josh coulton

I think this is what I'm trying to understand at the moment, probably a bit of both at the moment. It's a tricky one, because, with me i end up into fooling myself into fooling myself or in other words a vicious circle e.g. I think it is a viable reason that i may have AS but then think do i mean excuse instead of reason? But i read something about accepting yourself yesterday which is a very simple point and something which a previous councellor has brought up before; it is like i'm trying to hide something from people. I have felt like this for a long time and it has had unhealthy consequences. I apologise if it turns out I have never had aspergers and that I am tricking myself I also apologise for the ambiguity of my threads, some of it may appear quite incoherent!!! thx for the kind words tally

very well put. does this woman you are talking about have aspergers? did she mention anything about cognitive behavioural therapy?

Thanks, as you were talking about groups it reminded me of the fact that in some ways I had taught myself how to hand conversations over, how to know when someone is bored etc... Another question to AS people, what do you feel like when talking to someone? When I want to talk I can sometimes shoot stuff off the top of my head but then most of the time my mind is like a blank slate and this in turn can make me very anxious indeed...

I found that with my parents all I wanted for them to do was to listen and ask me why I was so badly behaved, I am not officially AS but I know that coming from a familythat may feel like they don't listen can be very hard. I would suggest listening to the problem, seeing ways he can maybe express anything that he doesn't understand and then firmly display why the things he does are wrong and also the consequences of them. I am not a parent just someone who feels like this didn't happen much when he was a kid. Hope everything works out with your son!

I found that with my parents all I wanted for them to do was to listen and ask me why I was so badly behaved, I am not officially AS but I know that coming from a familythat may feel like they don't listen can be very hard. I would suggest listening to the problem, seeing ways he can maybe express anything that he doesn't understand and then firmly display why the things he does are wrong and also the consequences of them. I am not a parent just someone who feels like this didn't happen much when he was a kid. Hope everything works out with your son!

Hi I'm 20 years old and not too sure whether I am NT or on austisitic spectrum. Like most people, I suppose I am self diagnosed, I did the test and scored 34 (not that this means much, I could've just give the right answers if you know what i mean) I'm wondering link there is, if any, between AS and anxiety/low self esteem. I have poorer self esteem than most and have had a heightened anxiety (more to do with social situations) throughout my teen years, I also have problems concentrating on things (been told I am an ADHD poster boy) but then no trouble immersing myself in very pointless activities, I talk way too loud sometimes and notice a general "worried" look on people's faces when I talk. I feel that as I've grown older my behaviour in earlier years has become unnaceptable around people (yapping on when nobody's listening ), I feel that I have never had a conscious thought on what friendship is even from a yound age, I never fitted in with my peers, how i see "most" people do (using social quips, body language). What I'm trying to say is that I realise that I could be using this as an excuse to compliment my personality, being labeled as AS etc. But was wondering if anyone knows a link to AS and anxiety/low self esteem or if anyone has experienced relatively similar. Apologies for and vagueness or ambiguity, I will gladly hear and respond to what you have to say. Thanks!!!