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  4. Posted · Edited by reuby2 · Report reply

    I have problems with getting my 7 year old to expand his diet. He will eat chicken dippers, sausages, cheese,

    Fish coins, Cooked white pasta,waffles, smiley faces, cheese strings, pepperami. He will not touch anything that has a "wet" texture so what I have to do is send a packed lunch with cheese sandwiches, drink, cereal bar and an apple. At night he will have chicken dippers/sausages/pizza/fish coins then i either make a huge salad with , carrots,celery,sweetcorn, apples, oranges, melon,tomatoes, cucumber etc or he will have cooked white pasta (nothing on it!) and a big corn on the cob with it and salad etc.

     

     

    I have tried to get him to try a more healthy meal but he just will not. So I have to give him the healthy things alongside it and he always eats stacks of fruit and raw veg like carrots etc, I just try my best.

    It's not because I am lazy or uneducated, it's just that it is a real battle where food is concerned, it has to be the same things all the time!!!!!!!!!

     

    I know that the health visitors would say if they don't eat it let them go hungry but my son seems to have sensory issues with texture of food etc.

     

    Oh well onwards and upwards!!!! >:D<<'>

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    Thanks everyone for replying,

    I did think about getting him some earplugs to use if the noise was bothering him, does anyone know where to get ear defenders for kids?

     

    Thanks again, everyone take care >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'>

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    Thanks for replying,

    I really have been feeling low because I have been feeling like a fake as well if that makes sense, because various family members etc know about the dx and are now making allowances which has helped tremendously. Also i have been finding support from here as well and then for it to be implied that he hasn't a problem then makes me think is it just our parenting etc causing him problems?

     

    The senco wants a multi agency meeting which will probably help as they can thrash it out between them and sort it that way. My son is very passive at school and doesn't appear a problem unlike another little girl that headbutts, kicks etc......my son just does that at home!!!!!!

     

    I have been feeling quite alone recently as i am fed up of all the people involved.Senco and speech therapist still think he has elements of dyspraxia , although Autism Outreach Team have said to the Senco that these things do overlap with ASD.

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    Hi everyone,

    I haven't posted for a few weeks , just getting back into it but there are some things that recently have really confused me and I don't know who to listen to.

     

    Back in November Camhs said that he ...."had feautures which place him on the Autistic Spectrum Disorder, Although at this point he does not meet the rigorous criteria for a diagnosis of childhood Autism, as per the International Classification of Diseases (10)....has a working Identification of an Autistic Spectrum Disorder."

     

     

    When we went back to the paediatrician she said " we have a clear diagnosis of an ASD...what about getting a statement etc."

     

    She said it was a clear case and that it said he was "on the spectrum" as the senco had confused me by saying it wasn't Autism.

     

    So I kind of understood as it was explained that he was somewhere on the spectrum between classic autism and aspergers.

     

    Anyway the Ed psych has come in to do some evaluation and as it was our first meeting she took some background etc.

     

    The Ed psyc said that he hasn't got a diagnosis of ASD from the Camhs report and that this "working identification of an ASD is cropping up a lot lately just so that the resources can be accessed." I explained what the paediatrician had said and she shrugged and said that's not how she read it. She then went on to say that she has another pupil at another school that has a diagnosis of an Asd from the same CAMHS psychiatrist and she thinks he has no problem with social interaction either.

     

    The Autism outreach team were coming in that day and I haven't spoken to them yet, But I feel totally confused. I thought I was getting a handle on things and reading up on Asd etc, Camhs had pointed us to the NAS website etc. Now I don't know whether he has ASd or not and if not then I should come down harder on some of the behaviour issues.

     

    I don't want my son to have label but I would like to know how best to deal with things.

     

    I'm sorry it's so long but these different people are frying my brain!!!!!! :huh:

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    I do keep trying to tell him to go into another room if he doesn't like it but he just shouts even louder, I feel really controlled sometimes and I want to try to stop this controlling behaviour.

     

    Sometimes it is as if he thinks he controls the whole world and they must act as he wants or else he can't cope. I don't know whether this is an ASD thing or just spoilt behaviour.

     

    Any tips would be gratefully appreciated.

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    I find my son will either see something on his T.V programs or hear something and then later he starts to be afraid. When he needs the loo upstairs he always wants us to go with him and the door shut behind us etc.

    When the school nurse gave a talk about washing their hands and germs, he spent the next two weeks with his hands pulled up his sleeves and wouldn't touch things with his hands!!!!!!!

     

    I struggle to know how best to help him so I always try to be there for him but then, I wonder whether I aren't just making it worse in the long run and would it be better to make him face some things alone??

     

    A lot of things that he sees make him anxious.......he saw a cartoon that mentioned how fat makes it difficult for the heart to work....So now he is worried that his heart will pack up etc.

     

    At 7, he won't go anywhere without me or dad. I can't leave him at a friends house or an after school club etc.I want to build his confidence but he flatly refuses to try anything outside of his routine.

     

    Just a thought, you mentioned his playstation, is it possible that there is something in one of his games that has scared him? I think that the games now are so lifelike that it's scary !!!!!

     

    Wishing you all the best >:D<<'> >:D<<'> Fiona.

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    Has anyone else the same experience.My son tends to put into his day certain amounts of "imagining" time where he runs up and down and does not want to be spoken to or interrupted. However I have noticed that he gets annoyed at me and hubby when we are talking and sometimes shouts ...STOP TALKING.......

    He is doing this more and more and if I tell him off for something he tends to have a tantrum where he grits his teeth and clenches his fists and kind of screams through his teeth.He shouts... stop talking..stop talking...

     

     

    He has even started to do his imagining at the table sometimes and if i try to speak he says "I am imagining" and I have to be quiet.From the outside you wouldn't know he was doing anything, he is just quiet.

     

    Any ideas??

    Thanks

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    I wonder whether it's the structure that helps at school. My son is as good as gold at school and they think he's just on the periphery?spelt right? But I have had to go in and explain that when he is running around at break, that it is a part of his routine (e.g running up and down the same without stopping, hopping in the same place etc) and that untill recently if his friend wanted to play he would reject them saying that he was "imagaining and didn't want to be interrupted!! Unfortunatly the day that the Autism Outreach came to monitor him was the first time in year 2 that he decided to play with anyone at break!!!!!!!

     

    Typical!! :lol:

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    Hi Daisy,

    I was also bullied at school especially high school and walked around looking at my shoes, so that I didn't offend anyone, but that made it worse. My Mum had told me never to say anything back to them or give them an excuse to bully me. But one day I flipped and that made them back off and then I was fine.

    What I wanted to say is that people do grow up and it may be that this person feels ashamed of how she treated you as Elanor said. There was someone at my school that I wasn't very nice to (now i feel awful because I didn't realise how unpleasant I was) since I have seen this person who also has Kids i always try to make the effort , not because of guilt but more because she is worth it as a person and I used to treat her as if she was worthless.

     

    Time does move us on but sometimes our emotions are slow to follow. I used to have things from my past that i couldn't even think about without feeling a huge amount of pain , but once I looked at things from other angles and realised that other people have their own pain which can cause their behaviour, I found it easier to forgive their weakness.

     

     

    Hope you find it easier soon and you don't have to be nice back to this person if you don't want to!

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    Can I whisper this?Cos I don't want everyone knowing, but......my son rules this house too and he's only 7!!!

     

    I'm trying to get some power back, but life is so exhausting sometimes to just do "normal" family things.

     

    :crying:

     

     

    You say in a different posting that your son has been fighting at school and was saying how "hard" he is etc.Is it possible that he has been bullied? It sounds like he needs to be taught different ways of dealing with his anger (i'm trying to teach my son this.) I know anger management has been mentioned on a posting recently and it can only be a good thing to recognise anger and find a different way of dealing with it.Are you getting any support as a family from anywhere? Autistic Outreach etc?

     

     

    I really hope things calm down for you all. >:D<<'>

     

     

    P.s Is it possible that he might be acting like this on purpose to get away from school?

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    >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'>

    You are having a horrible time, I know how you feel sometimes, especially about the "spoilt " bit.

    My son is 7 and ASD and if he is spitting or kicking we still have to punish him with time-out or whatever , but minutes later he can still be the same. I know that our kids have problems but there is still a limit to what we can excuse.Was your son concerned when he was sent to bed or didn't it bother him?

     

    I haven't got anything to suggest but I'm thinking of you and sending >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'>

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    Dear Lancelot,

    I really feel angry at how you and your family are being treated :angry:

    Any caterer with an ounce of brains can make a sandwich without butter, what happens is someone is vegetarian or gluten intolerate or vegan? Are they expected to eat meat etc. The answer to that is no, they adapt to dietary requirements!

     

    Your Mum is just being rude and ignorant.!

     

    And I'm sure that if your brother cannot be bothered to seat you all for a meal, after traveling so far and so long ,then he can't care that much whether you are there or not!!!

     

    I used to have a similar problem between myself and my brother. But somehow recently , something has changed and we are treated as equal. I think it had something to do with me stating that I was not going to be spoken to or treated in that way any longer and when it did happen I either left or asked my mum to leave.

     

    Your family deserve to be treated with respect and this is not respect!!!!!!!!

     

     

    Sending you some >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'>

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    We had the same problem, well it seems to happen every year with new bullies and mostly over his speech (he's 7) when it happened last year it was older boys bullying him and the way we found out who it was, was by looking at the whole school photo, he could identify who it was and it was dealt with swiftly and effectively .They were each made to write a letter to me apologising for what they had done to my son.They had to stay in at lunch time and were given no help to write it. The head teacher made them stand up in assembly and told the whole school that they had been bullying and it stopped.

     

    Now this year it is new bullies, they are boys in his class and I feel really annoyed.The school dinner ladies at lunch time are hopeless and just stand chatting to each other and my son spends all his time on the playground running up and down without stopping.

     

    The head at your son's school should take an active stance against the bullying. The fact that they are kicking him and pysically hurting him should have the Head on the warpath and if not then they are negligent.. in my opinion.

    I hope that they do something for you and your son, he shouldn't have to go through that.

    Take care >:D<<'> >:D<<'>

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    Hi, with all due respect alibaly I don't think that is the answer. We all know what the pressures and strains are on our marriage and relationships and it takes it's toll on everyone. Turning against each other is very easy to do but also very sad.We need each other and there are other steps to take. All the family need support and understanding and it sounds as though at the moment that isn't happening.

     

    Clarkie, i really hope things get a bit better soon and that you get the support you all need.

    >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'>

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    Brilliant replies thank you everyone.

     

    Valiant Skylark...Thank you those ideas are great and i never would have thought of most of them !!

    Those programs you mentioned sound just the ticket ,thanks. :thumbs:

    Thanks opooh for your ideas too. :)

     

    Canopus... My son hates being away from home, he says that school seems a long time to him. He finds writing very hard work. He dislilkes the noise on his table...the els table........he just shuts down at school and is very quiet and withdrawn.At home he is boisterous and loud so it is a real change. He isn't a problem to his teacher and she thinks he is fine but just needs reminding to do his work and not "space out". He wants to be on his own during playtime and runs around "imagining". :(

     

    Lks thanks again for your time and pointing me in the right direction for software .

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