Spooky

The willful murder of a child (autistic or otherwise) is the most henious of all crimes. To effectivly torture a child while murdering them goes beyond henious, To torture and murder a disabled child.... Upon a guilty verdict,plug her in,I'll happily throw the switch!

Hiya Mel, Booze mixed with any kind of issues or problems can often make any given situation a lot worse. Being on the AS can make us blame a lot of things on AS that have no real relationship to it. A lot of the time trying to decide what is caused by autism and what is just simple errant or bad behaviour is very difficult. Age can also be a factor (I'm 44 and have a nice shiny 2 seater sports car when I have 3 kids and a wife at home)(we do have a family car as well) so occasionally us middle aged kids can behave a little *unusually* to say the least The house being taken over by my Lego addiction is starting to wind the wife up as well (of course the 200 Lego kits are for the kids honey not me) It may sound daft but try making light of the AS situation if you can?? it may not work for you and is not very politically correct but it can sometimes provide light relief. (my father in law refers to me as "the pleb" and the wife thinks there should be a new catagory on Who Wants to Be A Millionare called ask the spaz (I have an iq in the high 160's so often can answer most of the questions)) It can make the situation lighter and allow people to see the less serious side of being autistic. Doesn't work for everybody but it does for us best wishes Spookz

Been there that's the worst part, trying to leave it at work is like trying to get to the moon to him. He knows it's possible but just can't do it. I've learned as an adult that there are things I can't comprehend or understand and I've found the only way to deal with it is not to try. Sounds daft but it does actually work. Up until I found out what was causing it I would happily turn myself inside out (and everybody around me) looking for logical explanations or solutions even in situations where there were none possible. It does help me to understand our 6 year old (diagnosed last year) a lot better and make things easier for my wife. If your hubby wants another bloke to natter to I'm only ever a phonecall away best wishes Spook

"it is now just the anger we need to manage better." Is it anger or is there a possibility it could be frustration at not being able to comprehend situations and circumstances? or possibly read "body language"? In adults sometimes things that are not "logical" or "definable" can cause all sorts of frustration that outwardly appears to be anger. Have you broached the possibility with him that he *could* possibly be on the spectrum hiself? kind regards Spookz