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    this is all well and good but everyone should be able to add there 2 cents on a situation, even if you may not know much about it. just my opinion though.

     

    Indeed, everyone should have the freedom (and be encouraged) to post their 2-cents but some will only post when they have something to say whilst others lurk and say nothing (yet they do have the freedom of choice to post). Unfortunately there are some that just come on and vent their anger at the rest of us. And of course... there's agony uncles like you Warrior who say what you think and give us all a laugh :cheers:

     

    And I'm self-training to become an agony mentor too :lol: :lol:

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    He has selective hearing and today decided he didn't want to participate in the test. But they did put a probe in his ears to check if his ear drums are vibrating correctly and there perfectly fine.

     

    This isn't very telling. This is just to see if there is any fluid in his ears (which would raise a red flag) but as you say, this was fine. But this does not give any other information.

     

    Did he have this test done in a specialised paediatric hearing centre by an audiologist? If so, what other test(s) were carried out/attempted? Or was this done at your local hospital ENT department?

     

    Of course, it can be very difficult for a 2-year old to sit still but given the right environment and skilled audiologists, they should be able to obtain some kind of test result

     

    Let me know and I can give you some further advice... :)

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    Hi In Exile and welcome

     

    I too think I am level-headed and normally only post when something interests me (or really irritates me) where I have first hand experience. I try not to ramble or post rubbish unless I'm having a banter (which a few people will know).

     

    It took me a while to get the flavour of this forum but hope I have made a few friends on here. I try not to be rude or condenscending either as I wouldn't like it directed at me

     

    I too live in London and enjoy photography.

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    Personally, I feel bullying (and how to deal with it in school and the workplace) should be a topic - though I won't upset anyone by saying it should be the next topic.

     

    I think in this present climate, jobs are a premium and job security is at a low. I think this would highlight some of the weaknesses in people with AS - especially those that feel bullied or taken advantage of

     

    Please Warrior, put this on the list :notworthy

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    This made me smile. Thanks for posting. This reminds me of something I wrote in my memoirs some time back.

     

    In the duck pond in my local park, there used to be a Chinese goose. It was the only one on the lake. It had a strange bump on the front of its head and I had never seen anything like it. It was a bit vicious at times and the other geese, ducks, swans avoided it. The Chinese goose was indeed a loner and just could not make any friends. Then one day it died.

     

    A few weeks later, another Chinese goose took its place (just a little late for the first one). This one was more docile but because it looked different from the other birds, it couldn't make any friends either. But one day, I saw it swimming on the lake with some ducklings in tow. The mother duck was close by keeping a watchful eye but the ducklings were following this Chinese goose. I tried to think what was going through the mind of this Chinese goose. Had it really made friends with the mother duck and her children? Could he long to become a "stepfather"?

     

    I used to think perhaps I was like the Chinese goose. As I looked "different" from the masses, they couldn't accept me and therefore I couldn't make friends. For many, many years, I struggled to find my niche in society.

     

    I suppose it is like we all have the same colours of the rainbow but these are arranged differently. We all have the same genetic code but the letters are arranged differently. But although we all have neuronal wiring, the connections are different. Perhaps I was a "Friday afternoon job"...

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    In many walks of employment, voluntary redundancy is a no-no as it involves a fairly large payout in one go depending on how long that employee has been with the firm. Any many employers cannot afford to make such a payout. Some would not even want to and if a person walks out/hands in their notice then no redundancy payment needs to be paid by the employer. Imagine employee "X" who has worked for company "Y" for 20 years. If that employer was to make person "X" redundant (or they accepted voluntary redundancy), the statutary payment would be about a week for every year of service - or in some cases, one month's pay for every year of service. That soon mounts up and many employers (such as social services) simply cannot afford this.

     

    In this climate, I would count yourself lucky you still have a job to go to. I would bite the bullet, see this as a new challenge and move on. It is hard leaving colleagues but you will make new friends.

     

    If you fight this, your present employer could possibly fire you (with no pay) for not disclosing your condition.

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    Yes, I'm sure you know this is one of the side effects of your meds but I do worry that if you increase the dosage, these hallucinations will worsen (along with the other things I mentioned in your other post) Try not to dwell on these dark thoughts and see if you can think of nice things. Perhaps you have too much time on your hands (i.e. having more time to allow these thoughts to enter your head), why not do other things that you enjoy and think of the lovely children that you work with. But keeping these thoughts to yourself is not healthy so feel free to PM me if you don't want to post them publicly

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    Finished work now so back at home now with a proper answer to Warrior's question

     

    There are days when I might represent 0 (i.e. fully NT) and other days when I may hit 7 - 8...and a couple of times...a 10!

     

    it really depends on several factors: mainly whether I have had enough sleep and whether I am prepared for the coming day. Plus my mood and confidence level.

     

    For example, every few months, I have to train junior doctors in my specialised field and because I am very confident in what I am telling them, I can register 0 on Warrior's Aspie scale. And this is predictable (i.e. every few months) so I can plan accordingly and I know the juniors won't be judgemental (or that's the impression I get).

     

    But if I had to go into a room full of strangers and give a lecture on something I don't know enough about or...unplanned, sudden group activity with a group of strangers (or sometimes even people I know) that I didn't feel confident about then I could score the full 10.

     

    Some of you might remember I went on a course a few months back and at one point, I had near enough a total meltdown (so 10 on Warrior's scale). Plus at coffee break, all the delegates were chatting amongst themselves - except me who felt like the proverbial gooseberry - so again, the full 10 on Warrior's scale.

     

    So there are various factors to consider...

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    I wonder what "20% disabled means".

     

    To me, this is meanlingless...I would want to know further details about this poor girl's deafness. Unilateral deafness causes many problems and I'm a bit fed up of people saying "well you still have another ear - you'll be fine".

     

    On the one hand, I am very pleased that the vaccine control people have admitted liability but I feel very sorry for this girl.

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    This is precisely why I am observing and learning ASD (and related disorders) in my clinic, emphasising with parents and dealing with such patients more sensitively because many of the doctors do not understand or have the time to understand.

     

    The problem is in an A&E department, staff do not have the time to "take stock" of a person's condition...they are there to save life. They would not be told anything about the patient apart from the condition they are brought in with

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    Potholes in the road

     

    People who deliberately feign medical conditions for financial gain

     

    People who can't be bothered to work and expect everything off the state (I do NOT include people who are unable to work)

     

    People walking along the pavement engrossed on their mobile phones and not looking where they are going

     

    Cyclists who wear earphones whilst on the road (and therefore not paying attention for their own or other's safety)

     

    I wait for ages for a photo only for it to be screwed by the only cloud in the sky the moment I have to take the picture

     

    Bus brakes

     

    Sitting on a train on a long journey with no ventilation or aircon

     

    Call centres when I have a complaint

     

    My mobile phone company badgering me every few hours to flog me some deal and coming up with some lame excuse when I ask them to send me the details in writing

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    Us Dads are often written off, but mostly, dads prefer not to communicate very well regarding 'feelings' and 'coping'. It may just mean women prefer to talk more :)

     

    I "want" to talk to my daughter about her feelings etc but she is not forthcoming - even to her mother.

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