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Have done that, and been told here would be a good place. So, if anyone has probably sons and nephews rather than nephews and nieces, please have a look at what he does. Anyone know anyone interested in the below, preferably with, or having an undertsnading of AS? Visit His Website Thanks

Hi, Have posted in a separate thread but , as a long shot, thought I might post directly appealing here too... Have an 18 yr old Asperger son - not the most 'academic', (so not into college speak), into urban sports, gaming, drawing and fantasy writing. Needs: someone that understands, someone with similar interests, someone that wont judge. Has MSN and a website. If anyone has ideas, would be grateful to hear them. Jaz x

Hi, It sounds so complicated I know, but he wont 'read' books. He CAN read but finds it a tremendously boring exercise so simply doesnt. Writes a bit (kids stories and fantasy), but will not read books - especially those outlining his, or similar, difficulties. Wants to separate himself from it (AS), as much as he can at the same time as needing to speak to people that understand. Yes I do think speaking to other Asperger folk would be of benefit but I am pretty certain that unless he finds people with similar interests he wont. Think I will post a separate thread appealing! Jaz x

Thanks Alexis. He, and we, are pretty 'up' on the ADHD aspect - used to chair the Sussex support groups and worked with many professionals. His impulsivity is pretty much under control now. It is the Aspergers we are struggling with. This has become more apparent as he has got older. He is fast becomming a recluse - outside of his college and other activities, which I have to say we badger him in to - lots of encouragement etc. He isnt your 'typical' Aspergers (whatever that is), in that he struggles somewhat academicly, compared to some (though he doesnt lack intelligence) and he is incredibly talented in another areas, that specifically being performance in freerunning and acrobatics. Struggles terribly with friendships, and hates being the way he is. Just wants to be 'normal' and not be called 'weird'. However, of course, he does himself few favours and will NOT socialise with those he knows, as he is so anti drinking etc which most 18 year olds do! Additionally, he is a good looking lad but worries that he has no girlfriend. He did have one, a year or two ago, but he is petrified of 'touching' as he finds it so uncomfortable. The minute she wanted to hold hands, he finished with her. Very difficult to get him out of his bedroom most times and though he speaks on MSN all the time (actually has a bit of a fan-base), he is often unsure of what to say and how to behave. The more he is called weird, the more he retreats into himself. I'll shut up now! Im sure he cant be the only one struggling with adolesence?

Hiya, Our son is also 18 and has AS. Diagnosed at 11, after initially being diagnosed as ADHD (wasnt a mistake, most definately both - VERY hyperactive and impulsive when he was younger, and though that is still there, is much better). Anyway, we have found that the older he gets the more apparent his AS is. His mates (of which there are becomming less), do the 18 year old thing (drink, socialise etc) and he hates alcohol (makes people change their behaviour etc) and cannot bear the typical 'youth' behaviour of others, so is indoors as much as he can be - avoiding most invitations out. He goes to college 4 days a week, studying performing arts and trains 3 times a week doing freerunning. Anyway, we have as many difficulties now as we did when he was behaviourally more challenging a few years ago, but the problems are different now. Loads I could say here, but really just wanted to say hi

Hi all, I am an interested parent and professional. We have two sons, aged 20 and 18. our youngest has Aspergers. Stuggled lots at mainstream school, not the most highest functioning, but copes. Left school, now at college. One succesful year, one not so good. Changing course this year. A very talented you man in one area (see website link in signature / profile), and would love to see him recgnised for this but struggles with face to face interviews etc. Im a teacher in an SEN school for primary pupils with moderate to severe learning difficulties, some with autistic spectrum some not. Give me a professional question or problem and Im there! Still finding my way as a parent