers? I told my freind's dad that my big fear I would be one of those old men who always live by themselves and never gets married. That could be Asperger's again I don't bother talking to women anymore. I could be a good tour guide cab driver etc who can rattle on endless info about the history of places but be very boring on a social level She said: 'I like those chats. I never find them boring' That is feature of Asperger's you have detailed info but weird or boring on social level. I simply don't know how to get dates even on dating sites. Women usually don't want to meet or after first meet stop contacting but my mates and cousin say he women keep pestering them to meet up for dates or sex! My mate was chatting to a woman all night in a club when she was leaving she went in toilets as stuffed something in his pocket . He showed us in the car, it was her panties! That never happened to me. they are still in a relationship by the way Maybe I am reserting to how i when i was younger? If women approached me i simply assumed, especially if they were attractive that i was not 'cool' enough to get girls like that, again self esteem issues? Would it work having a relationship with a fellow aspie? Someone suggested this. However My last relationship i was with a woman who was my mirror image in interests and personality. My cousin actually told people they both act the same that is why are together. Strange it was like having a twin again. ANd the same thing happened. We kept arguing, just like my and my twin brother. We were best suited as freinds/soul mates, or buiness partners but not in a relationship

As a twin we did not like being together, because we hated the non stop comparing and quickly got bored of fooling others and dressing the same, we stopped doing that at school! probably self esteem issues at work if you are known as those stupid twins, always making a scene, and playing in up in front of people, you dont want to be reminded by seeing each other. But that was at school. However we were the closest to each ohter and only one who could help each other or understand ourselves. I, was deeply affected by his death, and at times it served to remind me of playing up causing a scene when we were young and endless bad memories. It was like we had not changed or moved on with age. His death just rubbed it in once more creating more esteem problems. I tried to avoid people i went to school with out of shame of what happened, but i was beating myself up, most were understanding and not being spiteful or rubbing it in as i thouight.