justamum
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The link is irrelevant directly to the original post but the point I was trying to make is that instead of helping they have been threatened with punishment. Yes over feeding is as bad as under feeding BUT should a child being over feed because of lack of knowledge, or the children themselves pigging out, be forced into a care home or the family given assistance? Which is then relevant to this thread.
Most here concentrated on the 'over eating' part not the heavy handed SS. Yes I agree obesity in children is a form of abuse but one born usually though ignorance and not malice.
Just to let you know they have 6, I believe, children. Mum and dad are obese but only 3 children are obese and as far as I could make out SS want all 6 in care. MSP's got on the case.
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My case could be very easily portray abuse, thats how easy it could beJSmum yes it is so easy for this to happen isn't it. As with my sons records and even though there was no evidence to support the allegation it was not recorded as such and so the allegation sat on his records waiting until his pead discharged him into another dept. I have had it removed now though my solicitor but just think what would have happened it I hadn't..doesn't bear thinking about. However they are refusing to remove the part about my home being emotionally and socially detrimental to my sons well being. What was my crime? I didn't attend the school run booze ups at the pub. Sorry but I don't drink and I was not keen for my children to be subjected to watching their head teacher, a drunkard any way, getting p***ed. But they have put a note on to say I disagree. They also put a note on to say I disagreed with another child's record being in my son files too
Well yes I do disagree, he is not my son!One of the home ed groups I belong is full of parents being accused of unfounded abuse by teachers and the LA. Why? Because they said no, I won't agree to that!
Now I am not saying that all teachers do this, most don't. But are there some out there that get the Hitler syndrome. I also have friend who is a very qualified teacher and has come across a fair few of these and their nasty allegations toward her and parents.
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Justamum, do you genuinely believe that a parent who is systematically abusing their child, if approached, won't demonstrate concern or try to pass off abusive injuries as accidental ones and have them treated? Do you think that abused children aren't 'coached' in concealment and terrorised into collusion? An abused child will fear losing his/her parents as much as a non-abused child - Probably more so, because to enforce that collusion they will have probably been told in graphic detail of the consequences for them should they 'slip up'...Sigh I am just not bothering doing a full answer to this. When you have removed your teacher's hat and actually listen to what is being said by myself and others I may
We aren't all dumb, child abusing parents. Some of us can actually think for ourselves with 'professionals' telling us what to do!
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Well this is where COMMUNICATION comes into it. If you believe a child is exhibiting signs of abuse, but are NOT entirely sure because there are no cigarette burns etc, you speak to the parents and tentatively ask questions around your suspicions. How else are you going to know if soiling is due to bowel problems or something else. A genuine parent will seek medical help for the former and concerned about the later!
Of course it's right to raise concerns if you believe a child is being abused, but you/someone needs to recognise abuse from medical issues and not just go head long into abuse allegations. Obviously if there is a clear case of abuse then that's different.
I worked in a council run nursery and once the children were dropped off and the parents gone our first duty was to 'change' the children into the clothes the nursery had..in other words strip and look for bruising. You then became suspicious of every parent at the nursery and the poorer they were the more you looked for bruises...digusting state of affairs but this was 'Council Policy and Nursery rules for staff'. Yes there were one or two that had bruises and the parents questioned but none were abused and one of the children turned to have a mobility problem but still had to run the SS reporting for child abuse.
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I totally understand you Justamum.There are just too many stories like ours aren't there.
So it is soo easy how things can get misinterpretted.Too easy far too hard to get the muck removed, mud sticks!
And I often have cereal for tea/dinner when I have cooked for the children I starve
and I just don't fancy it. Nowt wrong with that.Sigh I now have to obtain important medical information regarding my daughters hypermobility syndrome and low hearing all over again because that's what has been lost and of course my say so she has this is total and utter rubbish isn't it!
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It's a little more than devastating!While it must undoubtedly be devastating for parents where these concerns are unfoundedNo one is saying that 'professionals' shouldn't report children they have concerns about. What I am saying IF there was the proper training to recognise AS from abuse then malicious reporting would be cut...and I have heard of a fair few in the last few months.
As for the original posting...I have just asked one questions many of my LA regarding missing files and been 'warned off!' So yet again Big Brother gets away with doing as it pleases.
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Now the grandmother has said she's going to hit me if son upsets this child again. He says he didn't do anything but of course is upset at being shouted at today after school (when I wasn't there) by this grandmother.Oh I would make a phone call to the police. Firstly she has threatened you but also she has abused your son.....both of which will not go down well with your community officer. Did she swear at your son? If so that an offence!
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I am not going to comment on this case I as I too don't know enough about it BUT let you tell you something that should make you think about whether those in the education/medical/social services should require further training on ASD and particularly those involved in Child Protection.
My son attended a school near me. I removed him due to a certain teacher calling him foul names, including 'tw*t'. I recently asked my solicitor to obtain his school records, before this his pead at EVERY meeting kept saying 'in all other respects he is healthy. Extremely healthy. The healthiest on my books'. I thought this strange and now I know why. On his records this teacher, and Child Protection Officer, had stated that the entire school staff where concerned with X being 'under nourished' and that his 'home environment was detrimental to his social and emotional needs'. Had his pead and his GP not been on his side, and mine, my son would have been removed from my care. This teacher didn't understand, nor wanted to, ASD and felt I was abusing my son and that's why he was the was he was. All this despite his SLT saying she felt he had ASD directly to them!
The problem is at times ASD children can mimic children in distress from abuse, well often they are being abused just by daily stress of being made to 'fit in'. Instead of understanding this because of lack of training the first thing that happens is the 'inadequate parents' are blamed. Then you have fight to clear your name and get a diagnoses whilst still trying to maintain a secure family home and routine for your child.
That's why training is required!
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Ah yes I remember those days!
Now there is no state school for my son we don't have them
and my daughter gets herself ready without having to help chase her brother up whilst I got on. -
One very naive phrase often heard IMO is that parents 'always know what's best' for their child.I'm sorry, but this is patently untrue as anyone who works in the education/care/medical field sadly knows.
AND it should NOT be always assumed they don't!
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don't hold your breath
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says an awful lot about the teaching then doesn't it!
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CatI gave up fighting and trying to get my sons to fit into the system and home educated. The relief was immediate and intense for all of us and has remained that way. We asked ourselves if what we were fighting for exisited and realised that it did not.
I second that. On the whole I believe inclusion is not working not because it can't but because our education system doesn't want it to despite what the Government want
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10 years I believe AND I was also told by a nurse that if you have 3 boosters you are immune for life...unfortunately I am old enough to have the 3 boosters
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She asked me to meet her once down our local shops when my son saw her he ran up to her but she ignored him. She was with a friend and walked passed him to look in a shop window. She said good bye to her friend waited for her to get some distance then tried to say hallo to my son.How horrible and rude. So she is ashamed of her grandson then? I know what I would have done, turned tail and gone home and given her a taste of her own foul medicine. Or said very loudly HELLO MOTHER IN LAW I HAVE BOUGHT YOUR GRANDCHILD TO SEE YOU. WHAT A PITY YOU FELT TOO ASHAMED OF HIM FOR YOUR FRIEND TO MET HIM, then gone home.
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Where on earth did this buying teachers present spring from? Do you buy your work mate a present when you go on holiday?
Nope I buy nothing, they are doing their jobs. If a teacher is leaving and I feel they are deserving of my contribution I will put money in the pot.
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please listen to what folk are saying and go and see someone, CAB etc. They can ensure you are getting all the benefits you are entitled to for a start.
I was almost in your situation a year ago, ex thought it would be a good idea to stop maintenance as starving us (his children too) would make me do what he wanted. Thanks to a good friend of mine 'buying' Christmas for us and more, and I have never meet her, we got back on our feet and said stuff your maintenance!
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It doesn't stop when you withdraw them from the State Education system. I am still battling for slanderous remarks to be removed from my sons record i.e I was starving him and his aggressive father is/was a good role model for him and the best. My non appearance at the school run social evenings, down the pub I might add (I don't drink), was not helping his emotional and social needs
I should also add the removal of another child's details from my sons records which the LEA are refusing to remove but will add a note stating that I disagree with the entry cough! erm of course I beeping do. He is not my son. He is some else's son! 
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ok have the teachers stop smoking the whacky baccy yet?
How weird!
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Unfortunately as her and her friends grow older they will probably become worlds apart with her friends no longer wanting to play games she wants and want to walk around chatting, part of the reasons why my son will not be starting High School this year. He was still playing with Primary 1's and enjoying it so the shock from that to being 'all grown up' would have been too much for him.
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This precisely why my son will NEVER return to mainstream education if I have anything to do with it
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DON'T buy the sheets. If you see your health visitor they will supply them for you and if necessary refer you on to other agents.
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WarrenQUOTE (justamum @ Jul 9 2008, 09:49 AM)
I take the attitude if someone is going to pinch something they will regardless of security measure, they will just do more damage
depends what they want it for
Well I have a 7 year 4 x 4 that most of the time looks like I have had a children's party in it......no takers for that
Does me, start first time every time (except when small boys leave the boot ajar for 2 days and deplete the battery), tows my caravan fine with no drop in MPGPearl did the 2CV stay together? An old boss of mine came into work one day and said he had gone home the night before and complained to his wife about all the cardboard on the front lawn. Turned it was debris from a Robin Reliant that had a smash earlier in the day
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Well Bagpus I can understand completely how you feel and been consider the exact same thing over the last day or so and today I shall be joining you in leaving for a while at least, if not for good.
I have always enjoyed your post as they were non biased and non judgemental with a great sense of humour. Please feel free to PM me if you want a chat.