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  1. I've been reading a bit about this therapy recently and wondered if anyone had any experience/knowledge good or bad! They don't really have clinics here but I apparently you can conduct the therapy yourself if you get one of these systems and the right info - I have no idea how much it is. Thanks!
  2. ...prt 2, a diagnosis that gaining. Considering I'm an adult now and have two children, if I'd been diagnosed as a child it would have made a dramatic impact on my life I feel, but now I'm not sure how much help it will be. I think it would be helpful for my parents/husband to learn a bit more about it though which may help them understand me better. Thank you for your response...

  3. Thanks for that! I'm still looking at the moment but actually the national autistic society sent me a really extensive email with lots of information and suggestions of people I could contact, it took about a month for them to respond but I was happy they did. Am now thinking I may not even go for a diagnosis, I'm not sure but I'm worried about a label being put on me and me l...

  4. part 3/ and follow ups with them and he was giving his dx. If you are unhappy with your assessment then defo ask for a second opinion and make sure its longer than an hour. No-one can ever make a dx in that time unless its soooo obvious there are probs. Simon Eltringham was the castleford psychologist that got it soooo wrong for us. Good luck with your quest. Apologies if this is soooo late lol

  5. Part 2/ or no answers and then it came to funding. We went back and was told my son didn't have anything wrong. I asked for a second opinion out of county and they suggested the same useless bloke. We fought for funding and got an appointment with Anne Le Couteur in Newcastle. My word a big difference. They sent people to my sons school and another day at our home then we had a full day wit...

  6. Hi you wanted a list or somewhere in west yorkshire I think. Well my son was sent to Castleford and Normanton hospital for dx. It was a disaster! We were given an hour and my son was only with the main psychologist for 5 mins before he went of with a nurse and just did some drawing while I was with the psychologist. He, I would say was more aspie than my son. he went down a checklist wantin...

  7. Hi, I've had bouts of depression most of my life since childhood and the anxiety has always been there too - although, in the last couple of years the anxiety is more prevelant and the depression has taken a back seat. That said, the depression was taken away totally by st Johns Wart and I haven't had depression since my son was born, (20 months ago) I think largely because I'm still breastfeeding, which can help. But as soon as I stop, I'll be back on the st johns wart again. I think the anxiety is just part of who I am unfortunately, I can't imagine not experiencing it - but it's all internal, I still manage to function and get on with things and no one is the wiser - unless I say something. But I'm on no medication for it, so wouldn't they just class that as mild? I don't see how suffering from anxiety is a good reason to turn you down. The only reason they would know is that I have mentioned the anxiety at the doctors a couple of times - but I haven'd had therapy for it or anything. My son with ASD is only four. He is high functioning - in that, he's attending a mainstream school and expected to get on and improve, his main problem is that he has a speech delay. He's at about a two and a half year old stage - speech and language wise...but more advanced in things like, numbers/puzzles etc... But we have no idea of course, how he will be in the future. We couldn't wait that long before we adopted though, my husband is quite a bit older than me.
  8. Did you ask them "why" their policy was never? That seems crazy... every individual with AS is different. The thing *I* would be most concerned about is the common mental health issues that tend to come with AS, such as anxiety depression etc and to look at those, fair enough, I understand that - but just to say they won't consider someone on the very basis they have AS, sounds as though it comes from total ignorance of the condition. It's like, they've read the list of "traits" or possible symptoms and decided: a good parent cannot have these traits, therefore they cannot be considered. I wonder if this will change as awareness of AS grows? Plenty of people deemed "successful" have AS, plenty of fantastic parents have AS, it just seems outrageous that someone could be turned down for adoption for that reason alone. We wouldn't consider going down the adoption road yet because we have two young boys - we were thinking five, seven years down the line, (to actually have one that is...so, we'd start the process a long time before that). Maybe things will be different then. I'll certainly contact my LA and see what they say.
  9. Wow... NEVER? They actually replied never?... That's interesting. I was wondering, (before I considered I had AS)...whether having an autistic child would also prevent me from adopting? I thought maybe they'd think he would take up too much of the attention/a stressful environment for the adoptive child etc etc? But I haven't enquired about it.
  10. I think it's a real shame if there IS a problem. Of course, even with AS, there is a spectrum...and I understand that some people with AS may not make great adoptive parents, (just like people in the regular population). But I hope they judge the individual and don't just see the disability. There are so many children who need adopting...I think I'd be much more prepared to take on a child with ASD because I have experience and I do consider myself a good parent, despite any struggles I may have. I don't think they should put up too many barriers to stop people adopting just because they don't fit some idealistic stereotype - I hope it's not like that - even parents who appear "perfect" may not be that way at all. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. I just hope they'll be able to see my strengths.
  11. Hi! That is good to know. Thank you!! Natalie
  12. Hi, I have no idea about the answers to these questions - but I feel there is a prejudice there about AS. I have two children, one who is one the spectrum. As a family, we have long discussed the possibility that one day, we would like to adopt a child. Maybe one with additional needs also. I have also considered registering as a childminder recently because there is no childcare currently available in my area, (apparently) and I feel many childminders have a problem taking on an autistic child, if they have no experience, (although my child is a passive non-aggressive sort). Also, I'm looking to go into social work and childminding, especially things like respite care, which I'm interested in too, will provide me with relevant experience. I have recently considered seeking diagnosis for AS, because I want to share my experiences and help other women. I feel a diagnosis in childhood would have saved me a lot of soul searching and suffering - I would have made quite different choices. My concern is, if I get a diagnosis of AS: -would this in any way impact on me being able to adopt in future? - would it impact on me getting registered as a childminder? In the second case, they require the doctor to say whether you are "fit" for the job, you have to disclose any mental health issues etc - for example, I do suffer quite high anxiety and have bouts of depression. That said, I am not on medication for the anxiety and I haven't been on antidepressants for five years - these things are crippling to the point that I can't be a mother, (I have two children) or that I can't look after another child perfectly well. A lot of my anxiety is internal, I don't verbalise and often will appear to be totally ok. Anyway, if anyone has any idea about this - I'd appreciate help!
  13. I had to have grommets put in my ear...which I don't think they do so much these days.
  14. I just read this and wondered how others related: http://www.pathfindersforautism.org/articleItem.aspx?id=26 It's not specifically female, but I related still do a lot of it. I think many of my "traits" became more obvious in adolesence however, that seems more common for girls. Then it was quite a downward spiral because I found everything so confusing and had such low self-esteem. I also had lots of ear infections in childhood, (it mentions many AS children have many ear infections in childhood). I wondered if that was the case for other women here?
  15. yes, awareness seems to be growing so hopefully women will start finding it easier to be diagnosed now. I just read this article about asperger's and I found it so accurate, even though it wasn't specifically female. It was about traits as children - through childhood. Very interesting - but I can't find it. Will probably post here when I have.
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